Notes: Preparing for Engagement, Betrothal, and Marriage: A Biblical Guide

Preparing for Engagement, Betrothal, and Marriage: A Biblical Guide

Henry and Pam Reyenga

Considerations for a couple preparing for engagement and marriage


Equipping couples with biblical insights for a strong and lasting union.

Discussing These Essentials - Finances, Family Planning, and Roles 

Financial Stewardship: Discuss managing finances together with wisdom and prudence.

Family Planning: Pray and plan for children, aligning with GodÕs will for your family.

Roles in Marriage: Understand and agree upon the roles and responsibilities within a future sustainable relationship.

Proverbs 24:27 - Put your outdoor work in order and get your fields ready; after that, build your house.

Preparing for Engagement: Navigating Conflict with Biblical Wisdom 

Communication: Foster open and honest dialogue, listening first and speaking with kindness.

Navigate Conflict: Employ biblical principles to resolve disagreements amicably.

Forgiveness: Extend grace and forgiveness as the foundation for reconciliation.

James 1:19-20  My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires.

Discerning Red Flags in a Relationship 

Awareness: Recognize and address behaviors that may be harmful to a future marriage.

Counsel: Seek wisdom from trusted mentors and spiritual leaders when in doubt.

Decision Making: Be prepared to make difficult decisions for the health of the relationship.

Proverbs 22:3 - The prudent see danger and take refuge, but the simple keep going and pay the penalty.

Engagement or Betrothal Ceremony 

Commitment: Understand the commitment of betrothal as a promise before God to enter into marriage.

Celebration: Honor this step with a ceremony that reflects the coupleÕs values and faith.

Community: Involve family, friends, and faith community to witness and support the commitment.

Genesis 24:58 - So they called Rebekah and asked her, 'Will you go with this man?' She said, 'I will go.'

Deciding for Engagement: A Guide for the Couple 

Unity: Encourage couples to make decisions together, under God’s guidance.

Prayer: Prioritize prayer in the decision-making process, seeking clarity and peace.

Confirmation: Look for God’s confirmation through His Word, peace in your hearts, and counsel from wise believers.

Ecclesiastes 4:12 - Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.

Further Resources 

Recommended Reading:

“The Meaning of Marriage” by Timothy Keller

“Before You Say 'I Do'” by Norman Wright