Worksheet: Coaching from Hello to Amen
Topic 7 Worksheet
Coaching from Hello to Amen
Course: Coaching Ministry Foundations
Topic 7: Life Coaching Structure for Ministry
Presentation: Coaching from Hello to Amen
Reading: Flowing Through a Coaching Session with Purpose
Case Study: We Talked for an Hour, But Nothing Changed
This worksheet helps students practice a simple, Spirit-led structure for a Ministry Coaching Conversation. Topic 7 teaches that structure is not cold or controlling. Structure provides safety, focus, confidence, and fruit. A coaching session moves from Hello to Amen: welcome the person, name the focus, explore, discern, commit to action, and close in God’s presence.
Part 1: Opening Scripture Reflection
Read the following passages slowly.
James 1:19, WEB
“So, then, my beloved brothers, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, and slow to anger.”
Mark 10:51, WEB
“Jesus asked him, ‘What do you want me to do for you?’ The blind man said to him, ‘Rabboni, that I may see again.’”
Proverbs 20:5, WEB
“Counsel in the heart of man is like deep water; but a man of understanding will draw it out.”
Psalm 119:105, WEB
“Your word is a lamp to my feet, and a light for my path.”
Hebrews 13:20–21, WEB
“Now may the God of peace… make you complete in every good work to do his will, working in you that which is well pleasing in his sight, through Jesus Christ, to whom be the glory forever and ever. Amen.”
Reflection Questions
What does James 1:19 teach about the pace of a coaching conversation?
How does Jesus’ question in Mark 10:51 honor the person’s voice and agency?
What does Proverbs 20:5 teach about drawing out what is deep in the heart?
How does Psalm 119:105 connect God’s Word to faithful next steps?
Why is it fitting to close a Ministry Coaching Conversation with prayer or blessing?
Part 2: Understanding the “Hello to Amen” Flow
Topic 7 teaches that a coaching conversation needs a simple structure. Write a short definition for each stage.
1. Hello — Welcome the Person
What does a warm welcome communicate?
A helpful opening phrase might be:
2. Focus — Name What Matters Today
Why does the session need a focus?
A helpful focus question might be:
3. Explore — Listen Beneath the Words
What should the coach listen for?
A helpful exploration question might be:
4. Discern — Notice Truth, Grace, and God’s Invitation
What might God be revealing?
A helpful discernment question might be:
5. Commit — Identify One Faithful Next Step
Why must the session move toward action?
A helpful commitment question might be:
6. Amen — Close with God’s Presence
What should the closing prayer or blessing do?
A helpful closing question might be:
Part 3: Personal Reflection — My Conversation Style
Answer honestly.
When I meet with someone who is struggling, I usually tend to:
___ Let the conversation wander
___ Give advice quickly
___ Ask many questions but avoid action
___ Share my own stories
___ Move too quickly to Scripture
___ Listen well but forget to close clearly
___ Help the person identify a faithful next step
Which part of the “Hello to Amen” structure feels most natural to me?
Which part feels least natural to me?
What makes structure difficult for me?
How might structure actually make a conversation warmer and safer?
Part 4: Case Study Reflection — “We Talked for an Hour, But Nothing Changed”
Review the case study about Nadine and Jordan.
What happened in Nadine’s first conversation with Jordan?
Why did Jordan feel heard but not clearly helped?
What six words did Nadine write at the top of her notebook before the second meeting?
How did Nadine begin the second conversation differently?
What question helped Jordan name the focus of the session?
What deeper pattern emerged beneath Jordan’s frustration with church?
What truth did Jordan need to name?
What grace did Jordan need to receive?
What action step did Jordan choose?
How did prayer help close the session?
Part 5: Practicing the Six Stages
For each stage, write one sentence or question you could use in a real Ministry Coaching Conversation.
Hello
Example: “I’m glad you came today. Before we begin, how are you arriving—physically, emotionally, and spiritually?”
Your sentence or question:
Focus
Example: “If we could focus on one thing today that would bring clarity, what would it be?”
Your sentence or question:
Explore
Example: “What happens inside you when that situation comes up?”
Your sentence or question:
Discern
Example: “What do you sense God may be revealing in this?”
Your sentence or question:
Commit
Example: “What is one faithful step you can take before we meet again?”
Your sentence or question:
Amen
Example: “How would you like me to pray for you as you take that step?”
Your sentence or question:
Part 6: Ministry Sciences Reflection
Ministry Sciences helps the Life Coach Minister see the whole person before God. A structured coaching conversation helps the coach notice spiritual, emotional, relational, practical, and calling-related concerns without becoming scattered.
Using Jordan’s story, answer the following.
Spiritual Concerns
What was happening in Jordan’s relationship with God?
Emotional Concerns
What emotions were beneath his words?
Relational Concerns
How did his church disappointment affect his marriage?
Practical Concerns
What real-life habit or behavior needed to change?
Identity Concerns
What did Jordan need to remember about being seen by God?
Calling Concerns
How might his worship team disappointment have affected his sense of calling?
Structure Concerns
How did the structured session help reveal the deeper issue?
Part 7: Truth, Grace, and Action in the Session
Use the Truth, Grace, and Action model to think through Jordan’s case.
Truth
What truth needed to be named?
What question helped draw out that truth?
Grace
What grace needed to be received?
What question or Scripture helped Jordan receive grace?
Action
What faithful next step did Jordan choose?
What made that step specific and realistic?
Part 8: From Rambling to Purpose
Rewrite each rambling or unfocused response into a structured coaching response.
1. Rambling Response
“Well, tell me about everything going on, and we’ll just see where it goes.”
Structured response:
2. Advice-Driven Response
“You need to apologize to your wife and get over your church disappointment.”
Structured response:
3. Vague Closing
“Well, I hope things get better. Let me know how it goes.”
Structured response:
4. Over-Spiritualized Response
“Just pray more, and God will work it out.”
Structured response:
5. Unclear Action
“Try to be better this week.”
Structured response:
Part 9: Practice Scenario
A woman named Priya meets with you and says:
“I feel overwhelmed. My mother is sick, my work is stressful, my church keeps asking me to serve, and I feel guilty saying no. I am tired all the time, and I do not even know what I need.”
Use the “Hello to Amen” structure.
Hello
How would you welcome Priya and help her become present?
Focus
What question would help Priya name the focus for this session?
Explore
What question would help Priya explore what is beneath the overwhelm?
Discern
What question would help Priya notice truth, grace, or God’s invitation?
Commit
What question would help Priya identify one faithful next step?
Amen
How would you close in prayer or blessing?
Part 10: Boundary Discernment
A structured coaching session also helps the Life Coach Minister remember healthy limits.
Answer the following:
What should a Life Coach Minister not try to carry for the person?
When might a session need referral to a pastor, counselor, mentor, or crisis support?
How can structure help prevent dependency?
How can structure help the coach avoid becoming the fixer?
What is one boundary you need to remember when coaching someone you already know personally?
Part 11: Designing a 45-Minute Ministry Coaching Session
Create a simple session plan.
1. Connect and Center — 5 Minutes
What will you say or do?
2. Name the Focus — 5–10 Minutes
What question will you ask?
3. Explore and Discern — 20–25 Minutes
What kinds of questions will you use?
4. Close with Ownership and Blessing — 5–10 Minutes
How will you help the person name a next step?
How will you close with prayer or blessing?
Part 12: My Coaching Structure Checklist
Before a coaching session, I will remember:
___ I am here to walk beside, not control.
___ I will welcome the person warmly.
___ I will help name the focus.
___ I will listen beneath the words.
___ I will ask Spirit-aware questions.
___ I will look for Truth, Grace, and Action.
___ I will help the person identify one faithful next step.
___ I will close with prayer, blessing, or a respectful spiritual ending.
___ I will remember my boundaries.
___ I will trust the Holy Spirit with the results.
Which checklist item do I most need to practice?
Why?
Part 13: My Next Faithful Step
This week, I will practice structure in a ministry conversation by:
One opening question I want to practice is:
One focus question I want to practice is:
One commitment question I want to practice is:
One closing prayer or blessing phrase I want to practice is:
Closing Prayer
Lord Jesus, teach me to create conversations that are warm, purposeful, and Spirit-led. Help me welcome people well, listen beneath the surface, ask wise questions, discern what You are doing, and encourage faithful next steps. Keep me from rambling, rushing, fixing, or controlling. Let every Ministry Coaching Conversation move from hello to amen in Your presence. Amen.