Video Transcript: Who is an Officiating Chaplain?
Henry - welcome. I'm Henry Reyenga, the founder of Christian leaders Institute, and with me is chaplain, Reverend Tom Wolcott, and we are excited about doing the officiating Chaplain skills class. And Tom and I go way back, back to 1983 I am a first year seminary at Calvin Theological Seminary. My wife is working at a nursing home next door. I'm there at six o'clock. I get coffee, I get donuts. And entering in the morning is, Tom, he's a student. And why were you in the coffee shop so early.
Tom - Tom Well, because I needed to get coffee, I had a whole day of studies ahead of me, and if I didn't have my coffee, I was not not worth much. And that was also my favorite place in seminary. Was the coffee shop where all the people were,
Henry - and it was fun. And I remember you as being one who loved to chat about the Lord in ministry. So then you actually went on to graduate from Calvin seminary that next year. Yeah, even though you weren't in the library that
Tom - much, not as much as some thought I should have been okay, Henry - but you did well.
Tom - I got through and surprised everybody.
Henry - Okay, so then tell us what happened next. You then tell us how chaplaincy got into your life and all of that.
Tom - Well, after seminary, my wife and I were missionaries in the Dominican Republic for six years. Loved that work and just a life changing experience. After that, I took a call to a church in Jacksonville, Florida, which is a big Navy town. Jacksonville is so we had a lot of Navy families in our church, and they would talk to me about the challenges of military life and would encourage me to consider being a Navy chaplain. We were a little skeptical at first, because that's a big shift in ministry, but we decided to try the Navy Reserves for a couple years. Did that, found it to be fulfilling. And then the Navy came calling and said, We really need you to go on active duty for at least one three year tour. And so we prayed about it. Our kids were old enough to be part of that process. And said, Okay, Lord, we'll give it a shot. Did that, and then after the three years, did another three years, and then another three years. And 28 years later, we retired from 26 years of active duty and two years of reserve time.
Henry - Wow, now you thrived in as a military chaplain, so you actually went through that whole process of that 30 years and you got it, what? What did you do it in the military as a chaplain,
Tom - how many hours do we have to talk about, you know, we want to get well, what I what I really, I really felt that chaplaincy was a great fit, because you do so many different things. You do the same things that a normal parish pastor will do, but you do a lot of other things. I The biggest difference that I found from moving from being a pastor of a church to being a chaplain is that when I was the pastor of a church, I would interact with people in my congregation on Sunday mornings, Wednesday nights, and if there was a crisis in somebody's life, in the military, you are with your people, your flock, all the time. You go where they go. You eat, where they eat. You sleep, where they sleep. And you are a part of their life, every aspect of their life. So whereas in my church, which I enjoyed, almost everybody was already a believer and had been a Christian for many years in the military. The vast majority of the people in my flock, if you will, were not Christians or had very, very little impact any connection with Christians, and never if they had a problem, would they have said, I'm going to go call a pastor and go talk to him about my marriage. But in the military, they know that that's what chaplains are there for. So people would come and talk to me about a whole range of things, much beyond, way beyond the realm of religion and theology and doctrine. But when they would come to talk to me about their financial problems or their problems with their children, or their problems with their marriage or their boss, then we could also talk about the Bible and what the Bible says about those things.
Henry - You know, it's interesting. The word parish is was now kind of an organizing place for the Catholic Church, where they have parishes and so forth. But in the early church, the parish meant a soldier. It was a place where you would get embedded and interesting people did not necessarily know that you were a Christian, you were embedded. And then out of those parishes, Christianity started spreading. And eventually Christianity reached critical mass. And then the Catholic Church organized their entire church ministry around parishes, but the original was a soldier, so Okay, and we think of that here at Christian leaders Institute, that when someone's called a chaplaincy, they may be a ministry chaplain. We're going to talk about that. They may be a chaplain in a motorcycle group. They may they may be become a career chaplain, like you did and actually got a master's degree. But in a lot of ways, what you're talking about is that old understanding of parish, like you're called to a soldier, and you are actually with the people.
Tom - You get plugged into that community. You become part of that community. One of the difficulties of military chaplaincy is you only have two or three years to become a part of that community before you get moved somewhere else. So you need to be very intentional about becoming involved, getting to know people, becoming a part of the culture, and understanding the history of whatever unit you happen to be working with, because every place is unique. And I think that was one of the things I really liked about chaplaincy, is there was a lot of unique opportunities depending on where you worked, what kind of people you were working with. And it was sort of, in a good sense, like a new adventure every two or three years.
Henry - So many of you are called into ministry, and specifically called to be embedded in your communities as chaplains. And this class is, in a lot of ways, that intro to chaplaincy, where we're going to talk about these, some skills that are common to really, all chaplains, no matter how far you might go in your training and whether you someday become a career chaplain. So in a lot of ways, it's still at the seed. It's this soul journey. It's coming in and being embedded. In a lot of ways, it's sort of like this, isn't it. It's sort of like for many people. How it works is you may be the only Minister someone ever meets.
Tom - And one advantage that that folks like you're referring to here being embedded have is they may have been a part of that community for most of their lives, if not all of their lives. So they know the resources there, they know the people there, they know the culture there. And so they step into their role as a chaplain with a whole lot of background that people like military chaplains don't have, because we're stepping in somewhere new when we go somewhere new. So there's an advantage to being embedded in that community and having been in that community for a long time,
Henry - you may be the only Minister someone ever meets. And here's some of the applications in a hospital hallway, at a memorial or a home dedication at a recovery graduation, let's say somebody on your part, embedded with an AA group. And you're a chaplain there. You know, you may be the chaplain that, basically, you know, does the ceremony of the one year, you know, coin that someone receives. And here's something I'd love you to comment on. They need presence, not perfection. They need you. You are a minister in moments that
Tom - matter, I like all three of those, but especially, they need presence, not perfection. I could tell you way many more stories than we have time for but times when I've walked into a situation and my first thought was, Lord, I don't have a clue what I'm supposed to do here. This is way beyond anything I ever
trained for, anything I have any experience with. But I've also found that the times when people have later said to me, your presence was very impactful. It made a difference. It had nothing to do with what I did or didn't say. It had everything to do with that. In that time of crisis, in that time of need, in that time of chaos, I showed up and I represented something much bigger than Tom Walcott walking into a room. So when you walk into a room with Chaplin on your shirt or on your title you come with, you're given access to people that they would not give to other people, because they, even if they're not people of faith, they have an idea of what a chaplain is about, and ministry of presence is the most important Part of chaplaincy. Wow.
Henry - Well, let's talk about the officiating Chaplain role. So essentially, the officiating Chaplain role is about being trained to bring sacred meaning. There's an ordination piece. We'll talk about this throughout this class, serving and. Public institutional spaces, hospitals, jails, auxiliary settings, VFWs, recovery clinics, civic ceremonies, clubs, teams, like sports teams, need based locations. So as you look at define this role to you, see the essence as bringing the presence
Tom - to bringing the but the presence of God into a place where most people would not naturally see that. In addition to my military chaplaincy, I served as a volunteer fire department chaplain. Oh, wow, volunteer so
Henry - you understand these various Chaplain roles.
Tom - I was offered the opportunity, and I couldn't do it, to be a chaplain for a major league baseball team. You know, you don't think of a major league baseball team or even a college team as a place of ministry, but there you have people who are going to have crises. They're going to have situations. They're not going to know who to turn to. They don't have a pastor who comes to mind to go to, and then they're going to see you and recognize that because of who you are and the fact that you are there with them, you're part of them, you're one of them. You're a safe person to talk to.
Henry - You know, it's all interesting at Christian leaders Institute Tom, we have chaplains. And some of the interesting spots where chaplains are invited, inspires me, we have one woman, for instance, who went through the journey of being trafficked, and now in her mid 30s, at CLI is training to be a chaplain for people that are coming out of that industry, and even a chaplain at strip clubs where the owners allow a chaplain in. So here she has this journey. She can bring water, she can share Bible passages, even in a place like that,
Tom - and especially if you can bring your experience into that kind of a setting that makes a huge difference, because people are going through something, and they say, you know, nobody's ever had to face this before or right, nobody understands me. And if you're able to show that you understand, either from your studies or especially from your experience, you have an immediate connection with people that you just can't You can't buy.
Henry - You know, I was thinking about something, you know, just thinking about these clubs, whether it's a baseball team, or whether it's a professional Chaplain thing, if you look at it, where's that calling come from, like, for you personally, as you look at that, where, like you mentioned something like the experience, like a woman who was trafficked, who now has been transformed by Christ, who's now reaching that connection. There's something deep about being a chaplain.
Tom - Oh, yeah. And then, you know, you talked about sacred meaning, the word, you know, Chaplain, in its history, the chaplain was the person who guarded the sacred things. And so when we as chaplains walk into a room, even if we're not conscious of it, maybe especially if we're not conscious of it, we are the guardians of the sacred things. And part of that is we show people a way to have access to God that they've never considered before.
Henry - So you bring access to God in places that are unexpected.
Tom - Oh, absolutely. You know a ship in the middle of the ocean, the locker room of a baseball team, a VFW meeting down the street, a motorcycle club, a motorcycle club, a college baseball team, Fire Department. Oh, Fire Department. And it's especially in people's time of crisis that they're looking for someone to help them navigate it, and you're there.
Henry - It's like someone closes their eyes at night and they are in crisis, and they wake up and they don't know what to do, and they come to this space, and unexpectedly, it's like, you know, an angel shows up.
\Tom - Nobody's ever called me an angel. To my knowledge,
Henry - you know, again, I'm used as a metaphor, yes, but it's like they don't expect that to be true. And then God opens that door.
Tom - And I can't tell you how many times over the decades, people have said to me, I never would have thought to go talk to a minister or a priest or a pastor about this, but you're here, and we have access. When I was a pastor, like I
mentioned, I couldn't go to where people worked and just go talk to them and have a cup of coffee with them at work. But as a chaplain, you're you're part of that group, you are one of the team, and you have access to people in a way that most ministers would would love to have with their parishioners, but they they don't have that.
Henry - So we have what's called ministry sciences around here. This is sort of our term that we talk about, how do we the Biblical Studies? Then we're going to talk about ministry training. And we call it ministry sciences, because we study this study the science of ministry. But we also welcome in other disciplines, so we so there's Christian psychology, we welcome Christian psychology. We welcome Christian sociology. We welcome the study of business. We study all these things in a lot of ways. Chaplains to be effective, means you're pretty interdisciplinary. In that sense, you have to come in and be appropriate. So you have to know what the boundaries are. You have to study people, smart, all of those things. So ministry sciences teaches such things as ministry training is needed, officiating chaplaincy for needed places. So we study that officiating mediates sacred meaning. We study that ministry is showing up for the hurting. You carry the presence into public life. And in some ways, chaplaincy is not just about getting a certificate. It's not getting a chaplain hat. It really is about studying how to be appropriate, to bring the presence of God into a specific area. Appropriate is very important. And I know when I was studying to get ready to do this class with you, I was surprised how much study and chaplaincy go together.
Tom - And you like you pointed out it's very important that it's appropriate. So if I'm going into a fire station to talk to firemen who've just had a difficult call, that's going to be very different than if I am going to a hospital to visit the family of someone who's dying, which is going to be very different than if I'm asked to do a prayer at the community Fourth of July ceremony. You need to know what's the appropriate type of ministry for that that specific situation. And every situation is different. And it takes some study. Not only you know we talk about, well, what does the Bible say, and all these things which are certainly important, but you need to know the organization that you're part of. And you need to know what the needs are of that organization, who the people are. And going back to when we met, the way you get to know the needs of people are, sit down, have a cup of coffee, sojourn, ask them about their family. Find ways that you can connect, and you let them know that we're in this together.
Henry - Wow, that's so amazing. And you mentioned the Bible. There are biblical models in the Bible that you can check out. Check out the book of
Daniel. Here's a guy, Daniel. He served in secular places. If you think about Daniel, just what do you think about a guy like Daniel?
Tom - I think that he was a person who, against his will, was brought to a completely foreign country, a completely different world and life view, but he learned enough about where he was so that he could take the faith that he had been raised with, that he had grown up with, and he could find a way for the two of them to coexist. And he did it in such a way that he let's, let's take the country he was brought to as his institution that he was serving. He became an invaluable member of that institution, because he understood them, and he became as much of them as he could, up until the point he couldn't anymore. And then he said, this is this is what I can do, and this is what I can't do. And they respected him because of his integrity, and they allowed him to stay true to his faith.
Henry - You know, in so many parts of Daniel's life will be taught in this class, because we're going to talk very specifically, where's that line, like, where do you do you say in Jesus name at a civic prayer? Or not? We're talking about the there's some discussion about that. We're going to talk about, how long do you stay at a meeting, you know, where? Like, okay, like, I know I sort of feel like a country club chaplain, because I'm a huge golfer, so I'm out there, and I've now done funerals and weddings and all that. There's that certain point where you they want to suck you in people who and then you gotta where's your line? I mean, all those things take careful thought. And the military have probably has that as well.
Tom - Oh, absolutely. And how you what? What you don't realize at the time is maybe that interaction you have with somebody which just seemed like we were just chatting. Then a week later, it turns out to be a very important interaction, because you're helping that person with some of the biggest issues of their life, and if you hadn't had that initial conversation or that we just happened to run into each other in the parking lot and chat, that next step of ministry wouldn't have been possible. So like, what meetings do you go to? What training do you participate in? How much do you integrate into the organization? And we all, especially our volunteer chaplains, here, have a lot of other things in their lives too. So how do you figure out the balance between your day job, if you're you're at that stage of life, and your volunteer commitments, and your family, how do you find a way to make those all fit together? And sometimes that's pretty challenging.
Henry - Well, in the case of Daniel, he truly was, in the sense, like in the institution of the Persian government, okay, he was like, high up of there, and
yet he had another hat, and it mirrors echoes the chaplain for today, but the Apostle Paul is he's more like that soul journeying model, where he's taking it to places all over the Roman Empire. And he always had a sort of unexpectedness to him, we go to the, you know, Areopagus, and now he's like talking to the Greek philosophers. Yeah. So how do you think about Paul
Tom - when you mentioned him going to foreign spaces in the Navy, when you go to a ship, we talk about visiting the spaces, because ships are broken up into spaces. So that jumped out at me. So in one of my jobs as a Navy chaplain, I would fly to a different ship almost every week, and I would spend a day or two on that ship getting to know those people, but then leaving now, Paul stayed a little longer than one or two days, but sometimes you're going to have the chance to build long relationships with people, and sometimes you're not. Sometimes it's going to be one and done, and you're never going to see those people again. And so you have to decide ahead of time, what is the purpose of this visit, what would I like to convey? But most importantly, how am I going to be sensitive to what people need from me, and sometimes, as people in ministry of any kind, we're very focused on bringing what we think people need. Paul was great at looking at the community he was in, and taking things from that community and relating his message to that community. And I think that's an essential skill of a ministry. Skill of chaplaincy is the ability to take the things that you know that community will benefit from, but you apply it in a way that it makes sense to those people. And that really does
Henry - bring us to this next point that you're introducing, and that's this concept of interpreter of sacred moments. So talk about that a little bit.
Tom - One of the things that that I believe firmly throughout my years as an active duty chaplain, and now I'm a volunteer chaplain with the Coast Guard Auxiliary Chaplain program, is that my job is to bring the sacred wherever I go. And it's almost as if you know every step I take, that step becomes sacred, not because Tom's there, but because God is there, right? And I certainly believe God is there. So how do I bring that sense of the spiritual, the sacred, that sense of God into everything I do, whether it's a child dedication or baptism ceremony, maybe it's praying at a retirement ceremony, maybe it's helping people understand that what they're doing isn't just a way to earn a paycheck, but it's a calling that God has given them and Something that they're doing, not just to get a promotion, not just to move up the ranks, but to fulfill God's calling in their life, and how they can redeem the situation that they find themselves in, even though it often seems to be very broken while they're in the middle of dealing with that. So we make those moments sacred, because God is with us, and wherever God is is sacred and holy place.
Henry - So one of the things my wife and I do, sometimes we can't sleep because we're so excited about something, we'll plan some, like, Bible tapes, but there's like, one of these applications is like Emily, who talks real slow. So one of the stories we've. Into many times, is the story of Abraham and Sarah and Sarai. Abram, Sarai, and there, there's that. Then it goes to the part where Hagar, you know, is like, treated poorly by Sarai. And finally, she goes out into the wilderness, and she's pregnant alone, and it's as if God sends a chaplain, an angel. And the key issue that comes is she's noticed the God who sees, the God who sees and and I often feel that as I've studied chaplaincy, and I've been practicing it as a volunteer now, in the golf setting, the team setting, is it? It's like when all of a sudden they feel noticed. Someone feels noticed by God,
Tom - that person who represents the sacred noticed me and cares about me. And then, you know, a lot of institutions that have chaplains, can be very lonely places for people. I served on a Navy ship that had 5500 people. It's it is very possible to be very lonely on a ship surrounded by 1000s of people, because you're just another person in uniform, another person doing a job. Many institutions are very, very dehumanizing. We don't call people Tom we don't we don't call them by their name. We call them by their job, and that's where they get their value from their job. When we look at people and we see them as individuals, that makes a huge difference. When I was on the aircraft carrier, I had one sailor who came to see me every week. He would make an appointment and come to see me. And after about three weeks where we didn't really talk about anything of note, I said to him, and I don't remember what his name was, we'll say it was Joe. Said, Joe, I am glad to have you come and talk to me. But what's this about? And he said, I just need to know once in a while that there's somebody who sees me as a person and cares about me as a person. Yeah, God who sees and we can be God's representative in helping people know that they are seen in a very lonely place otherwise.
Henry - So we're going to wrap up this first session just a couple of things, some housekeeping, sort of, as you someone's into this class, kind of give some overview things that this class is going to look at. And this class is going to look at such things as biblical or nation, like chaplains are ordained. So there is a spiritual affirmed. This is a study based program. We talked before about study based this is a relate, relationally rooted program, meaning that to be ordained, people have to know you, see you, even endorse you. It's, it's a publicly recognized program. So there will be, like, a profile that you will have so the people see you. So if, if you are a very private person who doesn't want to get into the community, probably chaplaincy is not your thing. It is probably that. Probably not and with CLA and or CLI and CLA, you're trained, endorsed,
officially credential, enlisted in the clergy directory. Now I say all this now because you're not going to do all this study if, essentially, is some private thing you're going to do. This is about legitimacy. This is about saying I am called into this. So I want you to reflect a little bit on like we both did a lot of study, and now even in volunteer roles, we're advocating study legitimacy. Why is that so important, especially with people who don't know God?
Tom - Well, one, one of the reasons that first comes to mind is that when people come to you with issues, part of them just wants to be heard, but they also expect that we have something that they need, and we don't have that because, well, maybe has it because he's brilliant, but Tom doesn't have it because of my brilliance. I have it because I've spent a lot of time studying right, and I've tried to learn as much as I can on a wide variety of topics, because you never know what somebody is going to need when they walk in the door, right? So you want to be prepared. You want to have at least some knowledge of the things that you can expect people will come to you, and many of them are common everywhere. People have issues with their kids, with their relationships, with their finances, with their boss, and you can bring a Christian perspective to those things. And so you have to be able to give them some reason that they will pay attention to what you say,
Henry - and I notice and reflect on that. Please. Tom like. I've noticed too, like to believers, credentials in showing that you have studied for this aren't as important. But to nonbelievers, or people who don't know anything about Christianity, in that that chaplain, knowing that there's a credential, there's a study, is important. And I noticed that again and again, like, if without, you know, I have my little Reverend card and all of that, and they know I've studied and all of that, some people just unsolicited walk up to me because they know that. Here's the guy who took this serious. You know, my soul is in the balance. I'm just not going to talk to my buddy. I'm going to talk to someone who's actually studied
Tom - and most people, even if they're not people of practicing faith, will have heard of a chaplain. Yes, the idea of Chaplain is not foreign to most people. They know that hospitals have chaplains, hospices have chaplains. Civic organizations have chaplains. You go to almost any function, and there will be the participation of a chaplain. So they may not know everything about chaplaincy, but okay, this person, he or she is a chaplain, they have some something behind them. You know, for us, one of the main things would be the calling, but we also have some training, and we have some certification that shows that we we know how to avoid doing harm, and we're going to do the best amount of good we can possibly do.
Henry - And so essentially, as you think about finishing this class, who can be an officiating chaplain? Well, those called to serve outside the church. Just to be clear, our lay I like to call that volunteer, but this is kind of like the restoring the word lay into the volunteer. But many of you would understand yourself as you know, I want to serve in lay ministry. There can be then volunteer lay chaplains. That's in, like, auxiliary would they be called in the military often, you know, that type of thing, part time. Some people actually receive part time work for their chaplaincy. Work in, like, fire departments, we've noticed. But there's also, could be a bi vocational ministers. There's even chaplaincy career paths now, again, that's something further down the line we'll talk about later in this class, maybe somebody you've already served in jails, shelters, VFWs, and then you get asked, or schools and but again, it's that core want to officiate in sacred places. So as we conclude here, I think we're clear. This is what this class is going to be about, and we're going to talk about the principles about that. So I guess the concluding challenge would be things like this. You know, have you been asked to pray in a moment that matters? I mean, reflect on that some people, they don't even know they're chaplains, but they are sort of people see them that way.
Tom - And I would also too, have you been asked? Have I would also add, have you ever thought someone should be offering a prayer right now, or is God asking me to Okay? And because most of the people in that room are not thinking, I feel like somebody should pray. If you're feeling like somebody should offer a prayer now, that certainly could be the Holy Spirit saying to you, I think you're you're that person.
Henry - Walk through grief or joy with someone a soldier. That's a parish idea. You're not just a helper. You're a minister. You are an officiating chaplain and training. So really it is walking in a journey and having that sense of calling. So let's conclude by that sense of calling. What are some of the things that you've noticed in working with now chaplains for decades that really show you that they have that fire in their belly again.
Tom - So many, so many things pop into my head. But one of the things is, in chaplaincy, like in any other kind of ministry, you're going to go through very difficult times. Okay? You're going to go through times that are emotionally painful, sometimes physically difficult, spiritually difficult. If you don't have a firm sense that God called you to that place at that time, it's going to be very, very difficult to do what you need to be able to do. You know, military chaplains, that's an easy example. We get sent away for a year more at a time from our families. Wow, when I've had to do that, if I was not convinced that God had called me to
that, there's no way I would have gotten on that plane and waved goodbye to my small children who were watching. I just couldn't have done it. But knowing that I was called to that even though I didn't like it, that was part of the calling. So having the calling helps you through those difficult times.
Henry - And I can just imagine that no matter what sojourn, what parish, Chaplain, parish you have, what particular people group you have, there are those moments. I mean, if you were, let's say we mentioned earlier, woman who was came out of trafficking, trafficked, did and now is ministering to those who are being in that industry. You have to really know who you are. Some maybe could get caught back up into that. So you have to have an accountability group. I mean, again, we're gonna talk about, you know, that type of like self care accountability, because being a chaplain is not necessarily easy.
Tom - No, it's when you say, not necessarily, I can say, clearly, it is
Henry - not easy. Okay, so you can. You have to really be called and grounded and have your own personal walk with the Lord strong.
Tom - And to me, what was all it's always important that I have that calling. But I also am very connected to a local church. I have a group of people who are praying for me, a group of people who support me, who hold me accountable. And it's not just Tom's The Lone Ranger out there, which is sometimes a danger with chaplains, that's a very good point. I can go do my own thing. Nobody cares if I'm at the VFW. I can do whatever I want, and they'll be fine with it. You need to have people who you can talk to about what am I going to do? Why am I doing this? How should I be using my time and get guidance from other people who hold you accountable, just in a very positive way, not to just keep you from not doing dumb things, but to help you be creative in doing the positive things that God wants you to do there.
Henry - This is going to be an exciting class, and we just now started scratching the surface, and I pray. I'm going to offer a prayer at the end of this class that the Holy Spirit does something in your heart that puts that fire in you if you are called to be a chaplain. Let's pray, Oh Lord God, thank you so much that we're beginning this class. We pray, Lord, that you will open our hearts and our minds and just be so receptive to the training. We ask you this in Jesus name amen, amen. So until next time