Notes: Specialized Parenting Skills

taking control of your parenting
Part 12
Steve Elzinga


Dealing with Special Parenting Issues

1. Single Parent Issues

The Challenge:

One parent doing what two often struggle to do

Ecclesiastes 4:8-9 Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor:  If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up.

 

Single Parent Issues

Dealing with a Death of a parent:

Cover up feelings

Unfocused anger

Time stamped

Attachment  disorder

Rebellion

 

Single Parent Issues

Dealing with a Divorce:

Blame Game

Pawn Syndrome

Distrust

Attachment  disorder

Rebellion

 

Single Parent Issues

What to do:

Never assume everything is ok

Talk and listen

Get help before it is needed

Get other adults into your child’s life

Make use of the church family

 

Blended Families 
challenges

The Challenge:

Up to four parents trying to do what was designed for two.

 

blended families

Shared families with different discipline systems, income levels, values, religions beliefs, political  viewpoints, etc.

Step-parents

Step-siblings

Feuds between ex’s

Money issues

 

 

 

Problems that arise 
in blended families

What to do:

Communication

Keep the peace

Treat all kids like they were your own

Do normal good parenting

 

 

 

Adopted Children 
Challenges

What to do:

Communication

Be consistant with all your children (discipline, encouragement, opportuniites offered, support)

Get help from church and other adoptees

 

 

 

By the way, 
We are all adopted

 

Ephesians 1:5 God decided in advance to adopt us into his own family by bringing us to himself through Jesus Christ. This is what he wanted to do, and it gave him great pleasure.