Video Transcript: Safe People - Cloud and Townsend

Unsafe people think they “Have It All Together,” instead of admitting their weaknesses.

Unsafe people are religious instead of spiritual.

Unsafe people are defensive instead of open to feedback.

Unsafe people are self-righteous instead of humble.

Unsafe people only apologize instead of changing their behavior.

Unsafe people avoid working on their problems instead of dealing with them.

Unsafe people demand trust instead of earning it.

Unsafe people believe they are perfect instead of admitting their faults.

Unsafe people blame others instead of taking responsibility.

Unsafe people lie instead of telling the truth.  Everyone has lied; however, a Safe Person will own their lie and see it as a problem to change.

Unsafe people are stagnant instead of growing.  Safe People know they are subject to change, they want to grow and mature over time. Unsafe people do not see their own problems; they are rigidly fixed & not subject to growth.

Unsafe people avoid closeness instead of connecting.

Unsafe people are only concerned about “I” instead of “We.”

Unsafe people resist freedom instead of encouraging it

Unsafe people flatter us instead of confronting us.

Unsafe people condemn us instead of forgiving us.

Unsafe people stay in Parent/Child roles, instead of relating as equals.

Unsafe people are unstable over time, instead of being consistent.

Unsafe people are a negative influence instead of a positive one

Unsafe people gossip instead of keeping secrets.

God is there with you, empowering you to do what achieves His ends.

Address the issues of today rather than obsessing about yesterday or hoping for rescue tomorrow.

Holding on to the baggage of the past will disable you for your journey with God.

Your journey with God will be richer, more fulfilling, and more successful if you surround yourself with people who are committed to support you.

Don’t ask God to get rid of your problems, and don’t merely tolerate them.  Welcome them as gifts and you will find God’s way through them.  View your problems as the next steps of growth for you.

We change our behavior when the pain of staying the same becomes greater than the pain of changing.  Consequences give us the pain that motivates us to change.

The sad thing is that many of us come to Christ because we are sinners, and then spend the rest of our lives trying to pretend that we are not.

There are some people whose desire it is to hurt others and do destructive things. And with them, you have to protect yourself, your company, your loved ones and anything that matters to you.

You cannot fix people who will not take feedback, because from their perspective, they do not have a problem.