📝 Worksheet 7.5: Accelerant Audit, Boundary Plan, and Referral Directory

Topic 7 helps the student identify Strangefire, recognize Wildfire accelerants, build ethical boundaries, and prepare a trusted referral team for a Peacefire Ministry Practice.

Worksheet Purpose

This worksheet helps you develop two essential parts of your Peacefire Ministry Practice:

Formation of the Minister
You will examine your own temptations, emotional triggers, Strangefire risks, and Wildfire accelerants.
Formation of the Practice
You will create a written boundary plan, scope statement, referral directory, and referral conversation script.

A Peacefire Coach Minister must not add fuel to conflict. This worksheet helps you serve with clarity, humility, safety, and wisdom.

A. Formation of the Minister

1. Opening Prayer

Lord Jesus,

You are the Prince of Peace. You are full of grace and truth. Search my heart as I prepare to serve people in conflict.

Show me where I am tempted to rush, rescue, control, avoid, defend, or overstep. Help me recognize Strangefire in myself before I try to recognize it in others.

Teach me to serve with humility, patience, courage, gentleness, and wisdom.

Amen.

2. My Personal Wildfire Accelerants

Wildfire accelerants are anything that causes conflict to spread faster or burn hotter.

Check any accelerants that may show up in you as a Peacefire Coach Minister.

Emotional Accelerants

☐ I become anxious when conflict is unresolved.
☐ I feel pressure to fix the situation quickly.
☐ I become irritated when people do not take my advice.
☐ I over-identify with wounded people.
☐ I over-identify with accused people.
☐ I feel defensive when someone challenges me.
☐ I feel personally responsible for outcomes I cannot control.
☐ I become impatient with slow growth.
☐ I avoid hard conversations because I fear rejection.
☐ I become intense when I believe justice is being ignored.

Spiritual Accelerants

☐ I quote Scripture too quickly before listening well.
☐ I use spiritual language to push people toward my preferred outcome.
☐ I assume my first impression is God’s discernment.
☐ I confuse urgency with the Holy Spirit’s leading.
☐ I pressure people to forgive before they have named the harm.
☐ I rush reconciliation because I want a visible success story.
☐ I feel like I must prove my ministry value by solving the conflict.
☐ I confuse peacemaking with making everyone calm.

Relational Accelerants

☐ I take sides too quickly.
☐ I want people to like me.
☐ I struggle to say, “That is outside my role.”
☐ I keep helping even when the person needs another kind of support.
☐ I become emotionally entangled in the story.
☐ I want to rescue people from consequences.
☐ I avoid involving oversight because I want to handle it privately.
☐ I struggle to refer because it feels like failure.

Reflection

Which three accelerants are most likely to affect your Peacefire Ministry?

What do these accelerants reveal about your heart, fears, desires, or ministry habits?

3. My Strangefire Temptations

Strangefire is a godly-sounding goal pursued through fleshly methods.

Complete the following statements honestly.

I may be tempted to use Strangefire when:

I want truth, but I am tempted to use:

I want justice, but I am tempted to use:

I want reconciliation, but I am tempted to use:

I want accountability, but I am tempted to use:

I want peace, but I am tempted to use:

I want people to change, but I am tempted to use:

I want the ministry to succeed, but I am tempted to use:

4. Peacefire Replacement Practices

For each Wildfire or Strangefire pattern, write a Peacefire replacement practice.

My Temptation	Peacefire Replacement
I rush to advise.	I will ask permission before offering guidance.
I feel pressure to fix.	I will remember that Christ is Savior, not me.
I take sides too quickly.	I will listen for event, interpretation, desire, response, and spread.
I push forgiveness too soon.	I will make room for lament, truth, safety, and discernment.
I avoid referral.	I will say, “This deserves another kind of support.”
I feel anxious with unresolved conflict.	I will pray, breathe, slow down, and choose one faithful next step.
My own pattern:
My own pattern:
My own pattern:

5. Personal Peacefire Pause

Write a short prayer or practice you will use before every Peacefire session.

It should help you slow down, surrender control, and stay in your role.

Example:

“Lord Jesus, help me listen before speaking, love without controlling, tell the truth without harshness, and stay within the role You have given me.”

My Peacefire Pause:

6. Minister Self-Check Before a Difficult Session

Before meeting with someone in serious conflict, answer these questions.

Am I calm enough to listen well?

Am I tempted to take sides before hearing clearly?

Am I trying to rescue, fix, punish, or control?

Is this situation touching one of my own unresolved wounds?

Do I need consultation or oversight before proceeding?

What would staying in role look like today?

What would returning to the Peacefire look like today?

B. Formation of the Practice

1. Peacefire Ministry Scope Statement

Write a clear scope statement for your Peacefire Ministry Practice.

Use this starter language and revise it for your setting.

Draft Scope Statement

My Peacefire Ministry Practice offers Christian conflict-navigation coaching through prayerful listening, consent-based discernment, Scripture-rooted encouragement, Peacefire tools, practical next-step coaching, and appropriate referral.

This ministry helps people recognize Wildfire, resist Strangefire, return to the Peacefire of God’s presence, discern their role, prepare for faithful conversations, consider forgiveness and repair, establish firebreaks when needed, and connect with additional support when the situation exceeds ordinary coaching.

This ministry is not licensed counseling, psychotherapy, legal advice, criminal investigation, emergency response, domestic-violence intervention, or formal mediation unless I have separate training, authorization, and policies for those roles.

My Final Scope Statement

2. What My Practice Offers

Check the services your Peacefire Ministry Practice may offer.

☐ One-to-one Peacefire coaching
☐ Conflict-role discernment
☐ Offense, bitterness, lament, and release reflection
☐ Prayer by permission
☐ Scripture reflection
☐ Peacefire, Wildfire, and Strangefire discernment
☐ Difficult-conversation preparation
☐ Confession and apology preparation
☐ Forgiveness and reconciliation discernment
☐ Firebreak and boundary reflection
☐ Follow-up spiritual support
☐ Peacefire Bible studies
☐ Soul Center group sessions
☐ Church conflict-care pathway support
☐ Chaplaincy follow-up conversations
☐ Parish care support
☐ Referral to appropriate care when needed

Other services within my role:

3. What My Practice Does Not Offer

Check each boundary you will clearly communicate.

☐ I do not provide licensed counseling unless separately licensed.
☐ I do not diagnose mental-health conditions.
☐ I do not provide psychotherapy.
☐ I do not provide legal advice.
☐ I do not investigate abuse or criminal claims.
☐ I do not promise absolute secrecy.
☐ I do not conduct crisis intervention unless separately authorized.
☐ I do not pressure unsafe reconciliation.
☐ I do not force forgiveness.
☐ I do not guarantee restored trust.
☐ I do not privately manage matters that require church, parish, chaplaincy, or institutional oversight.
☐ I do not meet with both sides of a serious conflict without consent, role clarity, and appropriate safeguards.
☐ I do not handle domestic violence, abuse, stalking, threats, or danger as ordinary coaching matters.

Additional boundaries for my practice:

4. Confidentiality with Limits Statement

Write a confidentiality statement you can say before deep sharing begins.

Use this model:

“What you share here will be treated with care and respect. I will not share it casually. However, I cannot promise absolute secrecy. If there is concern about abuse, harm to yourself or others, danger, threats, child abuse, elder abuse, vulnerable-person abuse, or other legally reportable or serious safety concerns, I may need to involve appropriate help according to law and ministry policy.”

My Confidentiality with Limits Statement

5. Referral Trigger List

Mark the situations that will require referral, consultation, reporting, emergency help, or oversight in your Peacefire Ministry Practice.

Immediate Safety or Crisis

☐ Suicidal intent
☐ Threats of harm to others
☐ Domestic violence
☐ Physical assault
☐ Sexual assault
☐ Stalking
☐ Weapon-related danger
☐ Medical emergency
☐ Substance-impaired danger
☐ Severe disorientation or inability to remain safe

Abuse, Coercion, or Vulnerable Persons

☐ Child abuse
☐ Elder abuse
☐ Vulnerable-adult abuse
☐ Coercive control
☐ Sexual misconduct
☐ Spiritual abuse
☐ Financial exploitation
☐ Abuse by a ministry leader
☐ Abuse involving a caregiver

Professional or Specialized Care Needed

☐ Trauma symptoms beyond coaching
☐ Severe depression
☐ Panic or anxiety interfering with life
☐ Addiction crisis
☐ Eating disorder concerns
☐ Self-harm history or urges
☐ Severe grief complications
☐ Marriage or family crisis needing licensed care
☐ Legal questions
☐ Custody or divorce matters
☐ Workplace harassment
☐ Criminal accusations
☐ Church discipline or staff conflict
☐ Institutional policy concerns

Other referral triggers in my setting:

6. Trusted Referral Directory

Create a practical referral directory before launching your Peacefire Ministry Practice.

Spiritual Oversight

Pastor, elder, priest, rector, ministry supervisor, Soul Center mentor, chaplaincy supervisor, or parish authority.

Name: ___________________________________________
Role: ___________________________________________
Phone/Email: _____________________________________
When to contact: _________________________________

Counseling and Mental-Health Support

Licensed counselor, Christian counselor, marriage and family therapist, trauma-informed counselor, addiction counselor, grief counselor.

Name/Agency: ____________________________________
Specialty: _______________________________________
Phone/Website: ___________________________________
Cost/Insurance Notes: _____________________________

Abuse and Safety Support

Domestic-violence agency, sexual-assault support, child-protection reporting, elder-abuse reporting, vulnerable-adult support.

Agency/Contact: __________________________________
Purpose: ________________________________________
Phone/Website: ___________________________________
Important notes: _________________________________

Emergency and Crisis Support

Local emergency services, crisis lines, hospital, urgent mental-health care, local police non-emergency when appropriate.

Contact: ________________________________________
Purpose: ________________________________________
Phone/Website: ___________________________________
When to use: _____________________________________

Legal and Practical Support

Attorney, legal aid, financial counselor, housing support, workplace support, mediation services.

Name/Agency: ____________________________________
Purpose: ________________________________________
Phone/Website: ___________________________________
Important notes: _________________________________

Church, Parish, Chaplaincy, or Institutional Oversight

Contact for conflicts involving leaders, staff, volunteers, minors, safeguarding, church discipline, parish policy, chaplaincy policy, or institutional procedure.

7. Referral Conversation Scripts

Write three short scripts you can use when referral is needed.

Counseling Referral Script

Example:

“I can continue to support you spiritually, and I also believe this situation deserves care from a licensed counselor. What you are carrying is important, and you should not have to carry it with only one kind of support.”

My counseling referral script:

Safety or Abuse Referral Script

Example:

“What you are describing raises safety concerns. I do not want to pressure you into a conversation that could increase harm. I believe we need to connect with appropriate safety support and follow the proper reporting or ministry policy steps.”

My safety or abuse referral script:

Pastoral or Church Oversight Script

Example:

“Because this involves ministry leadership and church responsibility, I should not handle it privately as ordinary coaching. This needs appropriate pastoral or church oversight. I can support you spiritually while we involve the right leader.”

My pastoral or church oversight script:

8. Communication Boundary Plan

Write clear boundaries for communication outside sessions.

When will I respond to messages?

What should people do in a crisis instead of texting me?

Will I communicate by text, email, phone, or messaging apps?

What topics should not be handled by text?

Will I meet with minors? If so, under what policies and safeguards?

Will I meet with both parties in a conflict? Under what conditions?

Where will meetings take place?

How will I document sessions?

How long will I retain notes?

Who will I consult when I am unsure?

9. Practice Boundary Statement

Write a short statement you can place in your brochure, website, Soul Center description, or church ministry description.

Example:

“Peacefire Ministry provides Christian conflict-navigation coaching and spiritual formation support. It is not counseling, therapy, legal advice, crisis intervention, investigation, or a guarantee of reconciliation. When concerns exceed ordinary coaching, the minister will recommend appropriate pastoral, professional, emergency, legal, or community support.”

My public boundary statement:

10. Final Portfolio Deliverables from Worksheet 7.5

Add the following items to your final Peacefire Ministry Practice portfolio:

☐ Personal Wildfire Accelerant Audit
☐ Personal Strangefire Temptation Reflection
☐ Peacefire Pause Prayer
☐ Ministry Scope Statement
☐ What My Practice Offers List
☐ What My Practice Does Not Offer List
☐ Confidentiality with Limits Statement
☐ Referral Trigger List
☐ Trusted Referral Directory
☐ Counseling Referral Script
☐ Safety or Abuse Referral Script
☐ Pastoral or Church Oversight Script
☐ Communication Boundary Plan
☐ Public Practice Boundary Statement

Closing Prayer

Lord Jesus,

Form me into a faithful Peacefire Coach Minister.

Help me recognize the accelerants in my own heart. Keep me from using Christian words to hide fleshly methods. Teach me to love without controlling, speak truth without harshness, set boundaries without coldness, and refer without shame.

Make my Peacefire Ministry Practice clear, safe, humble, biblical, and accountable.

Help me stay in my role and trust You with the outcome.

Amen.

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