Reading: Lesson 15 - Myths about Sex

Myths about Sex  

If you save sex for marriage, it will be amazing and awesome

The best thing about marriage is sex 

Good sex just happens naturally; it doesn’t take any work, talk, or intentionality 

Everyone has the same assumptions and experiences

Sex is just about what happens in the bedroom

“If marriage or marital sex is asked to deliver self-actualization or good sex on tap, it is likely to disappoint. But it can excel at what it is designed for: drawing people more and more deeply toward love. Practicing sex, over and over in the course of a marriage, makes plain that sexual intimacy is not an opportunity to get, have, or do a person or an experience. Instead, it is the opportunity to give and receive love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control (Gal. 5:22-23). The fruit of the Spirit ripens in the body.” – Jenell Williams Paris, The End of Sexual Identity (Downers Grove, Il.: InterVarsity Press, 2011), 117.