Worksheet 3.4: My Soul Coach Posture Assessment
Worksheet 3.4: My Soul Coach Posture Assessment
Course: Become a Soul Coach
Topic 3: What Is a Soul Coach?
Opening Thought
A Soul Coach is not a fixer, controller, answer machine, therapist, or savior. A Soul Coach is a permission-based guide who helps another living soul take faithful next steps before God.
This worksheet helps you examine your own coaching posture. The goal is not perfection. The goal is honest self-awareness, humility, and readiness to serve with grace and truth.
“Let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, and slow to anger.”
— James 1:19, WEB
Part 1: Coach Self-Assessment
For each statement, circle one answer:
1 = Rarely true
2 = Sometimes true
3 = Often true
4 = Usually true
Listening Posture
I listen before I offer advice.
1 / 2 / 3 / 4I can sit with silence without rushing to fill it.
1 / 2 / 3 / 4I try to understand the person’s story before naming solutions.
1 / 2 / 3 / 4I notice emotions, not just facts.
1 / 2 / 3 / 4I reflect back what I hear before moving forward.
1 / 2 / 3 / 4
Permission-Based Posture
I ask permission before offering advice.
1 / 2 / 3 / 4I ask permission before sharing Scripture in a coaching conversation.
1 / 2 / 3 / 4I ask permission before praying with someone.
1 / 2 / 3 / 4I avoid pressuring people to accept my perspective.
1 / 2 / 3 / 4I give people room to say no, wait, or think.
1 / 2 / 3 / 4
Agency-Honoring Posture
I believe the person being coached must own their next step before God.
1 / 2 / 3 / 4I resist the temptation to decide for others.
1 / 2 / 3 / 4I help people discern rather than control their choices.
1 / 2 / 3 / 4I can encourage responsibility without shaming someone.
1 / 2 / 3 / 4I understand that I cannot produce another person’s transformation.
1 / 2 / 3 / 4
Resource and Course Posture
I recommend Christian Growth resources as invitations, not assignments of shame.
1 / 2 / 3 / 4I listen before suggesting a course or tool.
1 / 2 / 3 / 4I connect resources to the person’s own goals and readiness.
1 / 2 / 3 / 4I avoid treating course completion as proof of spiritual growth.
1 / 2 / 3 / 4I remember that resources support growth, but Christ is the hope of growth.
1 / 2 / 3 / 4
Part 2: What Did You Notice?
Look back at your answers.
My strongest coaching posture area is:
One area where I need growth is:
One temptation I notice in myself is:
☐ I want to fix people quickly.
☐ I want people to agree with me.
☐ I avoid hard truths.
☐ I talk too much.
☐ I give advice too soon.
☐ I feel responsible for other people’s outcomes.
☐ I recommend resources before listening deeply.
☐ I avoid asking permission because I assume I already know what is helpful.
☐ Other: _______________________________________________
Why do you think this temptation shows up in you?
Part 3: Permission-Based Coaching Language Practice
Complete the following sentences in your own words.
Asking permission to listen more deeply:
“Would it be helpful if I asked a few more questions about…”
Asking permission to offer perspective:
“May I share one thought I am wondering about…”
Asking permission to share Scripture:
“Would you be open to hearing a Scripture that may connect with…”
Asking permission to pray:
“Would you like me to pray with you about…”
Asking permission to recommend a Christian Growth course:
“Would it be helpful to hear about a Christian Growth resource related to…”
Helping the person own the next step:
“What is one faithful step you sense God may be inviting you to take…”
Part 4: Discernment Without Taking Over
Read the following coaching moment.
Scenario:
A person says, “I am overwhelmed. My marriage is tense, my work is exhausting, my prayer life is dry, and I feel angry all the time. Just tell me what to do.”
What would be unhelpful for a Soul Coach to say?
What would be a more permission-based response?
What question could help this person slow down and take ownership?
What safety or referral concerns would you need to listen for?
Part 5: 15-Aspect Soul Growth Discernment Prompts
The 15-Aspect Soul Growth Discernment Model helps the Soul Coach avoid reducing a person to one issue. It is not a diagnosis tool. It is a discernment aid.
Choose one real or imagined coaching situation. Briefly describe it:
Now ask gentle questions connected to several aspects.
Faith Aspect
What is this person believing about God in this situation?
Identity Aspect
What is this person believing about themselves?
Spiritual Practice Aspect
What prayer, Scripture, worship, or devotional rhythms are present or missing?
Embodied Life Aspect
How might sleep, health, energy, stress, or bodily habits be involved?
Emotional Aspect
What emotions seem important?
Thought and Mindset Aspect
What inner story or repeated thought may be shaping the person?
Relational Aspect
Who else is affected?
Communication Aspect
What conversation may need to happen?
Justice and Boundary Aspect
Are there boundary, safety, fairness, or responsibility issues?
Community and Kingdom Aspect
What trusted support or community may be needed?
Part 6: Consent and Safety Prompts
A Soul Coach must be both permission-based and safety-aware.
Write one sentence you could use if someone shares something beyond your training:
Example:
“I care about you, and this sounds bigger than a coaching conversation. I think we need to involve the right help.”
Write one sentence you could use if someone may be in danger:
Write one sentence you could use if someone wants you to keep unsafe information secret:
Write one sentence you could use if a Christian Growth course might help, but referral is also needed:
Part 7: Scripture Reflection
Read Galatians 6:2 and Galatians 6:5.
“Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ.”
— Galatians 6:2, WEB
“For each man will bear his own burden.”
— Galatians 6:5, WEB
What is the difference between helping someone carry a burden and taking over responsibility that belongs to them?
How can a Soul Coach honor both verses in a real coaching conversation?
Where are you personally tempted to over-carry someone else’s burden?
Part 8: Christian Growth Resource Reflection
Think of a person who might benefit from a Christian Growth course.
What area of growth may be involved?
☐ Gratitude
☐ Anger
☐ Marriage
☐ Spiritual growth
☐ Confidence
☐ Family relationships
☐ Identity
☐ Other: _______________________________________________
What should you listen for before recommending a course?
How could you offer the resource without pressure?
How could you help the person apply one lesson instead of merely completing content?
Prayer
Lord Jesus,
You are full of grace and truth. Teach me to help others without taking over. Make me quick to listen, slow to speak, humble in my words, and wise with responsibility. Help me honor each person as a living soul before you. Keep me from pride, pressure, control, and careless advice. Teach me to guide with permission, pray with love, speak truth with humility, and trust the Holy Spirit to give growth. Amen.
Final Reflection
Complete these statements.
As a Soul Coach, I want to become more:
I need God’s help to stop:
I need God’s help to practice:
One permission-based phrase I will use this week is:
One faithful next step I personally own before God is:
Simple Practice for This Week
In one conversation this week, practice these four steps:
Listen before offering advice.
Reflect back what you heard.
Ask permission before offering Scripture, prayer, advice, or a resource.
Help the person name one next step they personally own.
Afterward, write a brief reflection: