Reading: Helping People Discover Their Buttons, Part I (The Video Slides)

Helping People Discover their Buttons, Pt 1
By Henry Reyenga

Inappropriate Dependence

1. Overworked sensitivity: the symptoms

Experience hurt feeling over little things

Read into the actions and statements of others too much

Expect the worst to happen

Assume others are more upset than they are

Frequently feel overwhelmed with emotions that are hard to control

Cure: Good boundaries are appropriate self-interest

2. Enmeshment: the symptoms giving streams of unsolicited advice

Being so sympathetic that others take advantage of their forgiving spirit

Feeling responsible for making others happy

Placing other's guilt on themselves

Excessively invested in others' feelings and emotions

Yelling and screaming to make a point

3. Dependence comes from a need for recognition!

Symptom: Relying on people for self-worth

Cure: Relying on God for self-worth

Buttons Identification

 Genesis 1:28 God blessed them and said to them, "Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth and subdue it. Rule over the fish of the sea and the birds of the air and over every living creature that moves on the ground.”

Food

• Comfort
• Healthy
• Eating Out
• Habits
• Experience at the table
• Spiritual practices?

 
Discipline?

• Permissive
• Strict
• Balanced
• Abusive
  • Verbally
  • Physically
  • Sexually

Spiritual Attitudes

Religion?

What level of Practice?

What level of leadership was modeled? What were the home practices?

Did you have any bad experiences with Churches?

When or if did you begin a personal relationship with Christ?

What role does Christianity play in your life? Your marriage? Your family?

Did you get an out of balance view of Christianity?