Reading: Pastor’s Wife Expectations (The Video Slides)

The Pastor's Wife Expectations
by Henry Reyenga

The Key Expectations

List of expectations:  NOT

Piano Player, Bible Study Leader, Woman's Problem solver, Peacemaker, Social Director and more.

The Key Expectations

Expectations of Godly Woman

Walk, Character and Support

While Utilizing her gifts in a non political and non-divisive way

The Key Expectations

The Normative Pattern

Acts 21:5 But when our time was up, we left and continued on our way. All the disciples and their wives and children accompanied us out of the city, and there on the beach we knelt to pray.

Some Suggestions

1. Find Support with other pastor's wives, but positive ones.
2. Keep your home discipleship fire alive with your husband
3. Keep your relationship fire alive
4. Keep your bedroom fire alive

The Key Expectations

Words of Wisdom to a Wannabe Pastor's Wife

Posted on 06.29.09 by Paula Hendricks

https://www.reviveourhearts.com/true-woman/blog/words-of-wisdom-to-a-wannabe-pastors-wife/

Words of Wisdom to a Wannabe Pastor's Wife

1) Watch out for him. You know him and have his best interests in mind. If he is overworking himself, lovingly bring it to his attention. Try to find ways to lighten the load. Occasionally, there are seasons where there is no way around the busyness at church. During those times, be his "fun zone!” Be the place where he can relax and not have to fix problems.

Words of Wisdom to a Wannabe Pastor's Wife

2) Give your husband helpful and honest feedback. When he asks for advice, try not to shoot off the cuff, but take it seriously. Take time to think through your opinions carefully to be sure they are wise and accurate.

Words of Wisdom to a Wannabe Pastor's Wife

• 3) Stand with him when times are tough. Even when you disagree with him, respect him, both publicly and privately. Pray that God will give him wisdom in making decisions. Do not forget the seriousness of his calling. He is bringing the gospel to the church each week.

Words of Wisdom to a Wannabe Pastor's Wife

• Never gossip. As a pastor's wife, you will be privy to much personal information. Keep all of it to yourself. Let this knowledge drive you to pray. It is a privilege to have the trust of people and to be in a position to help them. We must guard that trust. 

Words of Wisdom to a Wannabe Pastor's Wife

• Grow a thick skin. A pastor almost never gets a 100% approval rating from the church (except maybe during the first month)! There will be criticisms. Try not to take every conflict too seriously. Keep a sense of humor. This is easier said than done, I know. But Jesus will help us when we ask.

Words of Wisdom to a Wannabe Pastor's Wife

• Be careful what you read concerning being a pastor's wife. There are lots of negative statistics and studies telling how hard it can be. This is not really helpful or useful information. Read people who are positive and offer help for getting through the tough stuff. 

A Godly Woman

1 Timothy 3:11  In the same way, their wives are to be women worthy of respect, not malicious talkers but temperate and trustworthy in everything.