Video Transcript: Communication Objective: Team Building
All right, hope you're ready for the next session hope that it's going well, I want to encourage you keep going, you can do it. Rah, rah rah. We're in the effective communication class. And the the objective of communication for this session is learning how to communicate team building communicate in such a way that builds teams. There's a paradigm shift in communication, I think, especially if we're thinking of sermons. But I think it's, it's true in almost every area of communication, the old paradigm in the past, if I were to use the computer language, or the internet language, it's down loading people with Down load, I am the speaker, I'm the one doing the communication. And my job is to download information to you. You come and I download this thing. So in the past, sermons were very, you're standing behind a pulpit, it's very formal. All of you people are sitting in in the pews. And your job is to sit there and listen. And if I were to ask a question, you know, say 50 years ago, everyone understands, it's just a rhetorical question. I'm not as actually asking a question that I want you to answer. So it's a very download thing, you come, and I download this information. In the past, you know, the, the, the, the boss of the company, he would just download what he wants to do. This is what I want all of you to do. And now you go do it. I understand that in some cultures, it's still that way. It's sort of a top down organizational structure in almost any endeavor. And the one in charge just tells people what he wants them to do. It's a download mentality. But that has been changing. That was sort of the old paradigm, and maybe you're still in the culture, or maybe this is still how you operate. But I'm telling you, it's the old paradigm. And a lot of times, a new paradigm gets started. At the bottom end of the old paradigm, so if you want to get on board with the new thing, you have to think more team building number two the present. If I want to use the same computer language, it's uploading. Okay, the old system was download, you come to me and I download information to you. But now people are living in an up load. World, Facebook, for example, I don't know if you have it in your culture, but it's all over the world. People have a Facebook page, and they upload, they upload a picture of themselves. That's a selfie. They upload what they did today, or some interesting thing that they came across, I want to tell you something, people are up loading YouTube, and I made this video and I'm going to share it with the world. It's upload. So people want to upload more than they used to. They don't want to just sit there and be downloaded to they want to be they want to be involved in it. It's more of a team exercise today. dynamics of the size of the audience. You know, just to illustrate more, this whole new paradigm, this paradigm shifts in one on one conversation. And this has always been true in a one on one conversation. If I were to come and have a conversation with you, and the only thing I do is download. I'm going to do all the talking. I'm going to inform you of stuff. After five minutes of someone just talking constantly to you. It gets really awkward. Because in a one on one situation, that that the feeling or the understanding is that you're gonna say
something and then I'm gonna say something, and then you're gonna say, and we're gonna have a conversation. That's how it goes with one on one situations. That's the expectation. If it doesn't go that way, people start feeling uncomfortable. Number two, a small group. Maybe you've done small group Bible studies in a small group Bible study. If someone stood up at the table and just gave a 20 minute sermon, without anyone saying anything, it would be really awkward and strange and be like what's going on here? Because when there's 10 People sitting together in a cozy situation, the idea is that we're going to have an exchange. You know, maybe I'm the leader, and maybe, you know, I'm dominating, I'm giving more information than others, because I've prepared this thing. But I fully expect people to participate. And people expect to participate. The size of the group just demands, participation. Small church services. So if you have a small church or 50, 60 people, a person can get away with standing up. And speaking for 20 minutes, because the group is big enough, where people expect that that might happen. But a lot of times, it's the prayer time people want to contribute, they want to say something. In a small church, people want to say more, it's not as it's not threatening to get up and speak in front of 6, 60 people. So the dynamic of a small group is, is of such when I planted a church in Vancouver, we started out with 10. And then we had 60 people, when we had 60 people and I had a prayer time, and I will take prayer requests, and people freely said things, and, and we can manage it. We weren't so many people that that that we didn't you know that we could manage the number of requests and people talking and such. But number four large churches service. So once you get over 100 200 300 people, now, when you have prayer time, if you open it up, you know, if everyone participated, it would take forever. And what happens is the people that like to talk in front of 400, people start dominating the whole thing. And it doesn't really work. So what happens, as churches get bigger, as the group you're talking to gets bigger, the more is the expectation that one person is going to do more of the talking and take more ownership of it. And so that's what's happened. Okay. So the larger the church, the more formal the situation, the more one person does all the talking. The smaller the group, the more people expect to contribute to the conversation. Now, what's happening is that dynamic of uploading, okay, people are uploading on the internet all the time. And so the expect expectation, or the desire is to do more uploading, and how does that work in a large church, you have 400 people you can't have 400 people uploading all the time. So what do you do? How to approximate the small group dynamic in a large group coming in communication? People want more of an upload feel to things, but it's hard to do in a larger group. So how do you? How do you give the illusion or the approximation of the small thing in the large things and there's ways to communicate team number one, use informal one on one language. When you talk one on one with a person, you just use ordinary language, you just talk. You
don't use big words that people don't understand. I remember my first job as a youth pastor, I went to this church, and I met in the pastor's office, and he was like seventy years old. And they were interviewing me for the job. And it was just him and myself and one other person in this office, there's just three of us. And he stood up, and he prayed, like, there were 3000 people there uses all these big words. And it was like, thou, Lord, in the kingdoms in the inner, there's just three of us here. It just felt awkward. Well, if you use big words, and you know, things that people don't understand, in a large group situation, you're keeping them at a distance. If you use just ordinary words, you say things like you would, when you're talking to two people, it feels smaller, even though it's a larger group. Number two, use informal one on one volume and voice inflection. If you're speaking to a large group, the tendency is to speak like Billy Graham, welcome, people. God is good. And you know, you're like a politician out there and shouting and putting your hands up. If you were talking to one person, you wouldn't be doing that. Hey, how are you today? You just say hey, how are you? So in the past, you had to do these kinds of things. You know, loud voices. and so on, because there wasn't a mic system, there wasn't a speaker system. So you had to project in your had to say things in a particular manner so that people can hear. But now people can hear if you whisper. So talk like you would to one person, if you talk like, you're talking to one person, it will feel like you're talking to them. So after a Sunday service, for example, I have people that will come up and say, you were talking right to me. And you know why they feel that way? Because I was, I wasn't talking to 400 people, I was talking to him and her, I look right at you and say something. Because that's what you would do in an informal conversation. It feels smaller that way. Don't read from a script, look, people in the eyes, if you're looking and reading your sermon, and then the Lord said this, and then what we need to do in our marriages is really care. You know, it's, there's a disconnect, there's like a plate glass between the speaker and the people. But if you want to communicate to people, you need to look right in the I need to talk about God in your marriage. The person that you're married to is the most important person in the entire world. And what habits do you have together, see if I want to say something like that, I going to be looking right at you. If I was communicating to you, I wouldn't be reading some script. If I had like three people in a room. I wouldn't be reading this thing with my eyes down. I'd be looking right at you. Eyes meeting eyes is more informal. Ask questions ask questions. Not rhetorical questions, but questions you really want someone to answer. I'll do this in my service all the time. I'll step down from the pulpit area. And I'll say, you know, why do you think most people don't go to church? Anyone? See, when I really want someone to answer something, I go anyone? Hey, I need an answer here. I'm not just asking a rhetorical question. Now, there's some risk in that because you might have a crazy person who says something really crazy. And you have to learn how to deal with that. But I ask
questions, and I want people to answer them. Sometimes I'll say, you know, I'm going to ask you a question. And I want you to write down the answer. Just write down your answer just real quick, on your bulletin. And then I'll say, who's willing to share what they wrote? I need three people. Because I don't have time for 20
people. I need three, okay, you okay? How to approximate the small group dynamic in a large group communication, number five, use group participation exercises. I want to communicate what faith is. All right. I want all of you to stand up. So everyone stands up. I want you to close your eyes. Everyone closes their eyes. I want you to fold your hands. Everyone fold their hands. Okay, I want you to sit down into the chair you just stood up from without touching it. And people with their hands closed, they can't see the chair that they're like, Okay, oh, that where is it? Exactly. That's hard. Okay. It's hard, even though they know the chairs there. Again, that's like faith. Faith is, you know, God is there. But your eyes are closed, and you can't see. And so you sit down, and I said not do it again. And they do it again. But this time, it's easier. Why? Because they just did it. And they know the chair is there. And that's what faith is like. As you work your faith. See, I'm getting everyone involved in something, they're doing something, they're they're feeling like we're in this together. If possible, give free speech work for your audience to do. So sometimes I'll email everyone. This is what I want you to bring a rock to church, then I won't, then I'll talk about it. And then I you know, and then sometimes I give post speech work that requires the audience to give their feedback at some point, I want you to take this rock, I want you to put it in your pocket for two weeks. Keep it there. And every time this particular thing happens, I want you to reach in and grab that rock that will talk about it in two weeks. Number eight, get people in your audience to contribute to your speech. Okay, so I talked about my sermon during the week, and I'm looking for people to share a story. You know, this happened to me, you know, I read the passage for today because we have we have passages to read every single day. And this is what happened I went to the hospital and this thing happened. I say, Could you tell that sorry for our sermon next Sunday. Use material and or stories of people in your audience that you have gathered ahead of time. There's all the people in your congregation if of all these experiences, instead of you trying to figure out your own story, and you have all these people that have stories that have not been told, people are sick of your stories, maybe let them tell their stories. How to create a sense of team with any communication. Uss we more than I or you. Hey, what you need to do see, that separates me from you. What we all need to do see now we're a team. We're in this together. I'm not telling you what to do. And I'm not saying I think this, don't we think this isn't this, how most of us operate? Let's be together on this. As I'm preaching to you, it's not here's what I think I'm telling you. Isn't this what we all think? Isn't this what you read in your Bible? See, we're in this together? Didn't we study this together? I'm not the expert downloading to you. We're all experts,
aren't we? And I'm sort of gathering all of this for all of us. Make your challenge speeches applicable to the whole group. I'm not talking to this 10% of the people I'm talking to the children, I need to say something about, you know, if I'm, if I'm trying to apply something I talk about, you know, when you're in school, there's that one guy that no one likes to play with. Maybe it's your role to go and speak to them, in your marriage, in your family, at your workplace. In the social situations, you find yourself in your neighborhood, I'm mentioning all these places. So that you can we're in this together. It's always a community. Make your conference speeches applicable to the whole group said that make your encouraging speeches applicable to the whole group. That's what I was just doing. Team verses, I Corinthians 12:12, 27. Just as a body, though one has many parts. But all of its many parts form one body, so it is with Christ. Now you are the body of Christ. And each one of you is a part of it. See, I'm not standing here, the only guy that reads the Bible and prays to God has relationship with him, and I'm downloading stuff on you because we're all doing this. The way I look at my job on Sunday morning with a sermon is I'm the guy who gets to sort of pull all the parts together. I'm not doing it myself. I'm doing it with you, not to you. Okay, how do you communicate that? Ephesians 4:11-16. So Christ Himself gave the apostles the prophets, the evangelists, the pastors and teachers, why to equip these people for works of service, so that the body of Christ may be built up until we all reach a unity together in the faith, and in the knowledge of the Son of God and become mature attaining to the whole measure of the fullness of Christ, then we will no longer be infants, tossed back and forth by the waves. Why? Because we're together. Christ, the head, we're the body, we're not going to be easily pushed around, and blown here there by every wind of teaching, and by cunning and craftiness of people in the deceitful scheming. Instead speaking the truth in love, we will grow all this we, we will grow to become an ever respect, mature of him, who is the head that is Christ from him, the whole body joined in, held together by every supporting ligament grows and builds itself up in love, as each part does. Its work. That's the church, each part doing its work. If you're going to lead in church, especially, you need to communicate that we're in this together. If you're always downloading, I'm the smart one. I'm going to tell all of you stuff. You're not building the body. You're separating yourself from the body. Christ is the head, and we all together are the body. I want you to feel like you're a part of this. I am. I'm leading this thing. But all that means is I have the privilege of gathering all the brilliance in all that God is doing in each of our lives and pulling it together. The service is the culmination have all the talking and listening to God, all the prayers, all the Bible reading all the things that happened during the week. It's the culmination of all of us together walking with God. And we come together, we give praise to God. It's not a downloading thing. And I think if you took that attitude, everywhere you go, all your relationships, if you go to work, and you're downloading on people they
resent it, communicate, togetherness to keep communicate, we're in this together. And we need each other, I have gifts, you have gifts, and all of it makes it work, communicate in the workplace, communicate it in your social, social situations, in church, doesn't matter where you are, what you're doing, communicate this whole idea of being on a team. So my assignment for you today is to do that. What teams identify the teams in your life and how do you communicate in such a way that builds the team and not divides the team. We'll see you next time.