Video Transcript: In Summary
Welcome back to mental health integration. We are in the final section. Congrats on making it all the way through. I have had a blast. I hope you have too. This week is going to be a little bit different. In this section, we are going to go through a summary of the last 11 weeks. Then we are going to go through and do a story about what's going on with individuals, churches and the kingdom, in how we've done all this. And then we're going to do a quick update on all of the things that have changed in this world because of covid 19. So hang on when you're taking this, who knows what the implications of that will be for you, but could be implications for now. So we're going to go with it. So we're going to start with summaries. Now we started this journey with creation and the fall, the idea that we are created as good and valuable and worthy image bearers, and then the fall happens, and everything comes apart. We talked about how during the fall, what changes isn't just sin entering the world, but that the goodness is like cracked and distorted, but that things are still good. Human beings are still good, but now there's something wrong. Sin entered the world. It contaminated this good thing, and because of that, there's still like value there, but the way it comes out is crooked. We also talked about how mental illness enters the world because relationship everything is broken in Genesis 3, when sin enters the world, and with that, sometimes even even the things going on in our own brains are broken. Then we continue talking about what is mental illness and the prevalence of mental illness we went through, how many people experience mental illness, the millions upon millions of people that experience mental illness. We talked about different diagnoses, we talked about depression and anxiety. We talked about that whole list. There's a couple things that I really want you to remember about that list. The first thing is that about a fifth of people will deal with a mental health issue during their lifetime. The second is that about half of people, or rather a fifth, will deal with one this year. About half of people will deal with a mental health issue during their lifetime. About 20% of people a year will deal with anxiety in such a way that it would be diagnosed as a disorder. About 10% of people would deal with depression, and depression is actually the biggest cause of disability worldwide. That is a big deal. Actually one of the costliest diseases in the entire world, depression and mental health, that's mind blowing. We also talked about how there's a lot of smaller mental health issues, but the big ones that you're going to see in your church are bipolar disorder, schizophrenia. You'll see those from time to time, but they'll pop up lots of cases of depression, lots of cases of anxiety. There's a few things we didn't touch on very much that will also pop up that are important to mention here. For instance, postpartum depression in women. The rates of postpartum depression are fairly high. It just happens, your body is going through so much for that there's some extra resources that are available. My quiet cave did a resource for MOPS International, specifically for moms and postpartum times, called the fierce love collective. If you go to myquietcave.org you can find it there. So that's
a great resource. And yeah, last I checked it was free downloads on that. So enjoy access to those after we talked about the prevalence of mental illness, we talked about what it's like. We talked about stories of mental health issues, specifically my story, and we talked about what it feels like and what it's like going through. I want you to know what it feels like, because I want you to be able to empathize with people in those situations. I don't want you to be surprised when people say it's hard or they feel hopeless. I don't want you to feel dumbstruck when you hear somebody's story. I want you to just be able to hold that space well, because you understand. On a final note, if you're building empathy in this space, people have been through some of the most insane things in their lives that you can imagine. I remember when we started running groups, and we started we did a group that had five women in it, and one other guy and me, and every one of those women had a story that was just heart wrenching, and every other woman in that circle cried because they knew what it was like, and no one had any idea that anybody had any history with those things until it started to come out. And then everybody just knew, because they'd all been through the same things. You will hear some crazy things in your time if you start working on these. And that's okay. We talked about through the course, how you accept those things with love and without judgment, and you let the person who's telling that story know that they are loved and cared for and they are not judged. And if you can hold that space, you can hold their value and allow them to integrate and grow. You provide that emotional stability so that they can go through post traumatic growth. After talking about what it's like, we talked about Saul and David, and that's all from the Bible. We talked about Saul and his insecurity and how that plays on his depression and how it plays on what's going on inside of him. We also talked about how he is kind of losing it at points. We talked about how his jealousy starts to take over, and how those things cloud the kingship for him, how he's never the king he could be because he never felt valuable and worthy of it, and how shame plays a part in that, and how Brene Brown talks about the one thing that separates people who are vulnerable from people who are not is that they believe they are worthy of love and belonging. And we see in Saul that he is never in a space where he feels he is worthy of love and belonging. And then we see the opposite in David, and we see how he believes he is worthy of love and belonging, and how they both go through hard things, but David's story is so different. And we talked about how shame can be such an impact on that. Then we looked at other parts of the Bible, and we saw Job's depression and Jeremiah's depression, and we saw that there is brokenness all over the place, even Jesus and Paul go through these incredibly dark times. So it's not like you're alone. If you go through this stuff, it's all over the Bible. There's just a lot there. Then we went through the modalities of wellness. We talked about finding a therapist or a psychiatrist. We talked about how to find your therapist, how to find your psychiatrist. We talked
about what that looks like. We talked about self help and how you can take care of things like your sleep and eating. How you can use HALTS as a great tool to find out what's going on with you, how you can use exercise to benefit your mood, how you can use prayer to benefit your mood. Then we also talked about Jesus and wellness, how Jesus Himself does self care and takes this stuff really seriously. He models what we're talking about, and he models what God did, which was Sabbath. There's an element of rest, and our bodies are made for these cycles. They're made to rest, they're made to go and then they're made to rest. They're made to move. They're not made to stay still all the time. So as you get into this, more and more, you can reflect back on that and say, Yeah, Jesus did all this stuff, and it was great. And then we talked about your wellness and how you will continue to build habits that will continue to propel you forward, how you will continue to grow and develop, and as you use habits and find those Keystone Habits, those things that change your other habits, how you will continually improve and become more and more the person that God created you To be just because you free yourself from all these other things. We also talked about how those cues are so important, and how if we can change a cue, we can change a habit, and how we can build habits that continue to grow and develop off of those cues. Then in the next week, we talked about vulnerability, and we saw Jesus being vulnerable, and we saw people in the Bible like David being vulnerable, and we saw that vulnerability. This Genesis 1-2 vulnerability, is part of the key of being made. This being known is critically important. This true community is critically important. And it doesn't mean you need to be vulnerable with anybody, but you have to be vulnerable with somebody. And we also saw how giving and receiving help is really hard. One of the hardest things to do is to ask for help and say, I can't do this alone. I need somebody to help me. But if you ask for help, oftentimes you can receive help in just amazing and beautiful ways that can be so deep and so amazing. So please know that you can give and receive help. You can integrate with these things. You can keep moving with them, because you don't have to do this alone. And when you're vulnerable, it's much easier to give and receive help, because people know your stuff anyway. In week seven, we talked about the whys of integration. We talked about how we integrate, because this stuff is really, really hard, and there, there's all these broken pieces. We talked about how we struggle, because I don't know who I am anymore and I don't know what I'm capable of anymore, and I don't know if God really loves me anymore, and how those are spiritual questions. So if we're not integrating our spirituality into our mental health, we're missing the opportunities that God is giving us. Then we learned in the what as an integration, how to continue to push into that and make sure that our theology matches up with our experience, that these things cannot like be butting heads, or actually, our experience will win most of the time. It will push us away from our theology, because we have to make sense of our own experience. Then we
talked about how we integrate, how we ask questions of ourselves, how we begin to grow and develop and learn and be the people that we were made to be. We learned how we ask those questions, who am I? And then how we have to find those answers, and then how, as we find those answers, we go through trials, and those answers become more and more and more real in us, until they're made almost physical, that they're just manifest in us. We also learned about how we can continue to grow and develop as people, because as we continue to integrate, we continue to make sense of our experience, which is a great lead into the opportunity of mental health, because we saw that mental health will force you to adapt a lot of the habits that will become incredibly healthy for you in life. As you move forward, you will be able to look at your physicality, and you'll be able to look at your sleep patterns, and you'll be able to look at what you did in therapy and with your meds, and you develop all these great habits because you had to, but those great habits end up doing and end up paying dividends for you all of the time. Furthermore, we talked about post traumatic growth, and how between 30 and 70% of people experience that post traumatic growth, and how they grow and develop and learn because they are disoriented. Their life doesn't make sense anymore. Then they find emotional stability, and then they can make meaning. When they make meaning, then they see all of these growth factors come out of that, that they can make sense and get stronger out of and then we told stories of making meaning, the story of the dandelion, and making meaning of my own self, and how that gives you, gives me strength, and how your story, when you frame frame, it can give you strength. Then finally, we talked about limits, and how you do have definite limits. There's some things you can't push up against, they're too big, they're too strong. And in the case of mental health, sometimes those limits are healthy because they put boundaries on what you need to do, so that you can't just continue to push and push and push and push and push. And whether that's work or relationships, it takes work to stay healthy and putting a boundary around those allows you to naturally have a space to say, I can be healthy in this space. In week nine, we talked about shame and how shame is the opposite of Genesis 1-2. It's the act of hiding. It's the thing that keeps us away. And if you want to have courage, and if you want to have daring, and if you want to have risk taking, the opposite of all of those things is shame. So we talked about how shame is something that we work through in the Bible, in like Isaiah 61 where God eliminates our shame, and we saw how God works with the people to restore them to a place where they are without shame, even in a culture where their land dictated their value, God puts them in a place where they are beloved and they have value, and then they are put in the land, right? He eliminates the shame, because that's actually the problem. That's the Genesis 3, and then everything else starts to take care of itself. We talked about anxiety and depression. We talked about how there's things that you can say to somebody
with anxiety and depression that can be incredibly unhelpful so to not say them. And we talked a lot about how there's that growth window, and we can hit people within that growth window and help them grow and develop, but if they're outside of that growth window, it is just too heavy and it's too much. We also talked about the theology of suffering and how part of being a follower of Christ is, ironically, necessarily suffering, even though we believe that we work in a theology of blessing a lot of the time, and so that suffering is not a bad thing, it's just a thing, and God does good things, even regards To that suffering, that our suffering produces perseverance, perseverance character and character hope, that God even takes hard takes characters through hard things, even when we believe they should be blessed, and then we often See the blessing on the other side of that trial. We talked about supporting people with mental illness. We talked a lot about listening and having our ears out. We talked a lot about being able to be present with people and give them their own dignity back. We talked a lot about making space for them. We talked about not making getting ahead of them. We talked about not outworking them, so that we don't build the stain between us and them. We talked about paradigms for helping, how you can help with them. And then finally, we talked about resourcing, all the resources that they could need in order to get help. And finally, we talked about how you need those resources as a helper, because you need to be able to step into that role with confidence, knowing that your own stuff is being taken care of. We talked about being a healthy caregiver, instead of just a caregiver orbiting that system. Finally, in the last section, we talked about the church's response. We talked about how the church does have something to say, how it starts with our theology and how we talk about mental illness, and then how we build our resource list so that we can encapsulate a lot of the needs that come up. Then we talked about how we need to find and prepare. We talked about how we need to find people and how we need to do trainings for our staff to make sure that they are up to date and make sure they know what to do if there's a mental health crisis. After that, we talked about this next layer, which is beginning to break stigma by sharing on Sunday morning in front of the entire church. And then finally, we talked about this last area, which is building long term support, and how that changes things. With that, we are going to step into two smaller sections. I want to tell you some stories about how have these things changed people's lives. And then we're going to talk a little about covid 19. I'll see you in a minute.