Reading: Helping People Discover Their Buttons, Part I (The Video Slides)
Helping People Discover their Buttons, Pt 1
By Henry Reyenga
Inappropriate Dependence
1. Overworked sensitivity: the symptoms
Experience hurt feeling over little things
Read into the actions and statements of others too much
Expect the worst to happen
Assume others are more upset than they are
Frequently feel overwhelmed with emotions that are hard to control
Cure: Good boundaries are appropriate self-interest
2. Enmeshment: the symptoms giving streams of unsolicited advice
Being so sympathetic that others take advantage of their forgiving spirit
Feeling responsible for making others happy
Placing other's guilt on themselves
Excessively invested in others' feelings and emotions
Yelling and screaming to make a point
3. Dependence comes from a need for recognition!
Symptom: Relying on people for self-worth
Cure: Relying on God for self-worth
Buttons Identification
Genesis 1:28 God blessed them and said to them, "Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth and subdue it. Rule over the fish of the sea and the birds of the air and over every living creature that moves on the ground.”
Food
- Comfort
- Healthy
- Eating Out
- Habits
- Experience at the table
- Spiritual practices?
Discipline?
- Permissive
- Strict
- Balanced
- Abusive
- Verbally
- Physically
- Sexually
Spiritual Attitudes
Religion?
What level of Practice?
What level of leadership was modeled? What were the home practices?
Did you have any bad experiences with Churches?
When or if did you begin a personal relationship with Christ?
What role does Christianity play in your life? Your marriage? Your family?
Did you get an out of balance view of Christianity?