Transcripts for Days 31-40



Day 31 – 40 - Helping People Walk in Song of Songs Sexuality 

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Video Transcript: Helping Couples Get The Sex Life God Intended For Them -Professor Steve Elzinga 

Hello, my name is Steve Elzinga. And I want to talk about how you can help couples get the sex life that God intended for them. Why is this whole topic needed? Just real quick, sex is more important. On the one hand, and less important than most Christians think it's, it's not everything your walk with God is the most important what you're doing as a family is more important. And yet God has made us physical beings, and He created us in His image, to different parts. And so somehow the whole sex role is part of what how God has created us. Sex is more divisive than most Christian people think. It's not not important. Couples often have different sex needs and drives. And because of that, there's often conflict, the different roles that we have as man and wife often pit one sex against the other. Sex is more exposed, and hidden than most people's like on the one hand, we live in a culture where sex is everywhere. On the other hand, often as couples, we don't even talk about our sex lives and in our needs, and we find it very difficult to talk about these things. So how can you let the Bible help people that you're trying to help, perhaps as the people in your congregation, first of all, help them understand God's original plan. God made human beings male and female, it says that God created us in His image. But then it says, male and female, he created them. 

Were made in the image of a Triune God, God is Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. And then when he creates a human being, he does so in two parts. In Genesis chapter two, says that the two become one, the three in one God is a trinity is reflected in the two and what we're doing created to be rulers, we manage things we're get, we were put in charge of the earth. In Genesis chapter one, God creates the world in six days. And after every day, God looked at what he created. And he says, It is good, it is good is good. On the sixth day, God creates the first man and he says it is very good. But then a Genesis chapter two, we read that the man is all alone. And God says it is not good. My wife is very fond of pointing out to me that it took the creation of a woman to make creation good. It is not good for a man to be all alone. And that's generally true. And so God creates a helper. It's translated helper. But that word that is translated helper, it's used very few times in the Old Testament. And most times the word helper is used of God, as in God is our helper, and our strength. And I don't think we mean that God is our maid. And certainly, that's not the meaning here, man by himself is not complete, and he needs someone to complete him. And so the woman is created as a completer of man.

It also says that no suitable helper was found. So God says, It's not good that a man be all alone. And then it says, no suitable helper was found. And then we have this whole naming of the animals things. And as if God and Adam were on the look for a suitable helper, and, you know, so God parades, all the animals in front of Adam, and maybe started with the aardvark, and you know, how about this one? No, that one isn't quite suitable and through all of creation, all the animals parade before Adam, and none of them is suitable. And so God then puts the man to sleep, and he takes a rib from the man and he creates the first woman. And then when Adam wakes up, he sees the first woman and he says, This is now bone of my bone and flesh of my flesh. And what he's really saying is, this is the one for me. Finally, This is a suitable helper, someone that completes me. And then the text says something about leaving, the woman leaves her family and cleaves to the man. And then the last part of Genesis chapter two is the to become one. And that's not just a sexual thing. It's literally, the word means to take up the same space, husband and wife take up the very same space, that the one's life is intersected with the other, what one is going through the other one shares? Well, that was God's original plan in Genesis chapter one and two. Well, the next thing that you need to do with couples is to help them understand what went wrong. The original plan was perfect. Both Adam and Eve were naked, they felt no shame. They walked with each other, they walked with God. But then Genesis three comes along, and the devil comes with his lies. He comes to Eve with a lie. And then Eve passes it on to Adam. 

We don't know exactly why they fell for the lie. They could be like God, maybe they felt like they were missing out of something. But they take control, and they eat the apple that they weren't supposed to. They disobeyed God. And two things happen after they sinned. We don't know why exactly the sinned, you're in a perfect situation. You're in Paradise, what more can you want. But yet they sin. We don't know exactly why they did it. But we know exactly what happened after they did it. There were two things that happened. They hid, they hid First of all, from one another, they can no longer face each other in their nakedness. And they had shame. And there's brokenness, and there's distrust. And we've seen that every since between human beings, and especially between husbands and wives, there's this brokenness that is there, and this hiding from one another. And the second thing they do is they hide from God when God comes around. And that's what sin does, it makes us hide from each other. And it makes us hide from God. The bottom line is now human beings, married couples have this fear, fear of being found out, fear that that the other is going to find something wrong, you know, with me. On the one hand, there's that fear. On the other hand, there's the sense that I have to manipulate the other person to get what I want, that I'm going to be missing out, that I have to do things in order to control that other person and to give them the satisfaction that I'm looking for. So you need to help couples. First of all, understand that God created sex as a good thing. It was part of the perfect world. In fact, it's part of what makes us like God, but then sin has messed it up, and there's brokenness and there's hiding and there's manipulation, and there's control, and there's shame. So, how do you help people get back to the garden? As soon as messed it up? God's original idea was good. So how in the world are we going to help people get back to the garden and what I want to do in this next section is deal with the Song of Songs.

Video Transcript: Song of Songs And Sex - Professor Steve Elzinga 

All right, we're going to take a little jaunt through the book of Song of Songs, talking about love and marriage. It's a hot book in the Bible. So let's have a look. But we're going to do is look at the man ask a few questions, what is he? What does he want? And what does he fear? Then we'll look at the woman. What is she? What does she want? And what does she fear? And hopefully, as we look at this, it can sort of give couples an idea of what, it's really about communication. Sin has corrupted this whole thing, this beautiful gift that God has given to us. But because of God's love through Christ, there's a new love that's available to us. But that love is communicated and in a way gets worked into our lives. The more we talk and listen to one another. That's what prayer and Bible reading is all about. And so in some ways, going through the Song of Songs is like, it's like doing devotions together. It's talking and listening repeatedly to each other, and with God in your presence. And whatever you do that good things happen. 

So first of all, the man what is he? Number one he's a visual creature. Song of Songs two verse 14. My dove in the cliffs of the rock and the hiding places on the mountain side, show me your face. Let me hear your voice for your voices sweet in your face is lovely men are visual, they want to see they respond to visual stimuli. Number two, song The song 14 four verse 16, awake north wind and come south wind blow in my garden. That is his fragrance may spread everywhere let my beloved come into his garden, and tastes its choice fruits. Number three, the man is hungry. Song 5 verse one. I've come into my garden, my sister, my bride, I've gathered my myrrh and my spice. I beat my honeycomb and my honey. I've drunk my wine in my milk. Men are very, they respond to their bodies and their bodies needs. Men are builders. Song of song three verse nine and 10 King Solomon made for himself a carriage. He made it a wood from Lebanon. Its post he made of silver its base of gold. Its seat was upholstered with purple its interior inlaid with love. Men communicate with their hands. They want to make something they want to provide something that's part of who they are. They're not just talkers, they want to do stuff. Number five men are part of a pack. Song three verse seven. Look at Solomon's carriage with 60 of Israel's mighty men surrounding it. Men like to be a part of groups and part of teams. They feel powerful when they're part of something that's going on. Okay, the man What does he want? Number one to know that he's the best song two verse three, like the finest apple tree in the orchard is my lover. Among other young men. I sit in his delightful shade and taste his delicious fruit. Ladies, men want to know that they're the best. Maybe they're not the best. And maybe they know they're not the best. But they still like to hear once in a while that they're the best. 

Song five verses 10 through 16 my lover is dark and dazzling better than 10,000 others. His head his finest gold is wavy hair is black is a raven his eyes sparkle like doves besides springs of water. They are set like jewels washed in milk his cheeks are like gardens of spices giving off fragrance. His lips are like lilies perfumed with Myrrh these are the kinds of words now a man will never tell you this. Man will never say that he's looking for compliments. But if you give them they will have their effect. His arms are like the rounded bars of gold set with barrel. His body is like bright ivory glowing with lupus loosely. His legs are like marble pillars setting sockets of finest gold his pasture is stately like the noble cedars of Lebanon. His mouth is sweetness itself. He's desirable in every way. Such a woman of Jerusalem is my lover. My friend. Man wants to go places. Song two verse 13, figs are beginning to ripe the area's fragment with blossoming vines come then my love my darling, come with me. A man wants exclusive rights to his woman. You are my private garden, my treasure my Bride, a secluded spring, a hidden fountain. Men like a little adventure come my love. Let us go out to the fields and spend the night among the wild flowers. Men want to prize one woman I know that the popular culture is that men run around, and you know, they're built that way but the reality is a man wants something to prize, something of his own. Even among 60 queens and 80 concubines and countless young women, I would still choose my dove, my perfect one the favorite of her mother, dearly loved by the one who bore her. The young woman you see and praise her young women see her in praise or even queens and Royal concubines singer praises. The man what does he fear? His biggest fear is rejection. Psalm two verse 14, I slept on my heart was awake when I heard my lover knocking and calling open to me my treasure my darling, my dog, my perfect one. My head is drenched with do my hair with the dampness of the night. But I responded, I've taken off my robe should I get dressed again? I've washed my feet should I get them soil? The second thing that a man fears is to be marginalized. Song eight verse 13, oh my darling lingering in the gardens your companions are fortunate to hear your voice. Let me hear it too. Number three, the loss of manhood. Song four verse eight, come with me from the Lebanon mountain, my Bride, come with me from Lebanon come down from the top of the mountain, Amana for months in year and mountain Herman where the lions and leopards live. before the dawn breezes blow in the night shadows flee I will hurry to the mountain of Myrrh until the hill of Frankincense. Okay, we've looked at the man what he is, what he fears, what he wants. 

Now let's look at the woman What is she? Number one? she's concerned about her looks. Song one verse six, don't look down on me because of my color. Because the sun is tending my brothers were angry with me and I made and made me work in the vineyard. I had no time to care for myself in those days, having a tanned was not a good thing. Because it whether your skin and people wanted to stay out of the sun. She's concerned about her looks. Number two, a woman is concerned about being attractive or not. Song four verse 16, wake up north wind, south wind blown my garden filled the air with fragments let my lover come to his garden and eat the best of its fruits. Number three, a woman is social, most beautiful women whereas your lover gone tell us which way your lover went so we can help you find him. She's part of a group of people. Number four, a woman is adventurous or likes flowers. One of the two. Come I love her. Let us go to the fields and spend the night among the wild flowers. The woman what does she want? She wants words of love from her man song one verse 15 how beautiful you are my love, how your eyes shine with love. Those are the kinds of words that she likes to hear. Song one verse 15 how beautiful you are my love how your eyes shine with love behind your veil, your hair dances like a flock of goats bounding down the hills of Gillian, your teeth are as white as sheep that have just been shorn and washed. Not one of them is missing. Now this is Solomon talking. And he's trying to be real poetic here. You know? He's not doing really well. I mean, you go up to him and you say you know honey, you're really beautiful. I first of all, appreciate that you have all your teeth. I mean that's not high poetry. But you know what? Women are not looking for perfection. 

They know men generally are not great poets. What they appreciate is any kind of attempt. Your lips are like scarlet ribbon, how lovely they are when you speak your cheeks glow behind your vale. Your neck is like the Tower of David you can see King Solomon is struggling the Tower of David, round and smooth with a necklace like 1000 shields hung around it. So you know King Solomon is doing the best he can he is a you know a person of war and he's using those things are your breasts are like gazelles twin deer feeding among the lilies. I will stay on the hill of Myrrh, the hill of incense until the morning breezes blow in the darkness disappears how beautiful you are my love how perfect you are. A woman wants to know that she's the best. Song two verse two, like Lily among the thorns is by darling among women. He brought me through his banquet hall and raised the banner of love over me. Song six eight through nine let the king have 60 queens and 80 concubines, young women without number but but I love only one and she is as lovely as a dove. She is her mother's only daughter her mother's favorite child. All women look at her and praise her queens and concubines sing her praises. That's what she wants to know. She's the best. She wants to be pursued. Psalm two verse eight, I hear my lover's voice. He comes running over the mountains racing across the hills to me. I belong to my lover, and he desires me. She wants to be held. His left hand is under my head and his right hand caresses me. She wants to have problems taken care of, catch the foxes the little foxes before they ruin our vineyard in bloom. So there's foxes making a mess of the garden. She wants to have a joint exclusive relationship, my lover is mine, and I am his, he feeds his flock among the lilies until the morning breezes blow in the darkness disappears, returned my darling, like a gazelle like a stag, on the mountains of bather. What does she fear? First of all, she fears being abandoned. I opened the door for my lover. But he'd already gone. How I wanted to hear his voice. I looked for him but I couldn't find him. I called him but heard no answer. She's afraid of what people think. I wish that you were my brother that my mother had nursed you at her breast, then if I met you in the street, I could kiss you and no one would mind she's afraid of what people might say what they think. She's afraid of not being desired. Don't look down on me because of my color because the sun is tanned me.

So as we look at the Song of Songs, there's things in there that describe how a man wants certain things. And how a woman wants certain things, what they fear and what they want. And if we study these things, we can just we can discern how we can get back to the garden. But really, what I encourage you to do is to get couples thinking about this. In fact, we have we're working on any way a book that actually goes through the Song of Songs in a way that couples can sort of do it together. Because the key really, in trying to get couples to work through the whole issue of the brokenness of the whole sexual area is getting them to start talking and listening in a prayerful attitude to actually study the Word of God together, and to start praying about these things and start talking about their different perspectives, their different needs, what they fear, what they don't fear, what they hope for, what would they like from the other person. That's really the key to sort of getting back to the garden. So this course is just getting you started. But I hope you can check some of those products out. Because I think if you can get couples actually to work together to get talking and listening going together. Then they'll find the sex life that God intended for them.

Video Transcript: The #1 Key to Incredible Sex Dr. Mark Gungor 

All righty, here we go. The number one key to incredible sex. Exclusivity when one man focuses just on one woman looking at the Song of Solomon. Now she writes and says, I belong to my lover, and his desire is for me. Something incredible happens when a man focuses on just one woman. Now, this is radical, what I'm telling you because our culture today says the key to great sex is lust. The more you fantasize, the more you check out the hot babes, the more you're looking at pornography on the internet, and who the better your sex life will be. But they are lying to you. Our culture has completely lost its mind in this area, and all the experts talk like this to keep them credible sex is to fantasize and to masturbate. And who is this woman? I can't imagine her having sex just like Hollywood, Hollywood, the people who can't stay married for more than three months at a time, is giving us the perfect scenario for great sex lust, fantasy, hoo, hoo, hoo, hoo. But it is a big, fat, stinky, puking lie. It doesn't work. So you're just against it. Because you're a preacher. No, no, no, I do not oppose lust on moral grounds. I could, I could preach it to hell and back if you want. But I don't have to. It doesn't work. At least if it worked. It would make some degree of sense, but it does not. And no one challenges today.

You ever read that story of the Emperor's New Clothes? Or everybody walked around, went around and told Emperor how great he looked and always just walk around his underwear and buy Oh, you're great. And some little kid finally says, you know he's naked. I feel like that little kid. All the experts today, they keep repeating the same lie over and over and over and over again. And everyone just Oh, yes. Oh yes, the Emperor's clothes are magnificent. Oh, yes. lust and pornography. And masturbation. Oh, this is fantastic sucks when you do this, but it doesn't work. And the proof is in the pudding. People that want to have proof by proof is you guys who do it. Let me ask you guys, you guys who sit around in the dark and check out the hot babes on the internet and sit around yank on your wigner. Come on you wang or wankers you knew I'm talking to you. Let me ask you a question. How's that working for you? You got great sex. You know, you don't. In fact, the more you do it, the more you indulge in it, the worse your sex life becomes. And the prescription the world gives us as you know, well, you just need more porn. You need more porn, but it doesn't help. It keeps making it worse. It is destroying people's lives. And Hollywood, they just don't get it. All these experts. I was watching this one show this. You've seen the show Family Feud. This one week they had soap opera stars on, and I'll hand it to these people. They look great. But they were as dumb as a box of rocks. And they asked him this one question said 100 people surveyed. What can you do to improve your romantic life? And they come up to the first teams Okay, I need an answer. Oh, yeah. Okay. And they come to the first person and he says, What's your answer? What? What can you do to improve your romantic life? He goes, have an affair. And all the other rocks in the box go? Good answer. Good answer. Good answer. Have an affair.

How can you be so stupid and still breathe. The way to improve your sex life is to have an affair with somebody else. But that's the culture they live in the more or less the more naughty somehow it improves and it does not improve it destroys. I know psychiatry and psychologists who have prescribed to couples in an effort to improve their relationship having an affair. So ignorant are they that the Emperor is walking around naked? went over to the next you know, they said having a guy looked at him like he was nuts. Okay. Have an affair. What are the next rock? What can you do to improve your romantic life? You pornography together? Oh, good answer. Good answer. Good answer. View porno at every answer they came up with was lust based. Three strikes, they couldn't get it went over to the other box of rocks. Same thing. I'd never seen it before. Neither side could get one answer. That's when they got done. He said, Well, let's let's take a look. And it was like, you know, spend time with each other have a romantic dinner, take a long walk. You know, bring her flowers stuff that any moron knows.

But these people don't get it. They don't get it. Oh, yeah, that's, that's great. Look, you know, the world's answer to great sex. Their formula is number one, fantasize. Oh, yeah, that's a good idea. Ignore the real woman in your life. And focus on one who would never give you the time of day? Oh, yeah. Yeah, let's let's do that. Let's, let's pretend let's let's live in a fantasy world. We are trading in real women for fantasies. How can we be so stupid. And this is becoming a real problem. And you know who's beginning to notice it. A lot of people way off on the liberal left are starting to notice it. They're starting to write about it and they're starting to realize there is a problem. Men are becoming more and more diminished sexually and are becoming unable to perform because they have so overstimulated themselves with pornography. It is destroying them. I've met women who've told me that their husbands prefer pornography and masturbation to actually making love to them. I had a woman in my office and she's a 20 something year old, good looking woman, like hoochie mama. Okay. I don't think pastors notice that sort of thing. Hey, I may be sanctified, but I'm not petrified. A good looking woman is a good looking woman. And she tells me sitting there she says, My husband hasn't touched my vagina in over a year. Not interested. So you're kidding me? What does it What does he want and why? He just wants me to do these weird things to him. All garbage. He's gotten his head through looking at porn, trading in real women, for fantasies. What in the world? So many women I've talked to in the last few years as my husband admits he would he would rather masturbate than then make love to me. Fantasize and masturbate? Well, that's the idea of great sex. And what is it with this masturbating thing? And the passion to which these people rise to defend masturbation as some form of great sex.

I don't get it. I'd love to know who the first hillbilly was at went, you know, it's kind of look like a vagina. Thanks, you just got that and this is starting to destroy a lot of men's sex lives, do not fool yourselves. There is no way in the world, you can keep doing that over and over and over again and not retrain your body. Everybody knows this, when it comes to anything physical athletes notice they train, they do the same repetitive action over and over again in order to train their bodies. So their bodies will respond in a certain way athletes do this, whether it's tennis or football or whatever, they train over and over again. So the without thinking about their body reacts in a certain way. Military knows that you train young men to react in a certain way. They do the same drills over and over and over and over again. Why? Because you train your body so that without thinking you act in a certain way. How in the name of God, our culture is teaching our young people from the age of 13 to start masturbating 2 - 3 - 5, some of them seven times a day, thinking that it will not retrain them. The truth of the matter is there are a lot of men today who are no longer able to function with a woman. And I hear this all the time in the seminars. Guys who come to me, women who come to me who tell me their husbands cannot perform. There are a lot of men today who cannot perform with a woman at a guy call our office he says man, he said I can have sex with my wife for hours. Nothing ever happens. Incapable of achieving an orgasm, but he can do it by himself. Oh, that's great. Oh, that's that's one yeah, let's let's let's get all our kids doing that. Let's let's get them doing that. He went to the doctor to find out what was wrong with him and he was diagnosed it's not a joke. Seriously TMS. The doctor said you have TMS is called traumatic masturbatory syndrome. It's actually reconditioned his penis to a certain type of stimulation. It won't respond to a real woman.

Why do we thinking and you know, are really fries my Puerto Rican pancakes? Is when they say well, this this is how you can achieve orgasm. you masturbate until you achieve orgasm and they tie the words masturbation and orgasm together. They are crazy. You cannot achieve an orgasm through masturbation. You can ejaculating you can have something physically happened to you, but it is not an orgasm. an orgasm is when you're making love to a woman and you reach your peak and endorphins are released into your bloodstream and every cell in your body stands up and grabs the hand of the sun  next one goes hallelujah. That is an orgasm. Almost universally, people report that when they masturbate, they immediately feel the opposite. Icky, dirty or are guilty. And psychologists have been telling us for decades now. You don't have to feel guilty about masturbate. It's fine. I know Christian pastors who tell their young you don't have to feel guilty about masturbating. It's fine. I know psychology. You don't have to feel guilty. It's fine. I'll tell you what, you can fool your mind. But you will never ever ever fool your body. And there are a lot of men today I believe who have never achieved an orgasm. They ejaculate. That's all they do they so train there. You cannot get your body doing this over and over and over again and think you can function normally. Or they're training our bodies to ejaculate. They never really achieve an orgasm. Oh, that's great. Oh, that's that's, that's wonderful. Yeah, let's let's get all our kids doing that. The misinformation our kids are getting today, a lot of you have gotten it. But dear God, our kids are getting it in spades. The misinformation is going to wreck their sex lives has the potential to wreck their sex lives for the rest of their lives. And nobody is telling you what I'm telling you right now.

Most preachers don't like talking about this stuff. It freaks him out. As you can tell, I have no such problem. And I understand that, but we have got to start talking about this stuff. We're trying to in the church, we're trying to win an argument where we only let the other side talk. We're trying to win a war where we only let the other side have bullets. And we wonder why 50% of the men in our congregations have sexual addictions. That's the number 50% in our congregations, church going men, sexual addictions. You have to understand something. Pornography will rob you of great sex. See every man there reason why it's such a temptation is because we think it's great sex. Oh, we want to check out that baby. Oh, if we get on the line, I'll have greater sex to have greater sex. That's what sucks us in with a promise of great sex.

But it is a lie. I promise you. The more you do it, you know the ones of you who do it. The more you do it, the opposite happens. They are lying to you. I'm telling you the lies that this generation has faced and is continuing to face along sexual information. There are so many blatant lies along this line. We have lost our minds in this country. It is destroying people's lives. You know, one of the biggest problems we're having today in America, sexless marriages. Sex Appeal out don't want to have sex. Don't have to have sex. have sex with themselves? Well, that's great. Yeah. I was trade in a real woman for fantasy one little diagram I gave you last night. Got the heart and the smiley face. And that motivates that? When you masturbate that breaks the system. I'd be nice to her. Pay attention to her. So self centered men, lazy for a quick release become lovers to themselves instead of lovers of women. As the sad stuff. What do you tell our teenagers tell them to wait they want to die? No one has ever died from lack of ejaculation. And there's a lot of misinformation about that people talk about this condition called blue ball and not to drag grossie out but that's what I have women. Well, what about my son? Well, once again, blue balls they don't mask? No they won't. That's one of the biggest urban myths out there are. It's the most ridiculous bunch of nonsense.

There is a condition like that. But it has nothing to do with ejaculation. Nothing it has to do with being overstimulated for a long period of time. And the answer is just quit being so stimulating. Go back to normal. It is not a chronic condition. You're gonna walk around portrait for the rest of your life if you don't masturbate. There's never been a morgue anywhere in the world. We're on a toad said cause of death, failure to ejaculate. Biggest bunch of lies, we're not animals, your kids are not animals. You know, the difference between an animal and a human being is we can say no, we have control over ourselves. We live in a culture where the idea of having control over yourself is ludicrous. It's absurd. There's people who hear this video who go Oh, I can't believe he's saying that what false information, what false information? I speak at these things all around the country. You know, every once a while I get into one of these scenarios where these experts are there. And I tell them just what I think. And it just freaks the willies out of them. And they get well. Where's your proof? Where's our problem? I'll give you my proof.

So, so ignorant. Like we need to prove this. We need to prove this. Some things are so obvious. Like, where's your proof that oxygen is good for your lungs? So I attempt to prove it to them. Let's start with our scientific explanation, shall we? Let's assume that A a turned on woman, plus B a turned on man, equals the best possible sex. Okay. Are you okay with that seem logical? For some reason, this is like whoa. I never heard such a thing, to these experts. I mean, come on. If you don't have a turned on, man, kind of hard to have really great sex. If you don't have it turned on woman kind of hard to have really great sex, so we can at least agree you need a turn on woman and a turn on man to have great sex. Yes, we were there. Okay. All right. Now let me take a little survey here. About pornography. Ladies, if you, and you have to remember these experts, these therapists, these nitwits, I call it actually use this stuff in therapeutic ways. It's prescriptive. Pornography is prescriptive, this will improve your sex lives. So let me ask you ladies, if you knew your husband had just been watching pornography and wanted to use you to satisfy himself while thinking about that other woman, how many of you that would make you feel very sexual and turned on? Let me see your hands? Okay. We'll call that, zero. High percentages to some people. So why you can't do that. You're not gonna ask women if they're turned on that that's, that's they'll never raise their hand that that will never work. This is improper. Okay. Let me change the question. If you knew your husband only thought about you and treated you like the only woman in the world without thinking about any other women. How many that would make you feel sexual returned on let me see your hand. Also, women will raise their hands.

Alright, alright, come on. I wanna see your hands again. I gotta get a count. Okay, well, we'll call that, lots. Now for our formula for these experts who need proof. All right, I have checked with some of the greatest mathematical minds in the country, some graduates of MIT, and have determined after repeated and at length discussions, that lots is greater than, zero. Brilliant, truly brilliant. So we know now that porn results in a turned off, woman. Well, right there, you got yourself a problem. If women are turned off by this idea of her husband fantasizing, then their prescription for porn to improve their sex lives is pure unadulterated baloney. Because as soon as you remote you can get to the best possible sex. Right? And I do this for 1000s of people. I have yet to have a solitary woman go, Oh, yeah, that'd be great. And I'm sure there must be one or two out there. But this is so lopsided, it blows one's mind. So blind are these people that the Emperor is walking around naked? Oh, why not? But we've learned that we know that repeat foreign exposure results in a diminished mail. And I'm telling you, these people are starting to notice this, their are getting writings of people and secular magazines, liberal magazines are complaining, you know, hey, men are not able to perform this is impacting men physically, they're not able to perform as a result of this stuff. I know of men I know of ministers, who while they're making love to their wives insist on having a dirty magazine open next to them so they can stay stimulated while making love to their wives. You can imagine how wonderful that makes her feel. Why do they have to do that? Because they cannot maintain an erection if they don't see that. That is the addictive power of this thing. And these people think this is this is good sex. This is great sex. So we know that repeat porn exposure results in a diminished male. Well, what's the scientific sign for a diminished male? If this is a scientific sign for a normal male? This would be the scientific sign, for a diminished male.

Video Transcript: Sex Is What Men want From Women - Dr. Mark Gungor 

Now sex is a pretty big issue, particularly for men. For us, our sexual interest peaks at about age 18, and then goes down from there. So if you were to chart it out, it would look like something like this, it peaks at about age 18, 

and then goes down. 

And then you're dead. 

Something's important for women to understand when it comes to this area, we're no longer driven so much by our brains or by our hearts, but it's by a chemical. It's called testosterone. And it runs through our blood. It runs through our blood, and it drives us crazy. If you girls knew how much this drove us crazy, you'd be more disgusted with us than you are right now. We downplay it man. And I'm telling you, and as funny as this little chart is, and as true as it is for so many men, if for some reason, as a man ages, his testosterone levels begin to decline, his interest in sex will start to decline. And if it is, testosterone level drops dramatically. His interest will go way down, same head, same heart, same guy, and I was not interested in sex. You treat that man, it's very easy to do with testosterone supplements. And boom, he's the same wild man you married. Same head, same heart, same guy, now he's come here, baby. Alright. So this is not because we're sickles. It's not because we're perverts. It's not because we're broken. God wired us this way. And he did it on purpose. What was that? I'm going to show you in a minute, but you just need to really understand this. And the truth is, when we get this rush of testosterone, it just messes with us. Now, for the love of God. Don't raise your hands. But most men will admit that we usually receive a testosterone rush usually very early in the morning. And for no reason at all. Dun dun dun dun dun, attention. And then just wakes us up, and we're not thinking about anything. All right. And that's usually when a man reaches over and whispers those three words every woman loves to hear. Hey, you awake.