Slides: Lesson 2

Most common answer given when people are asked about their relationships today: it’s complicated.

Kristina Lynn

People Are Confused About Relationships

Single cannot find someone commitment-minded and sensible to marry

Married people are trying to figure out what they’ve gotten themselves into

Divorcees are afraid to try again because of broken hearts, fear, distrust and betrayal

The widowed are struggling to decide if they have it in them to live with someone again

So many are products of relationships that didn’t work or are barely working

We’re producing generations without respect for marriage, who are afraid of marriage, don’t understand marriage…yet we want love.

God is not the author of confusion.

1 Corinthians 14:33

Confusion and impotence are the inevitable results when the wisdom and resources of the world are substituted for the presence and power of the Spirit.

Samual Chadwick

The World’s 5 Types of Relationships

1. Intimacy without commitment – I’ll have sex with you, but don’t expect anything from me.  I want you to have my baby, but not my money.

2. Co-habit – let’s not get too committed or complicated and just enjoy each other for a while.  Free sex and pay rent.

3.  Trial Marriage – before we get married, let’s live together and see if we’re compatible.

4. Marriage with pre-conditions – I’ll marry you, but you have no right to put your name on my house, property or assets.  My first wife and children get everything.

5. Prenuptials – I’ll marry you, but you have to sign a contract that nyou don’t want any of my stuff.  I don’t trust you already.  Let’s get married.

How can we love without trust.  How can we base love on suspicion of what you came to take from me instead of what I came to give to you.

- Decreased stigma
- Try first / Test compatibility
- Avoid wedding expense
- Avoid divorce, legal complications, family entanglements, emotional stress, financial costs
- Women in control of reproduction
- Women making more money / higher educated

Yale

- 55% cohabitating couples get married within 5
  years
- 40% split up
- 5% stay living together
- 20% of women get pregnant in fort 12 months
- No benefit to reducing divorce rates

BrandonGaille.com

- 85% break up or divorce in 10 years
- Women more likely to suffer domestic abuse and
  mental health conditions
- 65% of Hispanic women co-habituating before
  age 25
- 3 of 4 third marriages or cohabitation end in
  divorce / separation

BrandonGaille.com

- Most googled terms “How Do I Get Him To  
  Commit” and “I Hate My Husband”

- 70% of Divorce filed by women

- When both college educated 90% divorce filed
  by woman

American Sociological Association

- 43% children living without their father involved in their lives

Divorcelawyersformen.com

Children born out of wedlock are disadvantaged and fail to receive the necessary protections, support and assistance to ensure their health, development and wellbeing.  This challenge, too often ignored to the detriment of the children, communities and countries, must be addressed.

Joseph Chamie, Former Director UN Population Division