Video Transcript: What Not to Do: Taking Over, Talking Down, or Assuming the Story

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Hi, I am Haley, a Christian Leaders Institute presenter.

In Homeless Community Chaplaincy, trust is fragile. Many people experiencing homelessness have been misunderstood, ignored, managed, judged, or treated like a problem before they were treated like a person. That means a chaplain must be especially careful not to enter the setting with too much force, too many assumptions, or too much confidence too quickly.

One of the first things not to do is take over. A chaplain is not there to run the shelter, control the meal line, manage the outreach team, or correct the systems on the first day. Every setting has leaders, rules, rhythms, and safety concerns. A wise chaplain asks, listens, observes, and serves within the boundaries of that setting.

Another thing not to do is talk down. People experiencing homelessness are not children simply because they are in need. They are embodied souls, image-bearers of God, with stories, responsibilities, pain, gifts, regrets, wisdom, and hopes. A chaplain should not use a pitying voice, public correction, spiritual slogans, or moral lectures. Dignity is protected not only by what we say, but by how we say it.

A third thing not to do is assume the story. Do not assume someone is homeless because of laziness, addiction, poor choices, mental illness, family conflict, injustice, trauma, or bad luck. Any of those may be part of the story, but the chaplain does not know that at first. A person is more than one visible condition. Wise ministry starts with humility.

It also harms trust when chaplains force prayer or Scripture too quickly. Prayer is holy, but it should not be used to control a conversation. Scripture is powerful, but it should not be thrown at someone in pain without permission, timing, and care.

What helps? Enter slowly. Learn names. Respect staff. Ask before helping. Listen before advising. Offer spiritual care without pressure. Say, “Would it be okay if I prayed with you?” or “Would you like encouragement from Scripture?” Then honor the answer.

A Homeless Community Chaplain is not called to impress people with authority. The chaplain is called to serve with humility, courage, restraint, and Christ-centered love.

When you do not take over, talk down, or assume the story, you create space for trust to grow. And in this parish, trust is often the doorway to faithful ministry.