Notes: Building a Sustainable Romance: A Biblical Perspective

Building a Sustainable Romance: A Biblical Perspective 

Henry and Pam Reyenga

To explore biblical principles for cultivating a lasting and loving romantic relationship.


Understanding how scripture guides us in romancing our partners and maintaining healthy boundaries.

Tips for Romancing a Woman

Cherish her: Show appreciation and honor.

Protect her: Provide emotional and spiritual support.

Understand her: Listen actively and empathize with her feelings.

Ephesians 5:25-28 - Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her... In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.

Tips for Romancing a Man

Respect him: Acknowledge his efforts and strengths.

Encourage him: Be his partner in dreams and ambitions.

Appreciate him: Value his uniqueness and contributions to the relationship.

Proverbs 31:11-12 - Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.

Navigating Relationship Boundaries 

Set healthy limits: Discuss and agree on physical and emotional boundaries.

Honor purity: Encourage each other to maintain integrity.

Foster trust: Boundaries are foundations for a secure and trusting partnership.

Song of Solomon 2:7  Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you by the gazelles and by the does of the field: Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires.

Navigating the Imperfections 

Embrace grace: Accept that both partners are imperfect and in need of grace.

Practice forgiveness: Let go of minor offenses and seek reconciliation.

Cultivate patience: Understand that growth and change take time.

Colossians 3:12-14 Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive one another... And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.

Further Resources

Suggested Readings:

The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman

Sacred Marriage by Gary Thomas

Bible Study:

Suggest a couple’s Bible study plan focusing on love and relationships.

Contact Information:

Provide ways to reach out for further counseling or discussions.