🛑 Crisis Care in Chaplaincy: Presence Over Perfection

Speaker 1 (Henry):
Right? So we’re back. Last time we talked about events and worship services—those types of things—but we’re noticing that more and more, chaplaincy is really about what happens during the week: meeting with people, relationship building.

In some ways, chaplaincy is shifting so much today, isn’t it? It’s becoming more like corporate chaplaincy, not just event chaplaincy like maybe a generation ago. When I first started preaching, I would preach at the chapel service on Sunday. But more and more, there’s a shift where the chaplain just shows up, right?

So there is presence—the ministry of presence.

And today we’re going to explore that, because during the week and during those times of presence, crisis care is often needed. We’re going to talk about crisis care related to accidents, addiction, and loss.

Whether it’s the military, truck stop chaplaincy, public schools, or anywhere else—chaplains often step into the hardest moments with calm and compassion. Crisis ministry is about presence, not perfection. God’s comfort flows through those who are willing to enter pain with others.

“God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble.”

You know, the road can be a scary place.

Speaker 2 (Monte):
It sure can be. And in some ways, this doesn’t surprise me—but it’s not something people think about all the time. That’s something a truck stop chaplain would be thinking about.

Truck driving is one of the most dangerous jobs in the country. I don’t remember where it ranks now, but it’s right up there. You’re dealing with a huge mechanical vehicle, a lot of weight, a lot of responsibility, and constant attention.

I think I shared earlier about a driver who finished eating in the restaurant, walked outside, and on the way back to his truck, just fell over dead—right there on the sidewalk.

Another time, we passed a truck where the trailer was still there, but the cab was just a black frame—fire-charred. The whole rig had blown up. Hopefully, there was a chaplain there.

Those kinds of crises are hard and unexpected. Nobody wakes up in the morning thinking, I’m going to have a crisis today. It just happens. And when a chaplain can be there, they bring calmness and steadiness to help people cope.

🕊️ Cultivating Calm in Crisis

Speaker 1 (Henry):
Crisis care requires courage, compassion, and composure. People rarely remember your words, but they always remember your presence. Let your calm reflect God’s peace.

So what are some ways you’ve learned to cultivate calm in crisis?

Speaker 2 (Monte):
It’s about not showing shock or excitement—just remaining steady. We bring reassurance because of who we carry within us. Whether people know Jesus or not, we do, and we bring that into the situation.

One caution for chaplains: don’t over-speak. It’s not about saying the perfect thing. Like you said earlier, it’s about presence.

We may not be able to fix the situation, but we can be present. Often, Jesus walks through hard times with us instead of taking us around them or fixing everything immediately.

🚑 Responding to Accidents: Care Over Curiosity

Speaker 1 (Henry):
When responding to accidents: stay calm, pray silently, and focus on care over curiosity. What does that mean?

Speaker 2 (Monte):
Sometimes people get curious about the details or want to see the scene—and they end up getting in the way. Our role is to be grounded and bring calm amid chaos.

It’s similar to EMS in this sense: they’re focused on care, not investigation. That’s not our job. Our job is to bring the presence of the Lord. Let first responders do what they’re trained to do—they’re experts.

We take our lead from them. If they ask us to help or pray, we’re available. But we don’t take over.

Speaker 1 (Henry):
Right. Avoid explanations. This isn’t the time for statements like “God has this”—even though it’s true. In moments like this, your presence represents Christ more than your words.

🤝 Partnering With First Responders

Speaker 1 (Henry):
Partnering with first responders means honoring emergency personnel and following their leadership. Our role is spiritual and emotional support, not rescue operations. That kind of respect builds long-term ministry access.

Speaker 2 (Monte):
Yes. If there’s an opportunity to build long-term ministry access, take it. That might mean helping notify family members, assisting with arrangements, or supporting EMS personnel.

If you build relationships with EMS at a particular truck stop, they might say, “We’ve got a chaplain for this.” That matters. They know you won’t get in the way—and that you’ll support them.

Hospital chaplains understand this well. They stay in their lane, and they’re trusted. Even in secular environments, chaplains are needed. Leaders know they’re needed.

🌅 Ministering to the Injured and Fearful

Speaker 1 (Henry):
Ministering to the injured or fearful means offering calm words, steady presence, and prayer. Avoid speculation or blame. Focus on hope. Fear retreats in the light of God’s presence.

You’ve seen a lot on the road—have you encountered many accidents?

Speaker 2 (Monte):
Drivers don’t stop like they used to. With cell phones, EMS is usually already there. Sometimes it’s not safe to pull over.

As for chaplains being on the scene—only if EMS knows you, trusts you, and calls you out. That’s why it’s important to build relationships with local fire departments, ambulance crews, and law enforcement.

🔄 Cross-Pollination in Chaplaincy: Community, Addiction, and Hidden Pain

Speaker 1 (Henry):
In some ways, what we’re seeing with our Fire and EMS program at Christian Leaders Alliance is that the chaplain role can overlap. Someone might be a truck stop chaplain, but also an EMS chaplain—the same person.

So if someone says, “I’m called by God to serve in community organizations,” we may have a truck stop, and we may have a fire rescue organization. And they love chaplains.

I anticipate that many people who are interested in truck stop chaplaincy are also interested in EMS chaplaincy. We’re already noticing that. This may become another credential they pursue. It really speaks to what we’ve been talking about—this idea of cross-pollination in a community.

🛢️ Addiction and Hidden Pain on the Road

Speaker 1 (Henry):
Let’s shift now to addiction and hidden pain. We know that we all leak oil—but some of us leak oil in ways that are harder to understand. Addiction often hides beneath fatigue, stress, or shame.

Grace opens doors that judgment closes. Chaplains can offer prayer, accountability, and helpful resources. Have you noticed that addiction is a real issue on the road?

Speaker 2 (Monte):
Addictions are real. The things you’re dealing with—if you don’t know the Lord, you’re looking for a way to deal with them.

It’s not so much that addiction comes from trying to keep the wheels rolling anymore, because electronic logs limit driving time now. But dealing with life still brings it. Alcohol is a big one. We still see people in truck stops buying alcohol every time they stop.

Speaker 1 (Henry):
So alcohol is a factor.

Speaker 2 (Monte):
Yep.

🤝 New Ways of Ministering

Speaker 1 (Henry):
Is it possible for a truck stop chaplain to form a group at a truck stop?

Speaker 2 (Monte):
I don’t see why not.

Speaker 1 (Henry):
That’s why I bring it up. As chaplaincy moves forward, we’re probably going to see new ways of ministering.

For example, a chaplain might help make sure there’s an AA group that meets at the truck stop. Would most of that ministry happen in the evening, after the day is done?

Speaker 2 (Monte):
Yes. Because drivers are parked, they’re done for the day, and they have time to unwind. They have time to think about what they’ve been thinking about all day.

Speaker 1 (Henry):
That’s interesting. Explain what you mean by that.

Speaker 2 (Monte):
You’re thinking while you’re driving—you’re dealing with things all day long. But once you’re parked, you don’t have to focus on driving anymore.

Now you can focus on what you’re thinking about—what’s bothering you, what you’re going through.

Speaker 1 (Henry):
And is that often when drivers turn to alcohol—because they don’t want to think about it anymore?

Speaker 2 (Monte):
Yes. They want to deal with it—or escape it.

🔍 Changing Patterns of Addiction

Speaker 1 (Henry):
Have addiction patterns changed over the years? For example, with legalized marijuana in some states?

Speaker 2 (Monte):
I don’t see that very often—not that it’s not there. And I don’t really see major drug use among truckers.

🧭 Addiction, Exploitation, and Redemptive Presence

Speaker 2 (Monte):
Yeah, I don’t really see major drug use. It may be there—it may be less than it used to be—but we don’t see it that much.

Speaker 1 (Henry):
So when it comes to addictions today, what are the most common ones? Alcohol? Probably pornography?

Speaker 2 (Monte):
Oh yeah. Pornography is definitely one. It’s a way to deal with things—getting your mind somewhere else.

Speaker 1 (Henry):
So alcohol, pornography—what else?

Speaker 2 (Monte):
Movies. Media in general. Social media. I see people addicted to media, movies, pornography, alcohol.

🚨 Human Trafficking and Chaplain Awareness

Speaker 1 (Henry):
At truck stops, is there still a problem with trafficking of women?

Speaker 2 (Monte):
Yes. It’s still a thing.

Speaker 1 (Henry):
Talk about that a little bit. We want to prepare chaplains for what they may see.

Speaker 2 (Monte):
Chaplains may see women at truck stops selling themselves. And sometimes it’s not just that—it may be trafficking.

You may notice behaviors that signal something’s wrong: guarded speech, fear, constantly looking toward a specific vehicle, or signs that they don’t really want to be there. Those are things to pay attention to.

There’s an organization called Truckers Against Trafficking that provides education on what to look for. They have online resources and a number you can call to report suspected trafficking, and the response is usually very quick.

Speaker 1 (Henry):
So if a chaplain calls that number, what happens?

Speaker 2 (Monte):
Law enforcement would show up. And often others will come as well—to help remove those being trafficked from the situation, provide care, and get them safe.

Speaker 1 (Henry):
And in your experience, this really is happening.

Speaker 2 (Monte):
It is. Yes. Truck stops, because of the constant coming and going, can be a place where this happens—especially in some regions, including border states.

🔒 Reporting Safely and Wisely

Speaker 1 (Henry):
If a chaplain reports this, is it anonymous? Is the chaplain ever in danger?

Speaker 2 (Monte):
I wouldn’t think so. You don’t have to confront anyone or get out of your truck. You just call the number.

Speaker 1 (Henry):
So for a chaplain serving regularly at a truck stop—you’ll get to know the place. You’ll recognize patterns.

What about women who are not trafficked, but are there willingly as prostitutes?

Speaker 2 (Monte):
Yes, that happens too. And you can build relationships there—just like with anyone else.

Once they see you coming and realize you’re not going to immediately run and call the police, and that you’re going to treat them like a person—that matters. A lot of them are not used to being treated like a person.

✝️ Gospel Presence Without Condemnation

Speaker 1 (Henry):
So even there, there’s an opportunity for the gospel.

Speaker 2 (Monte):
Absolutely.

Speaker 1 (Henry):
But this has to be done with complete purity. In many cases, ministering as a husband-and-wife team can be wiser and safer.

Speaker 2 (Monte):
Yes. This is serious stuff—but it’s real life.

Speaker 1 (Henry):
Have you noticed that in these sensitive areas, God shows up there too?

Speaker 2 (Monte):
Oh, absolutely. God shows up everywhere.

You don’t know where a person really is, no matter what they’re doing. Someone may wake up planning to do drugs or sell themselves—but God can intervene at any moment.

That’s why we don’t judge. We don’t categorize. We don’t decide who is hopeless.

Speaker 1 (Henry):
So the chaplain’s role is to be the hands and feet of Christ in that situation.

Jesus didn’t throw stones at the woman caught in adultery. He said, “I don’t condemn you either. Go and sin no more.”

We are all sinners saved by grace—that’s the only difference.

🧠 Boundaries, Wisdom, and Role Clarity

Speaker 1 (Henry):
Do truck stops allow prostitution?

Speaker 2 (Monte):
They don’t really allow it. You don’t see it as much as you used to. Truck stops try to control it more now.

Speaker 1 (Henry):
So should a chaplain report prostitution to truck stop management?

Speaker 2 (Monte):
Probably better not to. If people know that every time you see them you’ll report them, you’ll stop seeing them—and the ministry opportunity is gone.

Speaker 1 (Henry):
That ties back to what we talked about earlier. We’re not there as management or security.

Even if something is against company policy, the chaplain’s role is spiritual presence—to love, to care, to represent Christ. We’re not signing up to enforce rules.

Speaker 2 (Monte):
Exactly. We’re not security.

Speaker 1 (Henry):
These are practical but important questions—and this is why thorough training matters.

🕯️ When Death Occurs: Hope in the Midst of Loss

Speaker 1 (Henry):
Yeah, absolutely. And that’s what we want to be.

So next is what happens when death occurs. We’re getting into the nitty-gritty here. When death strikes, the chaplain brings calm and compassionate presence—helping others process grief and shock with dignity. Silence, prayer, and tears are sacred tools.

You quoted this earlier—Jesus wept. Every chaplain and every minister will encounter death. Someday we are all going to die unless Christ comes back before that.

So in many ways, it’s about becoming comfortable with this truth and bringing the calmness of hope into that reality. What have you learned through that?

Speaker 2 (Monte):
Often, it becomes an opportunity to minister to families—to walk them through it like a pastor would with church members.

I’ve done funerals as a chaplain over the years because they didn’t know any clergy or pastors. You’re the one they know. You’re the one who built the relationship and invested the time. So they ask you.

When a truck stop employee dies, the whole truck stop is grieving. You have an opportunity to be there and help them through it.

I remember one time the truck stop allowed us to use a room where employees could gather. We basically held a service—talking about death, what had happened, and how to walk through it with Christ.

💔 Comforting the Bereaved

Speaker 1 (Henry):
Comfort through Scripture, presence, and prayer. Remind people that God is near to the brokenhearted.

“The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart and saves those who have a crushed spirit.” —Psalm 34:18

In a lot of ways, what begins to happen is that the truck stop becomes your parish—your church.

Speaker 2 (Monte):
It should. If you’re there, it does become your parish.

⏰ Presence, Time, and Relationship

Speaker 1 (Henry):
How often is a chaplain typically at the truck stop? Does it vary since many are volunteers or part-time? Do truck stops ever hire chaplains?

Speaker 2 (Monte):
I’ve never personally known a truck stop to hire a chaplain. There may be some out there, but most chaplains I know serve through truck stop ministries or trucking ministries.

Speaker 1 (Henry):
Do you think it’s possible that someday truck stop ownership might want to hire and pay a chaplain?

Speaker 2 (Monte):
It’s possible. The desire for chaplains will never go away.

As for relationships—being present matters. Thanking them for allowing you to be there matters. If you’re only there on Sundays, you won’t build much of a relationship. But if you’re there during the week and take interest in people, relationships grow over time.

🕓 Best Times to Serve

Speaker 1 (Henry):
What would you say is the optimal time of day to serve as a truck stop chaplain?

Speaker 2 (Monte):
If you’re looking at minimum hours, I’d say 4:00 p.m. to 8:00 p.m. Drivers start coming in around then. It’s the end of their day.

They’ve had time to park, settle in, and decide if they want to talk.

I used to like being there from about 1:00 p.m.—or sometimes 10:00 a.m.—until 9:00 or 10:00 at night. The more presence you have, or the more you build a team, the better.

👥 Ministry Through Teams

Speaker 1 (Henry):
Why not multiply the ministry into a team of five trained chaplains? My mother used to say, “Many hands make light work.”

Speaker 2 (Monte):
Yes. That kind of team presence can be very powerful.

Some truck stops see hundreds of drivers a day. There’s always something to do. The more team members you have, the more available the ministry is. The more the merrier.

🔄 After the Crisis: Follow-Up and Care

Speaker 1 (Henry):
Post-crisis follow-up matters. Healing often begins after the crisis ends. Return calls. Check in. Show care. Continued contact restores hope.

🌿 Self-Care for the Chaplain

Speaker 1 (Henry):
Chaplains also need to care for themselves. Don’t carry trauma alone. Bring it to God. Debrief with peers or mentors. Rest, worship, renew. Guard your calling.

How do you do that personally?

Speaker 2 (Monte):
I have someone I can talk to—someone who’s been in ministry a long time. I can debrief with him.

Staying in the Word, keeping your prayer life healthy, listening to the Lord, and knowing when to rest are all important. Sometimes you need to get away—and if you can, you should—because you can’t take care of others if you don’t take care of yourself.

🌅 Restoring Hope After Loss

Speaker 1 (Henry):
Hope is the anchor of ministry in grief—helping people move from pain to faith, from despair to trust. God can redeem even the darkest moments.

We carry the presence of Christ into dark situations. Every act of compassion reflects His light. Darkness never wins where His love is present.

🌍 Vision for the Future of Truck Stop Chaplaincy

Speaker 1 (Henry):
As we conclude, think about crisis ministry—accidents, death, addiction, support groups like AA or Celebrate Recovery. The sky’s the limit when we think in terms of multiplying ministry instead of just staffing a booth.

Each truck stop open to chaplaincy becomes a ministry location.

Speaker 2 (Monte):
Absolutely. Some truck stops might open a room one day a week for a group.

It’s also wise to build relationships with licensed counselors—not necessarily for drivers passing through, but so you’re prepared with referrals when needed.

Speaker 1 (Henry):
In many ways, the vision is what the Holy Spirit places on your heart. Truck stop ministry has incredible reach.

Speaker 2 (Monte):
Sometimes people limit it to replacing church on Sunday—but it’s much more than that. Presence matters.

You don’t know what drivers are carrying. Something small to you may be a crisis to them. If you’re not there, you’ll never know—and they’ll have no one to talk to.

Being present, prepared, approachable, and available is vital.

Speaker 1 (Henry):
Until next time.


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