📝 Worksheet 10.4: One-on-One and Group Facilitation Plan
📝 Worksheet 10.4: One-on-One and Group Facilitation Plan
Course: Christian Gratitude Discernment Ministry
Topic 10: Leading Gratitude Discernment in Groups and One-on-One Ministry
Purpose: This worksheet helps leaders plan how to facilitate Christian Gratitude Discernment in one-on-one conversations, small groups, Soul Centers, church classes, recovery settings, and discipleship pathways with consent, safety, structure, and Gospel hope. This follows the Topic 10 worksheet assignment in the course template.
Opening Thought
Christian Gratitude Discernment is not simply a lesson to teach.
It is a ministry practice to guide.
A leader must know how to listen one-on-one, facilitate a group, protect the vulnerable, allow honest lament, notice grace, and help people take one faithful next step before God.
This worksheet will help you prepare a simple facilitation plan.
You will practice:
Listening before leading
Inviting without pressuring
Guiding without controlling
Protecting without shaming
Closing with hope
Part 1: Leader Self-Assessment
Use the scale below:
1 = Rarely true
2 = Sometimes true
3 = Often true
4 = Usually true
5 = Consistently true
My One-on-One Ministry Posture
I listen before offering advice.
Score: _____I ask permission before offering Scripture, prayer, correction, or a gratitude exercise.
Score: _____I can sit with someone’s pain without rushing to fix it.
Score: _____I help people notice grace without denying hardship.
Score: _____I know when a person may need pastoral, counseling, medical, legal, crisis, or safety support beyond my role.
Score: _____
My Group Facilitation Posture
I can open a group with clear purpose and safety expectations.
Score: _____I can gently redirect someone who dominates the conversation.
Score: _____I allow people to pass instead of forcing vulnerability.
Score: _____I protect confidentiality while recognizing safety limits.
Score: _____I close group conversations with Scripture, prayer, hope, or a clear next step.
Score: _____
Reflection
My strongest area is:
One area where I need growth is:
One prayer I have for my leadership is:
Part 2: My Ministry Setting
Choose one setting where you may use Christian Gratitude Discernment.
Check one or more:
☐ One-on-one mentoring
☐ Chaplaincy conversation
☐ Life Coaching Minister session
☐ Soul Center gathering
☐ Small group
☐ Church class
☐ Recovery ministry
☐ Discipleship group
☐ Online group
☐ Public Christian Gratitude Growth course support group
☐ Other: ______________________________________
Describe the people you may serve in this setting.
Who may be present?
What spiritual or emotional needs may they bring?
What kinds of pain, pressure, regret, grief, anger, or discouragement may surface?
What signs of grace might they easily overlook?
Part 3: One-on-One Facilitation Plan
Use this section to plan a one-on-one Gratitude Discernment conversation.
1. Opening with Presence
Write one sentence you could use to begin with warmth.
Example:
“I am glad you shared this with me. I want to understand before I respond.”
My opening sentence:
2. Asking Permission
Write one consent-based question.
Examples:
“Would it be helpful if I asked a few reflection questions?”
“Would you like prayer, or would you rather I simply listen right now?”
My consent-based question:
3. Naming Pain Honestly
Write one question that invites honest truth without forcing positivity.
Examples:
“What feels heaviest right now?”
“What pain should not be ignored?”
My pain-naming question:
4. Noticing Grace Gently
Write one question that helps the person notice grace without pressure.
Examples:
“Was there even one small mercy this week?”
“What helped you keep going?”
My grace-noticing question:
5. Moving Toward a Faithful Step
Write one question that helps the person consider a wise next step.
Examples:
“What is one faithful step you can take before God this week?”
“What support might you need for the next step?”
My next-step question:
Part 4: Group Facilitation Plan
Use this section to plan a group, class, or Soul Center Gratitude Discernment conversation.
1. Group Opening
Complete this opening script.
“Welcome. Tonight we are practicing Christian Gratitude Discernment. We are not here to________________________________________________.
We are here to ______________________________________________________.
No one is forced to _________________________________________________.
We will protect one another by ______________________________________.
We will keep Christ central by _______________________________________.”
2. Group Agreements
Choose the group agreements you will use.
☐ Speak from your own life.
☐ Do not expose someone else’s private story.
☐ Share honestly but wisely.
☐ No one is forced to share.
☐ Passing is allowed.
☐ Listen before responding.
☐ Do not give advice unless invited.
☐ Keep confidentiality, with safety limits.
☐ Do not use gratitude to silence pain.
☐ Make room for others.
☐ Keep Christ central.
☐ Other: ______________________________________
Which three agreements are most important for your setting?
Why are these especially important?
3. Group Prompt Selection
Choose one to three Grace-and-Truth Discernment Map prompts for your session.
☐ Grace Noticed
☐ Grace Missed
☐ Pain Named
☐ Lament Invited
☐ Thought Renewed
☐ Story Examined
☐ Embodied Reality Honored
☐ Relationship Discerned
☐ Boundary Considered
☐ Gift Received
☐ Sin Confessed
☐ Mercy Remembered
☐ Forgiveness Discerned
☐ Hope Held
☐ Next Faithful Step
My selected prompts:
Why did I choose these prompts?
Part 5: Fill-in-the-Blank Ministry Language
Practice writing sentences you can use in real ministry settings.
When someone is afraid to share:
“You are welcome to listen. You do not have to _______________________.”
When someone dominates the group:
“Thank you for sharing. I want to pause here so _____________________.”
When someone shares too many private details:
“I want to protect you and the group, so let’s _______________________.”
When someone gives quick advice:
“Let’s listen first before we ______________________________________.”
When someone says gratitude feels fake:
“You are right that gratitude should not mean ______________________.”
When someone is grieving:
“We do not need to rush past grief. We can __________________________.”
When someone may need more help:
“This matters enough that we should bring in _______________________.”
When closing a group:
“Tonight we named real pain and real grace. This week, let’s _________.”
Part 6: Consent and Safety Prompts
Christian Gratitude Discernment must be practiced with humility and wisdom.
Consent Check
Before offering prayer, Scripture, advice, or a gratitude exercise, I can ask:
Confidentiality Reminder
At the start of a group, I can say:
Safety Limit Reminder
If someone may be in danger, I can say:
Referral Language
When someone needs care beyond my role, I can say:
Part 7: Scripture Reflection
Read the following Scriptures.
“So, then, my beloved brothers, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, and slow to anger.”
James 1:19, WEB
“Let all things be done decently and in order.”
1 Corinthians 14:40, WEB
“Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ.”
Galatians 6:2, WEB
Choose one Scripture and answer the questions below.
Scripture Chosen
What does this Scripture teach me about facilitation?
How does this Scripture correct a weakness in my leadership?
How can I apply this Scripture in my next ministry conversation or group?
Part 8: One-on-One Conversation Practice
Imagine this situation:
A person says:
“I know I should be thankful, but I feel angry, tired, and forgotten by God.”
Write a response that includes:
Listening
No pressure
One gentle question
Possible hope
My response:
Now write one possible follow-up question:
Part 9: Group Facilitation Practice
Imagine this situation:
During a Gratitude Discernment group, one participant talks for ten minutes about a family conflict. Others stop trying to participate.
Write a gentle redirection.
My redirection:
Now write a sentence inviting others to participate without pressure.
My invitation:
Now write a sentence offering the talkative participant follow-up care.
My follow-up sentence:
Part 10: My 45-Minute Gratitude Discernment Session Plan
Use this outline to design a simple session.
1. Welcome and Purpose — 5 minutes
What will I say?
2. Scripture and Prayer — 5 minutes
Scripture I will use:
Prayer focus:
3. Short Teaching — 8 minutes
Main teaching idea:
4. Silent Reflection — 5 minutes
Prompt for written reflection:
5. Optional Sharing — 12 minutes
Question for sharing:
How will I allow people to pass?
6. Grace-and-Truth Discernment Prompt — 5 minutes
Prompt I will use:
7. Closing Hope and Next Step — 5 minutes
Closing question:
Closing prayer or Scripture:
Part 11: Safety and Referral Review
Check any situation that would require help beyond an ordinary Gratitude Discernment conversation.
☐ A person mentions suicidal thoughts.
☐ A person is being abused or threatened.
☐ A child, elder, or vulnerable adult may be unsafe.
☐ A person appears medically unstable.
☐ A person is in an addiction crisis.
☐ A person describes severe depression or panic that is interfering with daily life.
☐ A person is threatening harm toward someone else.
☐ A person needs legal protection.
☐ A person is being pressured to reconcile with an unsafe person.
☐ A person needs trauma-informed counseling or professional care.
Write the support resources available in your ministry setting.
Pastor or ministry supervisor:
Counseling referral option:
Emergency or crisis support:
Domestic violence or abuse response resource:
Medical support option:
Other trusted support:
Part 12: Final Reflection
Complete these sentences.
Christian Gratitude Discernment should never be used to:
Christian Gratitude Discernment can help people:
As a leader, I need to grow in:
One sentence I want to remember is:
One faithful step I will take this week is:
Prayer
Lord Jesus,
Teach me to lead with truth and grace.
Help me listen before I speak.
Help me guide without controlling.
Help me protect people without shaming them.
Help me notice grace without denying pain.
Give me wisdom to know when to ask a question, when to stay silent, when to pray, when to teach, and when to seek more help.
Make me a faithful presence in one-on-one conversations and group settings.
Let the people I serve see their lives before you with honesty, courage, gratitude, and resurrection hope.
Amen.
Final Reflection
After completing this worksheet, write one paragraph describing how you want your one-on-one or group facilitation to change.
Simple Practice for This Week
Lead one brief Gratitude Discernment moment.
Choose one setting:
☐ One-on-one conversation
☐ Family conversation
☐ Small group
☐ Soul Center gathering
☐ Church class
☐ Ministry team meeting
☐ Personal practice before leading others
Use one prompt:
“Where did you notice grace this week?”
Then ask:
“What pain should not be denied?”
Then close with:
“What is one faithful step before God?”
Afterward, write three sentences:
What went well?
What felt difficult?
What will I do differently next time?