Reading: Family System Assessments (The Video Slides)

Family System Assessments

Prof. Henry Reyenga

 
There are Reasons for Every Behavior

1. Alternative Communications

2. Actions Speak Louder

3. The before and after events of current communication have bearing on future Communication

4. Families develop unique communication styles that fit their temperaments

5. Barriers go up during misunderstandings

6. Family Genograms affect Communication

7. Outside-the-family rules affect Communications too

Why Lies Beneath Communication or Even Conflict

• What you really think, feel and believe are hidden in your actions.

•  A Teen Pregnancy For Instance

 Every Family Member Has a Different Understanding of the Family

• Each personality has different understanding of communication, both verbal and non-verbal

• Tailor make your communication style to who you are connecting to…

Life Experience

•  Good and Bad Experiences of the past influences how we view people and communicate with them.

Self- Awareness Promotes Understanding Others

• Knowing yourself allows you to more effectively communicate

• Untruthful self hurts your communication

Emotions are Good

1. God made them
2. Emotions need to be in balance
3. Each person must learn to understand basic emotional language

 
Functions of Emotions

Understanding the underlying message

1. Anger

Positives: Standing up for righteous cause, Boundary Alert System, Hormonal alert system

Negatives: Hurt Externalized, Past hurts, Beginning of bitter root, Boundary Broken, Abuse

2. Jealously

Positives: Need for Affirmation

Negatives: Can promote hostility and obsession

3. Guilt

Positives: Needed Remorse, and forgiveness

Negatives: Too hard on self, bringing depression and hopelessness

4. Pride

Positives: Personal Accomplishment, Desire to Excel

Negatives: Selfish, Too High Ego, Diminished importance of others

5. Worry

Positives: Genuine Concern, Protectiveness

Negatives: Irrational fears and paranoia and the people we worry about may feel smothered. Causes health issues.

Functions of Emotions

Instead of a usual response of, “Just don’t feel that way!” Encourage the individual more along the lines of, “Bring these emotions into balance.”

Connection Walk with God

Case Study

New Marriage:

Man- Stuffing Emotions

Woman- Transparent Emotions

Understand the Blue and Pink Divide