📝 Worksheet 10.5: Peacefire Coach Minister Formation and Accountability Plan

Topic 10: Becoming a Peacefire Coach Minister

Purpose

This worksheet helps you build a personal formation and accountability plan for your Peacefire Ministry Practice.

A Peacefire Coach Minister does not only help others return to the Peacefire. The minister must also keep returning to Christ personally. This worksheet will help you identify your temptations, limits, prayer rhythms, supervision structure, continuing formation plan, and safeguards against over-involvement.

By the end of this worksheet, you will have a practical plan for becoming a humble, faithful, loving, accountable, and sustainable Peacefire Coach Minister.

A. Formation of the Minister

1. Opening Prayer

Lord Jesus,
You are the Savior, and I am Your servant. Form my heart before You expand my ministry. Teach me humility, faith, love, and the desire to please You. Show me where I am tempted to rescue, control, avoid, impress, defend myself, or become over-involved. Help me abide in You, receive correction, honor my limits, and serve others with truth and tenderness. Amen.

2. Personal Conflict Posture Inventory

When I am near conflict, I usually tend to:

Check all that apply.

☐ Rescue people quickly
☐ Take responsibility for outcomes that do not belong to me
☐ Avoid hard conversations
☐ Become emotionally intense
☐ Become overly calm and detached
☐ Defend myself quickly
☐ Explain too much
☐ Take sides too quickly
☐ Try to make everyone like me
☐ Become angry at one party before hearing enough
☐ Feel responsible for fixing the relationship
☐ Feel anxious when reconciliation does not happen
☐ Over-spiritualize the situation
☐ Minimize harm in order to keep peace
☐ Push forgiveness too quickly
☐ Avoid referral because I want to be helpful
☐ Ignore my own fatigue
☐ Seek approval from the person receiving care
☐ Other: ________________________________________

Reflection

What pattern do I most need to bring honestly before Christ?

3. Humility Check

A humble Peacefire Coach Minister can receive correction, admit limits, and stay teachable.

Complete these sentences.

When someone corrects me, I usually feel:

My first inner reaction is often:

I am most likely to defend myself when:

One way I can practice humility in Peacefire Ministry is:

A phrase I can use when I feel defensive is:

Example:

“Thank you for telling me. I feel myself wanting to explain, so I want to slow down and listen first.”

My humility phrase:

4. Faith Check

Faith helps the minister trust God’s work without controlling the outcome.

Complete the following.

A conflict outcome I would be tempted to control is:

A situation where I may feel pressure to force peace is:

A reminder I need from John 15:5, “Apart from me you can do nothing,” is:

One way I can entrust outcomes to God after a session is:

Prayer of entrustment:

Lord, I entrust ________________________________________________ to You.

What belongs to me is:

What belongs to the person receiving care is:

What belongs to others is:

What belongs to You alone is:

5. Love Check

Peacefire love holds truth and tenderness together.

Where am I more naturally inclined?

☐ Truth without enough tenderness
☐ Tenderness without enough truth
☐ Avoidance in the name of peace
☐ Directness that can become harsh
☐ Sympathy that can become rescue
☐ Patience that can become passivity
☐ Other: ________________________________________

Reflection

How can I better hold truth and tenderness together?

What kind of person or situation makes this harder for me?

What Scripture can help form my love?

6. Desire to Please God

Second Corinthians 5:9 teaches believers to make it their aim to please the Lord.

In Peacefire Ministry, I may be tempted to please:

☐ The person receiving care
☐ The other party
☐ A church leader
☐ A family system
☐ A ministry team
☐ My own need to feel useful
☐ My own need to be liked
☐ My own need to be seen as wise
☐ My own desire for quick visible results
☐ Other: ________________________________________

Reflection

Where do I feel the strongest pressure to please people?

What would faithfulness before God look like in that pressure?

A phrase I can pray before a difficult session:

“Lord, help me be faithful before You, not merely pleasing to people.”

My own prayer:

7. Embodied Ministry Check

Conflict ministry affects the body. Notice your embodied responses.

When I am in a tense conversation, I often notice:

☐ Tight chest
☐ Shallow breathing
☐ Headache
☐ Stomach tension
☐ Raised voice
☐ Fast talking
☐ Silence or shutdown
☐ Fatigue afterward
☐ Racing thoughts
☐ Anger
☐ Fear
☐ Numbness
☐ Urgency to act
☐ Desire to escape
☐ Other: ________________________________________

Reflection

What might my body be telling me during or after conflict conversations?

What physical practices help me return to calm presence?

☐ Breath prayer
☐ Walking
☐ Silence
☐ Drinking water
☐ Rest
☐ Journaling
☐ Talking with a supervisor
☐ Scripture meditation
☐ Sabbath
☐ Other: ________________________________________

My embodied Peacefire practice will be:

8. Over-Involvement Warning Signs

Over-involvement often begins as compassion but can become hidden Wildfire.

My warning signs of over-involvement may include:

☐ Thinking about the person’s conflict constantly
☐ Feeling responsible for the outcome
☐ Answering messages immediately out of anxiety
☐ Becoming angry at someone I have not met
☐ Feeling personally rejected when guidance is not followed
☐ Giving more access than my practice allows
☐ Neglecting family, rest, prayer, or other responsibilities
☐ Avoiding referral because I want to remain helpful
☐ Feeling indispensable
☐ Talking about the case too much
☐ Losing sleep because of ministry concerns
☐ Other: ________________________________________

Reflection

Which warning sign is most likely for me?

What will I do when I notice this warning sign?

Who will I contact for supervision or consultation?

9. Personal Rule of Life for Peacefire Ministry

A rule of life is a simple pattern that helps you remain rooted in Christ.

Complete the plan below.

Prayer Rhythm

I will pray for my Peacefire Ministry Practice:

☐ Daily
☐ Before each session
☐ After each session
☐ Weekly
☐ With a prayer partner
☐ Other: ________________________________________

My specific prayer rhythm:

Scripture Rhythm

I will regularly return to these Scriptures:

Worship and Church Connection

My regular worship/community connection will be:

Sabbath and Rest

My rest rhythm will include:

Physical Stewardship

To care for my embodied life, I will:

Confession and Correction

The person or group that can lovingly correct me is:

Continuing Formation

This year, I need growth in:

☐ Conflict care
☐ Boundaries
☐ Listening
☐ Referral readiness
☐ Trauma awareness
☐ Domestic violence awareness
☐ Mandatory reporting
☐ Pastoral care
☐ Chaplaincy
☐ Coaching skills
☐ Prayer and spiritual formation
☐ Emotional health
☐ Leadership
☐ Other: ________________________________________

My continuing formation plan:

B. Formation of the Practice

10. Supervision and Accountability Map

A Peacefire Ministry Practice should not operate in isolation.

My Ministry Setting

My Peacefire Ministry Practice will likely serve through:

☐ Soul Center
☐ Local church
☐ Chaplaincy setting
☐ Parish ministry
☐ Online ministry
☐ Community-based ministry
☐ Other: ________________________________________

My Primary Oversight Person or Group

Name:

Role:

Contact information:

How often will I check in?

☐ Weekly
☐ Twice monthly
☐ Monthly
☐ As needed
☐ Before difficult cases
☐ Other: ________________________________________

My Consultation Triggers

I will seek consultation before continuing when:

☐ Abuse, coercion, threats, violence, stalking, or danger are mentioned
☐ A minor or vulnerable adult may be at risk
☐ Mandatory reporting may apply
☐ A person wants a joint meeting
☐ I feel unusually angry, anxious, protective, or confused
☐ I am unsure whether referral is needed
☐ A person becomes dependent on constant access
☐ A church or family system pressures me
☐ Legal, medical, counseling, or crisis concerns appear
☐ Reconciliation is being pressured before safety or repentance is present
☐ I may be exceeding my role
☐ Other: ________________________________________

My written consultation policy:

11. Communication Boundaries

Clear communication boundaries protect love and safety.

Session Length

My standard session length will be:

☐ 30 minutes
☐ 45 minutes
☐ 60 minutes
☐ 75 minutes
☐ Other: ________________________________________

Communication Channels

I will communicate through:

☐ Email
☐ Phone
☐ Text
☐ Church office
☐ Soul Center communication channel
☐ Secure ministry platform
☐ Other: ________________________________________

I will not use:

Response Time

My normal response time will be:

Example:

“I normally respond to non-emergency messages within 24–48 hours.”

My response-time statement:

Emergency Language

Peacefire Ministry is not emergency response. My emergency statement will be:

Example:

“If someone is in immediate danger or may harm themselves or someone else, contact emergency services or a qualified crisis resource immediately. Peacefire coaching is not emergency response.”

After each session, I will document:

☐ Date and time
☐ General topic
☐ Safety concerns mentioned
☐ Referrals recommended
☐ Next faithful step
☐ Follow-up plan
☐ Consultation needed
☐ Other: ________________________________________

I will avoid documenting:

☐ Gossip
☐ Speculation
☐ Unverified accusations as proven facts
☐ Harsh labels
☐ Unnecessary personal details
☐ Clinical diagnoses outside my role
☐ Legal conclusions outside my role
☐ Other: ________________________________________

My documentation location and privacy practice will be:

My follow-up rhythm will be:

15. Practice Safety Statement

Draft a short safety and scope statement for your Peacefire Ministry Practice.

Include these ideas:

Peacefire Ministry is Christian coaching and formation support.

It is not therapy, legal advice, investigation, emergency response, or formal mediation unless separately authorized.

Confidentiality has limits.

Safety, reporting, referral, and host-ministry policies will be honored.

Forgiveness does not require unsafe access.

Draft statement:

16. Peacefire Coach Minister Accountability Plan

Use the answers above to complete your accountability plan.

My Practice Name

My Ministry Setting

My Oversight Person or Group

My Supervision Rhythm

My Consultation Triggers

My Prayer Rhythm

My Continuing Formation Plan

My Communication Boundaries

My Referral Readiness Plan

My Over-Involvement Warning Signs

My Healthy Limit Commitment

I commit to honoring these limits so that my ministry remains faithful, safe, humble, and sustainable:

17. Final Personal Commitment

Complete this statement.

By God’s grace, I will seek to become a Peacefire Coach Minister who is:

humble enough to be corrected,

faithful enough to trust God with outcomes,

loving enough to hold truth and tenderness together,

wise enough to stay within my role,

courageous enough to refer when needed,

and rooted enough in Christ to serve without becoming the savior.

My personal commitment:

Closing Prayer

Lord Jesus,
Make me a faithful Peacefire Coach Minister. Keep me humble, prayerful, teachable, accountable, and grounded in Your love. Protect me from pride, fear, rescue, control, exhaustion, and over-involvement. Help me build a ministry practice with wise boundaries, trusted supervision, clear communication, referral readiness, and deep reliance on You. Form my life so that I may help others return to the Peacefire of Your presence. Amen.

Modifié le: dimanche 21 juin 2026, 17:39