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The Doctrine of Godly Living

Introduction

The gospel is never limited to the forgiveness of sins or the assurance of salvation—it also calls us into a new way of life. To belong to Christ means to be transformed by Him, both inwardly by the Spirit and outwardly in how we live. Christian discipleship is not abstract theory or private belief; it is embodied obedience, touching every area of life: how we order our marriages and families, how we walk with God day by day, and how we love Him and our neighbors in community.

The Statement of Faith of Christian Leaders Institute and Alliance summarizes this calling in simple yet profound words:

“Marriage and family: sexual intimacy is for marriage only. Marriage is a lifelong union of a man and a woman. God’s covenant addresses not only individuals but also their families.
Walking with God: we need daily conversations with God through Bible reading and prayer. God calls us to a life of love, as depicted in the Ten Commandments.”

This confession points us to three central features of godly living:

1. Marriage and Family as Covenant
   God designed marriage as a covenantal, lifelong, and generational union between a man and a woman. This covenant provides the foundation for family life, and family itself becomes a sphere of discipleship where faith, love, and godliness are nurtured across generations.

2. Walking Daily with God
   Discipleship is relational. God calls His people into daily communion through Scripture and prayer, a rhythm of conversation with Him that shapes identity, sustains faith, and guides decision-making. Walking with God is not occasional but ongoing, a daily pattern of listening and responding to His Word.

3. A Life of Love Shaped by God’s Commands
   True godliness expresses itself in love—love for God and love for neighbor. This love is not vague sentiment but concrete obedience, summarized in the Ten Commandments and fulfilled in Christ’s call to love God with all our heart, soul, mind, and strength, and to love our neighbor as ourselves (Matthew 22:37–39).

Together, these truths form a vision of godly living that is covenantal, relational, and ethical: covenantal in marriage and family, relational in walking with God daily, and ethical in living a life of love ordered by God’s will.

God’s Design for Marriage

Biblical Foundation

Marriage is not a cultural invention or social convenience; it is a divine institution woven into creation itself. Jesus summarized its meaning by quoting Genesis:

“At the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’ and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” (Matthew 19:4–6)

From this text and the broader witness of Scripture, several truths emerge:

1. Divine Institution: Marriage is God’s creation, not a human invention. It precedes the fall, making it part of God’s original design for human flourishing (Genesis 2:18–24).

2. Male and Female Complementarity: God designed marriage as a union of man and woman. Their complementarity reflects both biological reality and theological symbolism—the joining of difference into unity.

3. Lifelong Covenant: Marriage is intended to be permanent, dissolvable only in rare cases of covenant violation such as sexual unfaithfulness (Matthew 19:9). Divorce is permitted in Scripture but never celebrated; reconciliation and restoration remain the goal.

4. Exclusive Intimacy

   Sexual intimacy is a holy gift from God, reserved for the covenant of marriage. From creation onward, Scripture portrays sex not as casual or recreational, but as an expression of the “one flesh” union of husband and wife (Genesis 2:24; Matthew 19:5). Within marriage, it is an act of love, fidelity, and covenant renewal; outside of marriage, it becomes distorted and destructive.

   The Bible consistently condemns sexual sin as contrary to God’s design:

   • Fornication (porneia): Any sexual activity outside of marriage (1 Thessalonians 4:3).

   • Adultery: Betrayal of the marriage covenant (Exodus 20:14; Matthew 5:27–28).

   • Homosexual practice: Rejection of God’s male-female design for marriage (Romans 1:26–27; 1 Corinthians 6:9).

   • Pornography and lust: Sexual desire detached from covenant love, reducing people to objects (Matthew 5:28).

   Paul warns clearly:

   “Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit… You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies.” (1 Corinthians 6:19–20)

   Sexual holiness is not optional; it is a vital part of discipleship and worship.

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   Theological Reflection

   God designed sexual intimacy as a covenantal bond that unites husband and wife and reflects His own covenant love for His people (Ephesians 5:31–32). Faithfulness in intimacy mirrors Christ’s faithfulness to the church. This covenantal framework makes sense of both marriage and singleness:

   • In marriage: Intimacy expresses fidelity, love, and openness to life, reinforcing the covenant between husband and wife.

   • In singleness: Believers are called to steward their sexuality in holiness—avoiding distortions such as pornography or promiscuity, while cultivating sexual thoughts and desires in ways that honor Christ and prepare them either for future marriage or for lifelong devotion to God’s service as a single Christian leader. 

   Paul reminds us that singleness is not second-rate but a high calling:

   “I wish that all of you were as I am. But each of you has your own gift from God.” (1 Corinthians 7:7)

   Whether through marriage or celibacy, Christians are called to use their bodies as instruments of righteousness (Romans 6:13).

In all roles, clergy reject a Gnostic view of the body (body bad, spirit good) and instead affirm the organic human view: we are embodied souls, created male and female, destined for resurrection. This has direct implications for current gender and identity debates. Embodiment is not accidental but essential; God’s design is good, and His redemption restores, rather than erases, male and female identity.

The Organic Human Dimension

Marriage speaks directly to the organic human identity struggle. Humans long for intimacy, permanence, and fruitfulness—longings that point back to creation and forward to redemption. God’s design for marriage as a covenant between man and woman provides a sacred space where these longings are rightly fulfilled. For those who are single, the church provides family in Christ, and celibacy points to the coming kingdom where Christ Himself is the eternal bridegroom.

In both marriage and singleness, the gospel redeems sexuality, restores dignity, and reorients desire toward God’s glory.

God’s Covenant with Families

Biblical Foundation

Marriage leads naturally to family, and family itself is part of God’s covenant design. From the beginning, God commanded humanity to “be fruitful and multiply” (Genesis 1:28). Families are not incidental to God’s purposes but central to His covenant promises.

Scripture emphasizes that God’s covenant extends beyond individuals to households and generations:

• “The Lord your God is God; He is the faithful God, keeping His covenant of love to a thousand generations of those who love Him and keep His commandments.” (Deuteronomy 7:9)

• Joshua boldly declared before Israel: “As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.” (Joshua 24:15)

• In the New Testament, household baptisms (Acts 16:31–34) demonstrate how God’s saving work often embraces entire families.

Faith is always personal—each must trust Christ individually—but it is also generational. God calls parents to diligently teach His Word to their children:

“These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.” (Deuteronomy 6:6–7)

Thus, families are covenant communities where faith is received, lived, and passed on.

Theological Reflection

The family is more than a social unit—it is a covenant context where God’s faithfulness is experienced and transmitted. Just as marriage reflects Christ’s covenant with the church, so family life reflects God’s generational covenant love.

• Parents serve as primary disciple-makers, embodying and teaching God’s truth in daily life.

• Children are not outsiders to God’s promises but included in His covenant care, called to grow into faith and obedience.

• The church comes alongside families, but never replaces them, reinforcing the covenant responsibility of households to serve the Lord together.

God’s covenant with families reveals His intent to weave redemption not only into individuals but also into generational lines. In Christ, this covenant widens to embrace the global family of God, the church.

Historical Witness

• Israel’s history shows repeated emphasis on teaching the next generation (Psalm 78:5–7). Festivals, sacrifices, and storytelling reinforced covenant memory within households.

• Early Christians carried this pattern forward, meeting in households and passing the faith through family witness (2 Timothy 1:5 speaks of Timothy’s grandmother Lois and mother Eunice nurturing his faith).

• The Reformers called the family the “little church”. Luther and Calvin emphasized daily prayer, Bible reading, and catechism in the home, where parents functioned as the first pastors of their children.

• Modern movements in Christian education and homeschooling recover this vision, stressing that discipleship begins at the table, not just in the sanctuary.

Walking Daily with God

Biblical Foundation

To “walk with God” is one of the Bible’s most intimate descriptions of discipleship. It signifies a life of continual fellowship, obedience, and reliance on Him. The Christian Leaders Institute promote the seven connections, a practice that highlighter devotional patterns in all our relationships. Essentially, devotions include:

• Scripture: God speaks to His people through His Word. “Blessed is the one… whose delight is in the law of the Lord, and who meditates on His law day and night” (Psalm 1:1–2). Daily engagement with Scripture is not simply about information but transformation, shaping our minds and hearts to align with God’s will.

• Prayer: Believers respond in prayer. Daniel prayed three times a day, even under threat of death (Daniel 6:10). Paul exhorts, “Pray without ceasing” (1 Thessalonians 5:17). Prayer cultivates constant dependence and intimate communion with God.

• Devotion as Essential: Daily Scripture and prayer are not optional extras for the particularly devout; they are essential for spiritual vitality, the nourishment of the soul. Just as the body cannot live without food, the spirit cannot thrive without daily fellowship with God.

Family Application

Walking with God is not only a personal practice but a family rhythm.

Deuteronomy 6:7 instructs parents:

“Impress [God’s commands] on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.”

• Faith is to be woven into the ordinary moments of life: meals, travels, rest, and work.

• Homes are meant to be mini sanctuaries, where God’s Word is read, prayer is practiced, and love is lived out daily.

• Family devotions, shared prayer, and open conversations about God create an atmosphere where the next generation is nurtured in faith.

Walking with God daily is thus both personal discipline and household discipleship.

Theological Reflection

Walking with God reflects the organic human design: spirit and body living in communion with the Creator. It rejects both:

• Gnostic tendencies that confine spirituality to inward contemplation, divorced from daily embodied life.

• Modern reductionism that excludes God from ordinary routines.

Instead, it affirms that all of life is lived before God (coram Deo). Every task, relationship, and moment is an opportunity for worship. As Enoch “walked with God” (Genesis 5:24) and Noah “walked faithfully with God” (Genesis 6:9), so believers are called to live each day in covenant fellowship with their Lord.

Historical Witness

• The Early Church practiced daily prayers and readings, carrying forward Jewish traditions of morning and evening devotion.

• Monastic communities developed patterns of daily offices, ensuring that Scripture and prayer marked every part of the day.

• The Reformers emphasized family worship, urging fathers to lead households in Scripture reading, prayer, and catechism.

• Revival movements stressed daily Bible reading and prayer as marks of true conversion and spiritual vitality.

Across history, walking daily with God has been the heartbeat of discipleship.

A Life of Love

Biblical Foundation

When asked about the greatest commandment, Jesus replied:

• “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind” (Matthew 22:37).

• “Love your neighbor as yourself” (Matthew 22:39).

He concluded: “All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments” (Matthew 22:40).

Love, then, is the fulfillment of the law. But it is not sentimental or undefined—it has structure and boundaries. The Ten Commandments shape the contours of love:

• First table (Commandments 1–4): How to love God (no other gods, no idols, honor His name, keep His day holy).

• Second table (Commandments 5–10): How to love others (honor parents, do not murder, do not commit adultery, do not steal, do not bear false witness, do not covet).

Theological Reflection

Love is more than emotion; it is obedience in action. Jesus said: “If you love Me, keep My commandments” (John 14:15). Paul summarized: “The commandments… are summed up in this one command: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself’”(Romans 13:9).

Godly living, then, is not legalism but love expressed concretely through obedience.

Historical Witness

Throughout church history, the pursuit of holiness has always been connected to marriage, family, daily devotion, and love.

• The early church emphasized sexual purity and family catechesis as key distinctives of Christian living.

• The monastic tradition emphasized Scripture and prayer as daily disciplines.

• The Reformers reemphasized that all believers are called to holiness, not just monks or clergy.

Godly living has always been understood as faith applied to every sphere of life.

Implications for Clergy

For **Christian Leaders Alliance clergy—officiants, ministers, chaplains, and coaches—**the doctrine of godly living is not merely teaching content; it is the framework for how they lead, counsel, and shepherd God’s people. Each role embodies this doctrine in distinct yet complementary ways:

• Officiants: At weddings, they proclaim God’s design for lifelong covenant marriage between a man and a woman, calling couples to faithfulness and holiness. At funerals, they highlight the hope of covenant promises that endure beyond death—promises that extend to families and generations in Christ. Through ceremonies, officiants remind the church that God’s covenant love shapes the milestones of life.

• Ministers: They teach congregations to walk daily with God through Scripture and prayer. Ministers emphasize that love is the fulfillment of the law (Romans 13:10), calling believers to embody covenant faithfulness in marriage, holiness in sexuality, and compassion toward neighbor. Their preaching forms communities where devotion is not a Sunday-only practice but a daily rhythm.

• Chaplains: In hospitals, prisons, military units, and crisis settings, chaplains counsel individuals and families toward covenant faithfulness in the hardest seasons of life. They provide hope and accountability in matters of sexual holiness, family integrity, and daily prayer, helping the broken and vulnerable see that godly living is possible even in suffering and chaos.

• Coaches: They multiply leaders by training them to cultivate healthy marriages, disciple families, and model daily devotion. Coaches equip leaders to see godly living not as optional but as foundational to influence. By shaping leaders who embody covenant faithfulness and daily walk with God, coaches ensure generational continuity of discipleship.

In all of these roles, clergy reject gnostic views of the body that denigrate marriage and family, as well as modern cultural distortions that reduce morality to preference. Instead, they uphold the organic human vision—that the soul is both spiritual and physical, that family is covenantal, and that love is expressed in embodied, daily obedience to God.

Implications for Ministry Sciences

The doctrine of godly living also gives direction to Ministry Sciences, reframing insights from human disciplines through a biblical lens:

• Psychology: Explores relationships, habits, and emotional health. Ministry Sciences interprets these in covenantal terms: marriage as the covenant context for intimacy, family as the primary space for discipleship, and daily devotion as the discipline of grace that sustains mental and spiritual health.

• Sociology/Anthropology: Study the family as a social institution shaped by cultural forces. Theology deepens this by seeing family as a covenant community—not just a social structure but a God-ordained means of transmitting faith and love across generations.

• Philosophy: Considers morality, virtue, and the nature of love. Godly living insists that love is not self-defined or culturally constructed, but covenantal, commanded, and fulfilled in Christ. Love is always ordered by God’s law and aimed toward His glory.

• Leadership Studies: Teach effectiveness, influence, and vision. Christian leadership reframes these: effectiveness flows not from technique alone but from personal godliness, daily prayer, and a life of love. True influence begins with integrity before God.

Without this covenantal framework, the human sciences risk reducing morality to cultural preference, love to sentiment, and leadership to charisma. With it, all disciplines are integrated into a biblical worldview—one shaped by covenant fidelity, daily devotion, and Spirit-empowered love.

Conclusion

Godly living is the fruit of salvation and the calling of every believer. It means:

• Marriage is between one man and one woman for life, with sexual intimacy reserved for marriage.

• Family is part of God’s covenant purpose, passing faith to the next generation.

• Walking with God requires daily Scripture and prayer, personally and as households.

• Love is the supreme calling, structured by the Ten Commandments and fulfilled in Christ.

For clergy, godly living is both personal practice and ministry priority. For Ministry Sciences, it provides the biblical framework for interpreting marriage, family, devotion, and morality within a scriptural worldview.

“Whoever claims to live in Him must live as Jesus did” (1 John 2:6).