Video Transcript: Self-Awareness

And this agenda of self awareness starts out with a Bible passage, looking at basically how self image is how we see ourselves. And really, we are image bearers of God. And we want our clients to see that from the very beginning. When when someone begins that process, they have to have the confidence to look at themselves in a self aware way as an image bearer of God in process, and have a curiosity about making some changes, a curiosity about knowing what their true values are. 

So in this section in, you'll notice that it's going to be about identifying values, beliefs, and preferences. Learn about communication style, what's their communication style, understanding their attachment style. Attachment style is the way of understanding how people relate to each other in close relationships. 

There are three main attachment styles, anxious, avoidant, insecure. In this section, the matchmaker minister will help the client understand that they're attaching themselves, they will help the client understand how they relate to others, and how they can improve their relationship. 

So what are the ancient anxious, avoidant, insecure, those attachment styles are something that you can read about in an article here. But that would be an example of how as a matchmaker Minister, you want someone to basically be self aware about that. So that when they relate to others, this is one of the things that come out of social sciences that in taken from a god glorifying way can be very helpful. That's what we why we call it ministry sciences here. 

But that would have been an example of, of helping your client be self aware, maybe of their strengths and weaknesses. Because knowing their strengths or weaknesses, if you know your basic weaknesses, you may connect to someone who is strong in that area. And two people can be better than one when they don't fight those differences. So this whole section will be going through that liturgy. 

So that first half hour, you're dealing with that type of liturgy, there's some Bible say there's some prayer, there's some teaching, and then that next time remaining time you have, maybe we'll talk about these styles, attachment styles, what discussion comes out of that will be a blessing as you serve your clients to develop in their self awareness. You know, I look at four decades of ministry. And I see how self awareness is so critical. 

If someone is not able to sort of look at themselves, through the eyes of the word of bad to the eyes of other people. Those people are very unteachable. And they're very difficult to help. I would say that some of my mistakes, if I look back at what I've learned, is when I thought that someone will come around, and I was trying to save them, so to speak, but they weren't yielding yet to the Holy Spirit. God is the one who saves we don't. 

But I sort of like imbued upon them, that they were, you know, changing, and I would see little things that they did as change, but really, they never really surrendered into that self aware mode. And that says a matchmaker minister, I would say it's very important to communicate love when you prepare to meet with someone, and to find your light soul partner. One of the critical aspects of a long term relationship is how you can be self aware how you can be sensitive how you can put yourself second how you can love have them as you love yourself and those are those ways in which a matchmaker minister can come alongside and bring transformation and growth to those they're ministering to.