Notes: "I am needed" Attitude


Taking control of your parenting Part 4
Steve Elzinga


Giving Your Kids the "I am needed" Attitude

 

I.  Believe that you 
are needed

Problem: Parents have a huge need to be needed that is not met.

Result: Parents often steal their children's significance.

 

Discover their purpose

Ephesians 2:10 For we are God's workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.

 

 

Discover their gifts and use them

1 Corinthians 12:12 The spirit's presence is shown in some way in each person for the good of all ....  He gives a different gift to each person.

1 Corinthians 12:27 Now here is what I am trying to say: All of you together are the one body of Christ, and each one of you is a separate and necessary part of it.

 

II.  Believe that your 
child is needed

Matthew 19:14 Jesus said, Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of heaven belongs to such as these.

III.  Help your child 
believe he/she is needed.

Problem:  

Kids today often feel like liabilities, not assets.

Kids today often feel like they do not belong.

note:  If our children do not find a positive place to belong to where they feel needed, they will find a negative place.

 

Solution:

Instead of giving, let them give.

2 Corinthians 12:27 If you give little, you will get little.

Instead of lecturing, listen to them.

Proverbs 18:13 He who answers before listening‑‑ that is his folly and his shame.

 

IV.  Introduce your child 
to the God who wants both 
you on the team


Ephesians 1:11 It's in Christ that we find out who we are and what we are living for.  Long before we first heard of Christ and got our hopes up, he had his eye on us, had designs on us for glorious living, part of the overall purpose he is working out in everything and everyone.