Video Transcript: In Summary

Welcome back to mental health integration. We are in the final section. Congrats on making it all the way through. I have had a blast. I hope you have too. This  week is going to be a little bit different. In this section, we are going to go  through a summary of the last 11 weeks. Then we are going to go through and  do a story about what's going on with individuals, churches and the kingdom, in  how we've done all this. And then we're going to do a quick update on all of the  things that have changed in this world because of covid 19. So hang on when  you're taking this, who knows what the implications of that will be for you, but  could be implications for now. So we're going to go with it. So we're going to  start with summaries. Now we started this journey with creation and the fall, the  idea that we are created as good and valuable and worthy image bearers, and  then the fall happens, and everything comes apart. We talked about how during  the fall, what changes isn't just sin entering the world, but that the goodness is  like cracked and distorted, but that things are still good. Human beings are still  good, but now there's something wrong. Sin entered the world. It contaminated  this good thing, and because of that, there's still like value there, but the way it  comes out is crooked. We also talked about how mental illness enters the world  because relationship everything is broken in Genesis 3, when sin enters the  world, and with that, sometimes even even the things going on in our own brains are broken. Then we continue talking about what is mental illness and the  prevalence of mental illness we went through, how many people experience  mental illness, the millions upon millions of people that experience mental  illness. We talked about different diagnoses, we talked about depression and  anxiety. We talked about that whole list. There's a couple things that I really want you to remember about that list. The first thing is that about a fifth of people will  deal with a mental health issue during their lifetime. The second is that about  half of people, or rather a fifth, will deal with one this year. About half of people  will deal with a mental health issue during their lifetime. About 20% of people a  year will deal with anxiety in such a way that it would be diagnosed as a  disorder. About 10% of people would deal with depression, and depression is  actually the biggest cause of disability worldwide. That is a big deal. Actually one of the costliest diseases in the entire world, depression and mental health, that's mind blowing. We also talked about how there's a lot of smaller mental health  issues, but the big ones that you're going to see in your church are bipolar  disorder, schizophrenia. You'll see those from time to time, but they'll pop up lots of cases of depression, lots of cases of anxiety. There's a few things we didn't  touch on very much that will also pop up that are important to mention here. For  instance, postpartum depression in women. The rates of postpartum depression  are fairly high. It just happens, your body is going through so much for that  there's some extra resources that are available. My quiet cave did a resource for MOPS International, specifically for moms and postpartum times, called the  fierce love collective. If you go to myquietcave.org you can find it there. So that's

a great resource. And yeah, last I checked it was free downloads on that. So  enjoy access to those after we talked about the prevalence of mental illness, we  talked about what it's like. We talked about stories of mental health issues,  specifically my story, and we talked about what it feels like and what it's like  going through. I want you to know what it feels like, because I want you to be  able to empathize with people in those situations. I don't want you to be  surprised when people say it's hard or they feel hopeless. I don't want you to  feel dumbstruck when you hear somebody's story. I want you to just be able to  hold that space well, because you understand. On a final note, if you're building  empathy in this space, people have been through some of the most insane  things in their lives that you can imagine. I remember when we started running  groups, and we started we did a group that had five women in it, and one other  guy and me, and every one of those women had a story that was just heart  wrenching, and every other woman in that circle cried because they knew what  it was like, and no one had any idea that anybody had any history with those  things until it started to come out. And then everybody just knew, because they'd all been through the same things. You will hear some crazy things in your time if  you start working on these. And that's okay. We talked about through the course, how you accept those things with love and without judgment, and you let the  person who's telling that story know that they are loved and cared for and they  are not judged. And if you can hold that space, you can hold their value and  allow them to integrate and grow. You provide that emotional stability so that  they can go through post traumatic growth. After talking about what it's like, we  talked about Saul and David, and that's all from the Bible. We talked about Saul  and his insecurity and how that plays on his depression and how it plays on  what's going on inside of him. We also talked about how he is kind of losing it at  points. We talked about how his jealousy starts to take over, and how those  things cloud the kingship for him, how he's never the king he could be because  he never felt valuable and worthy of it, and how shame plays a part in that, and  how Brene Brown talks about the one thing that separates people who are  vulnerable from people who are not is that they believe they are worthy of love  and belonging. And we see in Saul that he is never in a space where he feels he is worthy of love and belonging. And then we see the opposite in David, and we  see how he believes he is worthy of love and belonging, and how they both go  through hard things, but David's story is so different. And we talked about how  shame can be such an impact on that. Then we looked at other parts of the  Bible, and we saw Job's depression and Jeremiah's depression, and we saw  that there is brokenness all over the place, even Jesus and Paul go through  these incredibly dark times. So it's not like you're alone. If you go through this  stuff, it's all over the Bible. There's just a lot there. Then we went through the  modalities of wellness. We talked about finding a therapist or a psychiatrist. We  talked about how to find your therapist, how to find your psychiatrist. We talked 

about what that looks like. We talked about self help and how you can take care  of things like your sleep and eating. How you can use HALTS as a great tool to  find out what's going on with you, how you can use exercise to benefit your  mood, how you can use prayer to benefit your mood. Then we also talked about  Jesus and wellness, how Jesus Himself does self care and takes this stuff really  seriously. He models what we're talking about, and he models what God did,  which was Sabbath. There's an element of rest, and our bodies are made for  these cycles. They're made to rest, they're made to go and then they're made to  rest. They're made to move. They're not made to stay still all the time. So as you get into this, more and more, you can reflect back on that and say, Yeah, Jesus  did all this stuff, and it was great. And then we talked about your wellness and  how you will continue to build habits that will continue to propel you forward,  how you will continue to grow and develop, and as you use habits and find those Keystone Habits, those things that change your other habits, how you will  continually improve and become more and more the person that God created  you To be just because you free yourself from all these other things. We also  talked about how those cues are so important, and how if we can change a cue,  we can change a habit, and how we can build habits that continue to grow and  develop off of those cues. Then in the next week, we talked about vulnerability,  and we saw Jesus being vulnerable, and we saw people in the Bible like David  being vulnerable, and we saw that vulnerability. This Genesis 1-2 vulnerability, is part of the key of being made. This being known is critically important. This true  community is critically important. And it doesn't mean you need to be vulnerable  with anybody, but you have to be vulnerable with somebody. And we also saw  how giving and receiving help is really hard. One of the hardest things to do is to ask for help and say, I can't do this alone. I need somebody to help me. But if  you ask for help, oftentimes you can receive help in just amazing and beautiful  ways that can be so deep and so amazing. So please know that you can give  and receive help. You can integrate with these things. You can keep moving with them, because you don't have to do this alone. And when you're vulnerable, it's  much easier to give and receive help, because people know your stuff anyway.  In week seven, we talked about the whys of integration. We talked about how  we integrate, because this stuff is really, really hard, and there, there's all these  broken pieces. We talked about how we struggle, because I don't know who I  am anymore and I don't know what I'm capable of anymore, and I don't know if  God really loves me anymore, and how those are spiritual questions. So if we're  not integrating our spirituality into our mental health, we're missing the  opportunities that God is giving us. Then we learned in the what as an  integration, how to continue to push into that and make sure that our theology  matches up with our experience, that these things cannot like be butting heads,  or actually, our experience will win most of the time. It will push us away from  our theology, because we have to make sense of our own experience. Then we 

talked about how we integrate, how we ask questions of ourselves, how we  begin to grow and develop and learn and be the people that we were made to  be. We learned how we ask those questions, who am I? And then how we have  to find those answers, and then how, as we find those answers, we go through  trials, and those answers become more and more and more real in us, until  they're made almost physical, that they're just manifest in us. We also learned  about how we can continue to grow and develop as people, because as we  continue to integrate, we continue to make sense of our experience, which is a  great lead into the opportunity of mental health, because we saw that mental  health will force you to adapt a lot of the habits that will become incredibly  healthy for you in life. As you move forward, you will be able to look at your  physicality, and you'll be able to look at your sleep patterns, and you'll be able to look at what you did in therapy and with your meds, and you develop all these  great habits because you had to, but those great habits end up doing and end  up paying dividends for you all of the time. Furthermore, we talked about post  traumatic growth, and how between 30 and 70% of people experience that post  traumatic growth, and how they grow and develop and learn because they are  disoriented. Their life doesn't make sense anymore. Then they find emotional  stability, and then they can make meaning. When they make meaning, then they see all of these growth factors come out of that, that they can make sense and  get stronger out of and then we told stories of making meaning, the story of the  dandelion, and making meaning of my own self, and how that gives you, gives  me strength, and how your story, when you frame frame, it can give you  strength. Then finally, we talked about limits, and how you do have definite  limits. There's some things you can't push up against, they're too big, they're too strong. And in the case of mental health, sometimes those limits are healthy  because they put boundaries on what you need to do, so that you can't just  continue to push and push and push and push and push. And whether that's  work or relationships, it takes work to stay healthy and putting a boundary  around those allows you to naturally have a space to say, I can be healthy in this space. In week nine, we talked about shame and how shame is the opposite of  Genesis 1-2. It's the act of hiding. It's the thing that keeps us away. And if you  want to have courage, and if you want to have daring, and if you want to have  risk taking, the opposite of all of those things is shame. So we talked about how  shame is something that we work through in the Bible, in like Isaiah 61 where  God eliminates our shame, and we saw how God works with the people to  restore them to a place where they are without shame, even in a culture where  their land dictated their value, God puts them in a place where they are beloved  and they have value, and then they are put in the land, right? He eliminates the  shame, because that's actually the problem. That's the Genesis 3, and then  everything else starts to take care of itself. We talked about anxiety and  depression. We talked about how there's things that you can say to somebody 

with anxiety and depression that can be incredibly unhelpful so to not say them.  And we talked a lot about how there's that growth window, and we can hit  people within that growth window and help them grow and develop, but if they're outside of that growth window, it is just too heavy and it's too much. We also  talked about the theology of suffering and how part of being a follower of Christ  is, ironically, necessarily suffering, even though we believe that we work in a  theology of blessing a lot of the time, and so that suffering is not a bad thing, it's  just a thing, and God does good things, even regards To that suffering, that our  suffering produces perseverance, perseverance character and character hope,  that God even takes hard takes characters through hard things, even when we  believe they should be blessed, and then we often See the blessing on the other side of that trial. We talked about supporting people with mental illness. We  talked a lot about listening and having our ears out. We talked a lot about being  able to be present with people and give them their own dignity back. We talked a lot about making space for them. We talked about not making getting ahead of  them. We talked about not outworking them, so that we don't build the stain  between us and them. We talked about paradigms for helping, how you can help with them. And then finally, we talked about resourcing, all the resources that  they could need in order to get help. And finally, we talked about how you need  those resources as a helper, because you need to be able to step into that role  with confidence, knowing that your own stuff is being taken care of. We talked  about being a healthy caregiver, instead of just a caregiver orbiting that system.  Finally, in the last section, we talked about the church's response. We talked  about how the church does have something to say, how it starts with our  theology and how we talk about mental illness, and then how we build our  resource list so that we can encapsulate a lot of the needs that come up. Then  we talked about how we need to find and prepare. We talked about how we  need to find people and how we need to do trainings for our staff to make sure  that they are up to date and make sure they know what to do if there's a mental  health crisis. After that, we talked about this next layer, which is beginning to  break stigma by sharing on Sunday morning in front of the entire church. And  then finally, we talked about this last area, which is building long term support,  and how that changes things. With that, we are going to step into two smaller  sections. I want to tell you some stories about how have these things changed  people's lives. And then we're going to talk a little about covid 19. I'll see you in a minute.