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What to Do at Your First Meeting with a Couple

(with Scripture from the World English Bible)

Your first meeting with a couple is more than an appointment to “get the details.”
It’s often their first real spiritual conversation about their marriage.

This time sets the tone for everything that follows:

• The ceremony
• Your wedding message
• Any future ministry you might have with them

Think of this first meeting as ministry, not just logistics.

1. Come as a Servant, Not a Performer

Before you ever sit down with the couple, take a moment to pray:

“Lord, help me listen more than I talk.
Give me Your eyes and Your heart for this couple.”

James writes:

“Let every person be swift to hear, slow to speak, and slow to anger.”
(James 1:19, WEB)

Your main posture in this first meeting is:

• Swift to hear – curious, attentive, not rushing
• Slow to speak – not jumping in with lectures or long speeches
• Slow to judge – you don’t know their full story yet

You are there to serve them in Jesus’ name, not to impress them with how much you know.

2. Start with Warmth and Hospitality

Many couples are nervous. They may worry:

• “Are we going to be judged?”
• “Is this going to be super religious?”
• “Will we say something wrong?”

Simple things help:

• Begin with a smile and relaxed welcome.
• Thank them sincerely for trusting you.
• Use their names often and correctly.

You might say:

“Thank you for asking me to be part of your wedding.
It’s an honor to stand with you at such an important moment in your lives.”

You are embodying:

“Put on therefore, as God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, a heart of compassion, kindness, lowliness, humility, and perseverance.”
(Colossians 3:12, WEB)

Kindness opens the door to deeper ministry.