🧭 Worksheet 7.4: Wedding Ministry Services Menu Template

Worksheet Purpose

This worksheet helps you create a clear Wedding Ministry Services Menu so brides and grooms understand what your ministry offers, what is included, what is optional, and what is outside your role.

Topic 7 of this course is “Creating a Clear Wedding Ministry Purpose, Scope, Services, and Rhythm,” and the master template identifies Worksheet 7.4 as the “Wedding Ministry Services Menu Template.”

A clear services menu protects the couple, the wedding minister, the local church or Soul Center connection, and the sacredness of the wedding ceremony.

Brief Biblical Framing

Jesus taught:

“But let your ‘Yes’ be ‘Yes’ and your ‘No’ be ‘No.’ Whatever is more than these is of the evil one.”
Matthew 5:37, WEB

A wedding minister needs clear yeses and clear nos.

Paul also wrote:

“Let all things be done decently and in order.”
1 Corinthians 14:40, WEB

A services menu is not merely a business tool. It is a ministry clarity tool. It helps the bride and groom know what to expect, and it helps the wedding minister serve with peace, order, and integrity.

Part 1: Your Wedding Ministry Purpose

1. One-Sentence Purpose Statement

Complete this sentence:

My wedding ministry exists to help brides and grooms…

Example:

My wedding ministry exists to help brides and grooms prepare for and celebrate Christ-centered covenant marriage through prayerful conversation, biblical ceremony design, faithful officiating, and meaningful follow-up.

2. What Makes Your Ministry Christian?

Check all that apply:

☐ Scripture is normally included in the ceremony.
☐ Prayer is normally included in the ceremony.
☐ Marriage is presented as covenant before God.
☐ The ceremony honors the bride and groom as image-bearers.
☐ The ceremony includes Christian blessing.
☐ Premarriage conversations include biblical marriage themes.
☐ The couple is invited toward church, Soul Center, or Christian community connection.
☐ Follow-up encouragement is offered after the wedding.
☐ Other: _________________________________________________

Briefly explain your Christian wedding ministry identity:

Part 2: Core Services Menu

3. Your Basic Wedding Officiant Service

Use this section to describe your most basic wedding officiant service.

Service Name:

Possible examples:

Simple Christian Wedding Ceremony
Covenant Wedding Ceremony
Christian Wedding Officiant Service
Small Wedding Ceremony
Wedding Ceremony and License Signing

4. What Is Included?

Check the items included in your basic service:

☐ Initial inquiry response
☐ First bride and groom meeting
☐ Couple intake form
☐ Christian wedding ceremony planning
☐ Scripture selection help
☐ Prayer selection or writing
☐ Vow guidance
☐ Personalized ceremony message
☐ Ceremony draft sent before wedding
☐ Final ceremony review
☐ Wedding day officiating
☐ Marriage license signing according to local law
☐ One follow-up blessing message
☐ Other: _________________________________________________

Write your basic service description:

5. What Is Not Included?

Check items not included in your basic service:

☐ Rehearsal attendance
☐ Extended premarriage conversations
☐ Travel beyond a certain distance
☐ Custom ceremony writing beyond standard personalization
☐ Printed ceremony booklet
☐ Wedding coordination
☐ Reception prayer or emcee role
☐ Marriage counseling
☐ Legal advice
☐ Tax or financial advice
☐ Crisis intervention
☐ Other: _________________________________________________

Write a simple “not included” statement:

Example:

This basic service does not include licensed counseling, legal advice, tax advice, wedding coordination, crisis care, or extended premarriage coaching. Rehearsal attendance, extended travel, and additional meetings may be added when appropriate.

Part 3: Expanded Services

6. Premarriage Conversation Option

Will you offer premarriage conversations?

☐ Yes
☐ No
☐ Not yet
☐ Only by referral or mentor partnership
☐ Only through a church or Soul Center pathway

If yes, what will the conversation include?

☐ Covenant marriage
☐ Communication
☐ Conflict and forgiveness
☐ Faith and prayer
☐ Family expectations
☐ Money and work
☐ Sexual intimacy expectations
☐ Children or future children
☐ Church or Soul Center connection
☐ First-year marriage habits
☐ Other: _________________________________________________

Service description:

Boundary statement:

Example:

Premarriage conversations are ministry conversations focused on covenant marriage, communication, prayer, family expectations, and wedding preparation. They are not licensed counseling or therapy.

7. Rehearsal Service Option

Will rehearsal leadership be included or optional?

☐ Included in basic service
☐ Optional add-on
☐ Only available for certain weddings
☐ Not offered

What does rehearsal leadership include?

☐ Walking the wedding party through the ceremony order
☐ Clarifying procession and recession
☐ Practicing vows and ring exchange placement
☐ Coordinating with venue staff or wedding coordinator
☐ Answering ceremony questions
☐ Praying with bride and groom if appropriate
☐ Other: _________________________________________________

Rehearsal service description:

8. Covenant Ceremony Design Option

Will you offer deeper ceremony design?

☐ Yes
☐ No
☐ Later
☐ Only for selected couples

What could this include?

☐ Custom covenant message
☐ Multiple Scripture options
☐ Personalized vows
☐ Family blessing
☐ Unity ceremony reflection
☐ Children or blended family participation
☐ Communion, if appropriate and church/Soul Center-aligned
☐ Prayer of blessing
☐ Ceremony symbolism
☐ Cultural or family tradition review
☐ Other: _________________________________________________

Service description:

9. Follow-Up Marriage Encouragement Option

Will you offer follow-up after the wedding?

☐ Yes
☐ No
☐ One message only
☐ Through a church pathway
☐ Through a Soul Center pathway
☐ Through a mentor or marriage ministry team

Possible follow-up options:

☐ One-week blessing message
☐ 30-day newlywed check-in
☐ 90-day prayer conversation
☐ First-year marriage encouragement
☐ Anniversary blessing
☐ Church invitation
☐ Soul Center invitation
☐ Marriage mentor referral
☐ Marriage enrichment event
☐ Other: _________________________________________________

Follow-up description:

Part 4: Possible Service Packages

10. Service Package 1

Package Name:

Best for:

Includes:

Does not include:

Fee / honorarium / donation guidance, if applicable:

11. Service Package 2

Package Name:

Best for:

Includes:

Does not include:

Fee / honorarium / donation guidance, if applicable:

12. Service Package 3

Package Name:

Best for:

Includes:

Does not include:

Fee / honorarium / donation guidance, if applicable:

Part 5: Sample Wedding Ministry Services Menu

Use or adapt this sample.

Simple Christian Ceremony

For brides and grooms who want a simple, reverent Christian wedding ceremony.

Includes: first meeting, ceremony planning, Scripture and prayer, basic personalization, wedding day officiating, license signing according to local law, and one follow-up blessing message.

Does not include: rehearsal attendance, extended premarriage conversations, counseling, legal advice, tax advice, or crisis care.

Covenant Wedding Ceremony

For brides and grooms who want a more developed Christ-centered ceremony with deeper preparation.

Includes: first meeting, intake form, premarriage conversation, Scripture and vow guidance, custom covenant ceremony message, ceremony draft review, wedding day officiating, license signing according to local law, and follow-up encouragement.

Optional: rehearsal leadership, additional premarriage conversation, Soul Center or church connection.

Covenant Ceremony and Marriage Ministry Pathway

For brides and grooms who want the wedding ceremony connected to ongoing marriage encouragement.

Includes: first meeting, premarriage conversation pathway, ceremony design, rehearsal leadership, wedding day officiating, license signing according to local law, 30-day follow-up, church or Soul Center invitation, and marriage mentor referral when available.

Important boundary: this pathway is ministry encouragement, not licensed counseling or therapy.

Part 6: Scope and Boundary Statement

13. What Your Wedding Ministry Does

Check all that apply:

☐ Wedding officiating
☐ Christian ceremony design
☐ Scripture and prayer guidance
☐ Vow guidance
☐ Premarriage conversations
☐ Rehearsal leadership
☐ Wedding day ceremony leadership
☐ Marriage license handling according to local law
☐ Follow-up encouragement
☐ Church connection
☐ Soul Center connection
☐ Marriage mentor referral
☐ Other: _________________________________________________

Write your “what we do” statement:

14. What Your Wedding Ministry Does Not Do

Check all that apply:

☐ Licensed counseling
☐ Therapy
☐ Legal advice
☐ Tax advice
☐ Financial planning
☐ Immigration advice
☐ Estate planning
☐ Crisis intervention
☐ Domestic abuse intervention
☐ Addiction treatment
☐ Mental health treatment
☐ Family mediation
☐ Other: _________________________________________________

Write your “what we do not do” statement:

Example:

This wedding ministry does not provide licensed counseling, therapy, legal advice, tax advice, financial planning, crisis intervention, addiction treatment, or domestic abuse intervention. When needs arise beyond the wedding minister’s role, we refer couples to qualified professionals, pastors, mentors, or appropriate care resources.

Part 7: Communication and Timing

15. Your Service Pathway

Write your normal process.

Step 1: Inquiry

Step 2: First bride and groom meeting

Step 3: Intake form

Step 4: Premarriage conversation, if included

Step 5: Ceremony design

Step 6: Ceremony draft review

Step 7: Rehearsal, if included

Step 8: Wedding day leadership

Step 9: License handling according to local law

Step 10: Follow-up encouragement

16. Your Timing Commitments

Complete these timing statements:

I normally respond to inquiries within:

I normally schedule the first meeting:

I normally send the ceremony draft:

I normally finalize ceremony details:

I normally confirm rehearsal and wedding day details:

I normally send follow-up encouragement:

Part 8: Fees, Honorariums, Donations, and Transparency

17. How Will You Explain Financial Expectations?

Check the model you plan to use:

☐ Set fee
☐ Suggested honorarium
☐ Donation-based
☐ Church-supported
☐ Soul Center-supported
☐ MinistryBiz package pricing
☐ Case-by-case
☐ Not sure yet

Write a simple financial clarity statement:

Example:

Our wedding ministry uses clear fee or honorarium guidance so couples know what to expect before booking. Any travel, rehearsal, or additional meeting costs will be explained in advance.

18. What Must Be Clear in Writing?

Check all that apply:

☐ Service selected
☐ Date and time
☐ Location
☐ Rehearsal expectations
☐ Travel expectations
☐ Fee, honorarium, or donation guidance
☐ Deposit, if applicable
☐ Final payment timing, if applicable
☐ Cancellation policy
☐ Ceremony draft timeline
☐ License handling expectations
☐ Follow-up options
☐ Referral boundaries
☐ Other: _________________________________________________

Part 9: Mentor or Pastor Review

19. Review Questions

Ask a pastor, mentor, elder, Soul Center leader, or experienced wedding minister to review your services menu.

Suggested questions:

1. Is my services menu clear?

2. Does it reflect a Christian understanding of covenant marriage?

3. Are the services realistic for my training and capacity?

4. Am I offering anything outside my role?

5. Are my boundaries clear?

6. Are my fees, honorariums, donations, or package expectations transparent?

7. Does the service pathway help brides and grooms know what to expect?

8. Does the menu connect couples to follow-up, church, Soul Center, or marriage encouragement when appropriate?

9. What should I simplify?

10. What should I clarify before using this publicly?

Mentor or pastor notes:

Reviewer name:

Reviewer role:

Date reviewed:

Final Services Menu Draft

Use this space to write your final public-facing version.

Wedding Ministry Services

Ministry Purpose:

Core Service:

Expanded Service Options:

What Is Included:

What Is Not Included:

Follow-Up Pathway:

Financial Clarity Statement:

Boundary and Referral Statement:

Final Commitment Statement

I understand that a clear services menu protects the sacredness of wedding ministry. I will not leave brides and grooms guessing about what my ministry offers, what is included, what is optional, and what is outside my role.

I will serve with clarity, humility, biblical conviction, financial transparency, healthy boundaries, and referral wisdom. I will seek mentor, pastor, church, or Soul Center review so that my wedding ministry can bless couples, honor Christ, and strengthen covenant marriage.

Signature:

Date: