Slides: Holy Masturbation

Holy Masturbation by Henry Reyenga

The Message

God created our sexuality to be completed in the marriage worldview and marriage bed.  

Single Christians – Masturbation may have a role keeping sexuality in the marriage narrative and remaining in it whatever the situation.  

Married Christians - Masturbation may serve intimacy, it does not replace it. 

Masturbation is a beneficial thing, not just a release to keep us from evil actions. 

Hebrews 13:4     Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.

Your Sexuality Belongs to God

Pray and discern that your sexuality belongs to God and not yourself. Even your sexual desire is a creation of your creator. You were made to be fruitful and multiply. You were hardwired with hormonal support to express yourself sexually. All of this is beautiful and not shameful. What is shameful is lust in your heart for a person who is not your spouse. 

Masturbate in a Marriage Narrative

In the one man – one woman marriage worldview as your cisgender character. 

Genesis 1:27     So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them.

Hebrews 13:4     Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.

Holy Masturbation Encouragments:

1. Masturbate in the Beauty of Male and Female Identity and Fantasy

For singles? For married? 

Proverbs 5:19     A loving doe, a graceful deer—may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be captivated by her love.

Song 1:13     My lover is to me a sachet of myrrh resting between my breasts.

Song 7:8-9     I said, “I will climb the palm tree; I will take hold of its fruit.” May your breasts be like the clusters of the vine, the fragrance of your breath like apples, and your mouth like the best wine. May the wine go straight to my lover, flowing gently over lips and teeth.

2. Masturbate with Learning and Development 

Learn how to develop a holy view of sexuality while you learn about your own sexuality. 

Pornography and masturbation are a sinful twisted cocktail. 

Ecclesiastes 1:15     What is twisted cannot be straightened;

Masturbate with Thoughts of Loving Actions

Luke 8:15    But the seed on good soil stands for those with a noble and good heart, who hear the word, retain it, and by persevering produce a crop.

Philippians 4:8     Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.

3. Masturbate with Chastity 

Without pornography

Without thinking about someone who is not your opposite sex spouse

Within a marriage fantasy 

Matthew 5:28     But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.

4. Masturbate with Moderation

1 Corinthians 6:12     “Everything is permissible for me”—but not everything is beneficial. “Everything is permissible for me”—but I will not be mastered by anything.

2 Peter 2:19    They promise them freedom, while they themselves are slaves of depravity—for a man is a slave to whatever has mastered him.

5. Masturbate Finding Pleasure in God’s Design 

The body is good. Pleasure is good. 

Proverbs 10:23     A fool finds pleasure in evil conduct, but a man of understanding delights (finds pleasure) in wisdom (conduct).

6. Masturbate with Grace without Shame

Psalms 103:2-5    Praise the LORD, O my soul, and forget not all his benefits — who forgives all your sins and heals all your diseases, who redeems your life from the pit and crowns you with love and compassion, who satisfies your desires with good things so that your youth is renewed like the eagle’s.

7. Masturbate Glorifying God

The point of masturbation is not pleasure itself. Even though sexual release is pleasurable, our sexuality is about glorifying God and his design for creation, for marriage, and for our role as a holy image bearer of God.

1 Timothy 5:6     But the widow who lives for pleasure is dead even while she lives.